Going Over An ABA Therapy Session and Analyzing It, As An Autistic Person, From My Perspective.

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[stefaniejohansen]

They want her to ‘communicate’ more, but also ignore her when she communicates, letting her know it means nothing to even try???

[LaCafedora]

We need to just start calling ABA by what it is: Obedience Training. We have to stop giving it the polite recognition as even a POOR therapy. It is not therapy. At best, it is dog training. At worst, it is torture. Torture is already illegal in many places, so why is this torture not illegal? And, in the United States, it needs to be removed from the list of things that health insurance will pay for.

[faithsaenz]

The distinction that makes it wrong in general is that ABA’s main purpose is making life easier for the caretaker not the autistic child. We don’t need to be forced to be your house pet. If you can’t handle happy stimming definitely it was a wrong choice to have kids. I suggest hamsters.
We need to be taught how to make life work for us. Less transitions, more routines. Less controlled more autonomy. Ability to follow our curiosity instead of be forced to learn shit we don’t care about. It’s not hard it’s just not what the parent wants. This is ab*se.

[samstewartfilm]

the irony is if they stopped putting all of these demands on her, she would be able to calm down and actually be able to do things. years of this therapy has likely made her symptoms worse:/

[melissabennett]

As a parent I realized that there’s lots of times when my kids ask “why” and I don’t really have a reason. Instead of yelling at them to do things for no reason, I change my request so that there IS a reason and the reason is included.
Ex “put the dishes away right now” becomes “I’m starting dinner at 6. You need to put the dishes away by then so I have things to cook with.”
Just a little change gives my kids respect, reason, autonomy, accommodations, and flexibility to find out what works best for them. One of my daughters find doing things as soon as she wakes up is easiest, the other likes to space out her tasks and do them while alone.
Call me crazy, but I think that’s a more helpful thing to learn than immediate compliance to a stranger for no good reason.

[emmapalya]

I burst into tears at the clip at 36:30. I didn't go through ABA but my family constantly demanded compliance with no accommodation or attempt at understanding my distress. I'm so disgusted that this father not only filmed his child when she's clearly upset, but that he went on and on about how inconvenient her distress is for him IN FRONT OF HER. If someone spoke about my overwhelm in front of me like that I would absolutely, justifiably, lose it. Not only does she have to constantly comply and suppress her autism to make these inconsiderate people comfortable but if she, honestly mildly, expresses distress she then gets to hear her parents chuckle and her father go on a demeaning and condescending rant. If you wouldn't treat a "normal" adult that way don't treat autistic children that way. Be a decent human ffs.

[FromAllowedAloud]

51 year old, newly diagnosed, long-traumatized, autistic woman here.

Thank you Paige. Don’t apologize for your visceral reaction showing through every bit as much as your logic. I find it very validating! My intuitions (and common sense) were the same as and it’s nice to not to be gaslit about it.

I know she’s much older now, but my instinct was to RESCUE her. It’s surreal to watch them not see her.

[SamandEm]

Paige gives more realistic autistic education in this video than most videos on the internet

[ouxuo_]

I hate how their approach isn't "let's make her life more comfortable and safe" and instead it's "let's force her do the things she hates just because those are the 'norms' of our society"

[justrachel]

Abigail is being aggressively taught that she can't say no to anything. All she's allowed to do is postpone fulfilling demands, and even that is limited. What happens if someone in her life makes inappropriate "adult" demands? I cannot imagine anyone with good intentions ever deliberately training a kid that they have no autonomy. I also find it difficult to believe that this obvious flaw in their parenting has never occurred to her parents, which suggests they know this is a potential outcome but are willing to risk it to get a few household chores done. It's unfathomable.

[sinopulence]

The shocking thing is, Abigale helps to pay for that huge house and the family holidays, by her being used for YouTube.

[NixDuto]

*The day after Abby's dad learns she has autism*
Dad: "So I immediately started a youtube channel."
Cashier: "...and now you're gonna learn more about autism, right?"
Dad: "...wtf is a 'learn'?"

[SamandEm]

I truly hope her dad watches this with an open mind. I feel awful for Abigail. As an autistic person I cried the whole time watching her struggle. Thank you Paige for sharing and for educating the internet. I really hope this video blows up. Keep educating! You are an amazing teacher

[merissamakesstuff]

The vacuum scene makes me want to cry. She cocked her head and stimmed more because she was obviously in actual pain. Where is the empathy in this?! Heartbreaking! 😭😭😭

[eripeko]

when they took away her communication device and forced her to vacuum without earplugs or headphones i teared up. i can’t handle vacuuming without ear protection and i’m verbal so i can advocate for myself…. i can’t even imagine how terrible and scary that must feel. i feel so sorry for her. i hope someday she gets people around her who respect her and her boundaries.

[phoenixc]

I was sad for Abby this whole time. She should be taught that it's okay to say "no." She should also be given WAY more accommodations and not have them taken away

[bedhead-studio]

Why do they touch Abby so much and force her to do all these stupid tasks? They are so aggressive towards her. It's terrifying!

[Leomoon]

this is psychological abuse. they're sending the message that she's so inherently wrong that compliance is the only way she'll ever receive even the tiniest bits of respect from others. that it's ok for people to demand compliance in situations that don't make sense or feel safe.

[AquaPeet]

I've heard Footless Jo tell a story about a mother taking away her kid's prosthetic leg because the kid wasn't complying. Same thing! Like WTF!!
It is what she needs to function, it's a part of her body! Like the iPad is part of Abby's ability to communicate! You're literally DISABLING SOMEONE as a punishment! Aaarghh.

[elizabethrainbolt]

It appears that her comprehension and intelligence is being measured by her ability to vocalize. Since Abby cannot speak in a way that her father understands, he is not taking her needs and wants into consideration.