Myth: Time Heals All Wounds (Spoiler: It Doesn't)

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There is a common saying that all your well-meaning friends and family will toss around when they hear that you are going through a breakup: Time heals all wounds.

And a lot of people think that this is true.

But it isn't true at all.

The truth is that time, by itself, does not heal all wounds and it won't help you feel better after a breakup.

What actually helps you feel better after a breakup is a focused effort on healing from the pain of the breakup.

I've known people who have been struggling with a breakup for months or even years (and I once talked to another breakup coach who said that one of his clients was still struggling with an old breakup over 30 years later).

Time does not heal all wounds. Focusing on healing, heals all wounds.

If you've gone through a breakup, then one of the best things you can do for healing is to improve your level of self-love.

[destinylaughs]

Hey Clay!!
Just guide with this situation, that if a non working husband has a tendency of leaving his wife for now reasons for months or the longest (11months with no contact) and stays with his mother
What does this signifies, and above all after 11months, all off a sudden he calls but when I contact him and text him he doesn't replies... What is this all about

[JuanLopez-spvc]

That's b.s it does it takes time.
Unless you want to live you life miserable.

[netabolt]

i'm actually afraid to get a date because of the fact i cant let her go and i am always afraid that it was a missed chance and that i never get someone beatifull like her, even though i never dated her. so its kind of unrequited love wich is getting me to the point of Giving up on love. unrequited love led me to depression, even though nobody like to support me in my Drinking Habbits depression. even my psychiatrist doesnt believe its depression. he said its just sadness and that it goes away. also, i am that kind of guy you were talking about, where the guy couldnt let her go for thirty years. although to me its just almost six years. i cant let her go and i'm too sad to try falling in love again. i hate that feeling and because of this unrequited love heartbreak i never want to fall inlove again. it drives my psychotic (thinking that she's always behind me and looking at everything what i do, i guess thats kind of pyschotic right?!) and brings me Selfharm. so fuck love, kill love before its too late.



i'm sorry if that last sentence was kind of dark, but you get the point, i'm on that cicle that everything that reminds me of love makes me hurt my heart. but since psychiatrist said its not depression, then what is it? grieve? she's not dead so it cant be grieve right?!

[MCrafter]

He left me after 2 years 3 months. I sent so many text messages because it all happened in a blink of an eye.
He said he didn’t like the ultimatum I gave him when we first started dating. I told him I don’t want to be with someone longer then 2 years without a ring on my finger. So he left me after 2 years 3 months. He kept tell me soon he would propose and never did.
Then he writes to me saying “Time will heal all wounds”.

I’m so hurt. Confused.
I stopped texting him after he wrote “time heals all wounds”