What To Say If She Has A Boyfriend - The Man Up Show, Ep. 74 (Updated)

For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D. -- a uniquely qualified therapist, life coach, and former university professor -- has coached tens of thousands of people from over 87 countries to achieve happiness and success in their relationships, dating, psychology, and lifestyle. Dr. Tian has been featured in international media, as well as co-hosting a radio show on national radio and a weekly dating advice column in a national newspaper in Singapore.

The show, “Man Up: Masculinity for the Intelligent Man,” is David’s way of helping as many people as possible enjoy empowering and fulfilling lives, while contributing to the global understanding of masculinity in modern times. In the show, he takes your questions posed in the Man Up private Facebook group and answers based on his experience coaching tens of thousands of students around the world for over a decade."

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In episode 74, We talk about: She has a boyfriend, what do you say and can you be prepared for all scenarios?

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Masculinity for the Intelligent Man. I am David Tian, Ph.D., and this is: Man Up!

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Hey, it’s David Tian, Ph.D. welcome to episode 74 of man up. And here I’m going to answer the second half of David’s question in the private Facebook group. The second half of his question. Remember in the previous episode, he asked a question about being divorced. The second question he asked here is “I assume in some cases, we all get rejected by girls.

For example, sorry I have a boyfriend. What is the proper course of action in that case? Should I smile and say something along the lines of ‘as expected, perhaps some other time’.” Not bad. “I just like to be prepared for all scenarios. Thank you so much!” I ask a follow up question, because I assume he’s an intelligent man. I asked him what prompts him to say sorry I have a boyfriend, he says, “thanks!”.

I haven’t said anything yet. In bracket he says, “although thanks to your videos, I do indeed know what to say.” And then he continues, “but I just like to be prepared for all scenarios for instance a girl in fact has a boyfriend. Thanks!”.

This is going to be a short episode, but it’s a common problem. And if you want to be prepared for all scenarios before you act, you will never act. You will never act. Now, I’m going to give you a quick rundown on how to deal with the “boyfriend” reply. It’s not a rejection, it’s a reply. I’m going to give you a quick rundown on that. But your bigger problem is I have a feeling this isn’t going to solve your issue.

Because you’re going to have… what if she… what if, what if, what if, what if! And there’s never an end to that. You have to take action. Have a bias for actions, stole that from amazon. Have a bias for action. Just go out and do it first. Be like an early stage start up. Just go and try it, test it and then come back.

[KpxUrz]

I like this coach. Wish I had this sort of advice long ago. I especially like his "normalcy" and positive energies. He really makes you feel that it is not at all impossible to improve one's social interaction skills. Thanks, Coach!

[vonmalermarimon]

Hey David just to let you know your ways and approach are very different. Kudos to you and KEEP IT UP!!!

[samspiritualateenyi]

It has just happened to me and I just walked a way said it's fine.i completed saying: that's Life.

[abbyjoachim]

To be honest I'm gonna subscribe, you don't sugar coat it

[sherriflemming]

Some women will tell men they have a boyfriend or husband with men they're not attracted to or creepy men.

[jarodorla]

David why do women make a fuss about the toilet seat?

[SWATSWAT-fpsu]

Coca-Cola and I both phone number and she was like a lot of a boyfriend and I was like sorry it's my bad

[abdullakc]

I have been rejected more than 50 times help...