Russell Brand On The Fear Of Missing Out!

Do you ever get FOMO? Why?

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[coachbahman]

Fear of missing out is also the undervalueing of your own quality of life and unrest within the solitude of your own mind.

[willherondale]

As a teenager living in a social media world, I experience FOMO a lot, for the various parties I see my peers at on Instagram and snapchat. I think I've identified that the sadness comes from the feeling of not being included rather than whatever the actual party is. We demand connection and kinship and friends and whether or not you are invited to these things is a pretty visceral measurement of whether you are part of that group or an outsider.

[marylayhew]

When I was in active addiction and before I started meditation as a practice. My "FOMO" was almost overwhelming. I always wanted to be "cool". I found that the more I went the more alone I felt. Robin Williams said something like "Don't be afraid of being alone, be afraid of being around people who make you feel alone". That hit me hard. Love these videos. Sending love from Tennessee Russell.❤

[VioletSky]

This is so damn true! I always felt throughout high school and college that I was missing out on parties and going out but then once I actually got invited to one once I HATED it! I was thinking to myself "...This is it??? This is what everyone has been raving about for so many years?!?"

I sat alone not saying anything almost the entire time, wanting desperately to leave and go home to watch TV or catch-up on reading. That FOMO on partying and socializing part of culture is seriously overhyped

[je]

“The answer is to address the sadness” - that’s powerful.

[Tassycrafty]

I saw the title and thought :’ I do not have this FOMO thing- is that normal?’ I am an introvert and I actually do not care what people are up to as long as I can stay in and do my art. Im so glad you said that fomo is an illusion. 🙏🏼

[MrKubahades]

Those short videos are really nice and insightful

[manfrombritain]

OK BUT WHATS THE SADNESS WITHIN ME? my life's going pretty well... i've finished my first book and am about to start approaching agents. i train martial arts 4 days a week and i love it, and love the people. i go to gigs and i jam music with friends. i'm self-educating to upgrade my career. i eat well and feel healthy. the only thing i'm currently missing is a romantic partner but i went on some dates over the last couple of months and wasn't very excited by those girls... but i get so much FOMO over sex. i'm a recovering porn addict so that stuff is always playing on my mind, and i'm not very attractive so if i wanted to "get laid" it would take a ton of effort and expense. i don't enjoy casual sex anyway so i'm more looking for an actual connection, which seems super hard to find
i feel utterly dissatisfied any time i'm alone, like i'm not doing what i'm supposed to be doing and i'm wasting my time

[CazalasMichele]

7 months sober and on step 6-7. Reading Drop the Rock. FEMO is such an anxiety provoking idea. Staying in the moment and being present, mindful, reminds us that we are NOT missing out because we are actively "In The Moment". Recovery has been a life saver and enlightening for me. The Fear of missing out is slowly fading in my gut. Enjoy your treasured moment today :)

[buckwheat]

Many people going through addiction crave a state of consciousness very lacking in material reality..Thank you for describing it so eloquently Sir Brand!

[nataliestorbacka]

Thank you Russell, this really spoke to me! I've become better at just staying home but it's not always easy, but then when I go out it feels so empty..

[StaceyBing]

My nan had FOMO until she died at 92.
She would always turn up. She was deaf, couldn't see properly, and had dementia in the end so she didn't know who anyone was, but she still turned up 🤣
That's why she lived so long, her FOMO kept her alive for 92 years 💕
Love her ❤️

[sharirood]

I totally agree. I've suffered from various forms of this my whole life. It mostly manifests in a restlessness to keep moving here and there.

[caramelconundrum]

Each of us are a part of the whole. Each of our experiences contributes to the collective human consciousness. It isn't necessary (nor is it possible in most cases) to do what everyone else is doing. At least beyond the basic human way of life. Just do what feels right for yourself and enjoy it as much as you can before returning to the source.

[michaelwong]

I believe the vast majority of people who go to nightclubs on Friday night don't even enjoy it. Go check out a nightclub while sober on a Friday night, and you'll see what I mean.

People are either:
1. On their phones.
2. Drinking themselves into oblivion just so they can act like they're having a good time, i.e. being able to dance to some terrible song and have the confidence to "score" and brag about it to their friends.

The people who don't care about their lives will always spend their time with other people who don't don't care about their lives.

[marcelusdarcy]

Address the Sadness. Yup. Had FOMO so bad in high school I messed my school work up because I couldn't go a day without talking to friends online or meeting up with them and left no room for studying. The root was being bullied in earlier life and being left out of lots of things, birthday parties and sleepovers and stuff. I never wanted to feel the hurt that my child self felt again so I made sure I never missed out

[jackiedaytona]

Fear of missing out!!!! Ever since i started this journey it wasn't about missing out for me but rather being misplaced or isolated from what is more physical then everyday reality that substance of love that makes you appreciate life because everything you know and love is there... but its getting easier these 4 years have been amazing to me regardless of it i hope others have a great experience too

[hebaelnaggar]

Love your attitude, the way you think, the way you talk

[holarc]

yes, superficial or too much 'going out' and partying is not the way. a deeper relationship with oneself is needed. at the same time, we all require a balance, as sustained relationships are also basic to wholeness and creativity.

[joelehto]

My whole life I’ve had this one same friend and that was all I really knew. I didn’t hang with big groups of people much, it was always just me and him. But just recently, we’ve drifted apart and don’t talk anymore. I still have “friends” but not the real friends where you can have a genuine laugh with or tell anything to or actually hang out with outside of school. I now have a girlfriend who’s fairly popular who has lots of friends and now I’ve started hanging around them during school. They all say I’m their friend and all but I’m never invited to there big hangouts or parties, which is fine as I’m not very close with them, but having a girlfriend who’s so popular really just rubs in the fact that I’m alone and a loser. They’ll all plan big get togethers and I’m always left at home, by myself, feeling terrible and wanting to die. Just knowing that I’m missing out on everything that she’s doing with everyone is the worst feeling I’ve ever felt, not to mention how lonely it makes me feel and I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I have no one who cares about me anymore and I always feel like I’m missing out.