11 tactics for not letting narcissists into your life in the first place

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[nelumbonucifera]

Never overshare when you first meet someone. You never know who is gathering data of your strengths and weaknesses and identifying you as a potential supply.

[katt]

#8: Nobody falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs a place to live!

[carolynmccall]

Number 13: The narcissist will tell you a sad story about their childhood or past relationship...painting themselves as the poor victim. They are fishing for a juicy empathic response. Don’t take that bait!

[bebby]

#1 Stop with the second (or more) chances. They enable the narcissists.
#2 Catch yourself when you make rationalisations for their behaviours. Rationalizations are gateways for second chances.
#3 Do your own deep dive. Self-knowledge it's always a worthwhile endeavour
#4 Trust your gut.
#5 Don't confuse love and abuse. Pay attention to the trauma bond.
#6 Be aware of the love bombing.
#7 Be very careful about using words like "magical connection" and "soulmate".
#8 If the relationship moves too fast it may be risky.
#9 Turn off the gaslight the first time it gets turned on
#10 Pay attention to the future fake
#11 Be careful about making overly big sacrifices early in the relationship.

#12 Be careful when you listen to other people in the early days of your relationship

Thank you soooo much.

[NarcSurvivor]

Set boundaries, practice self love and no narcissist will ever want anything to do with you.

[pamAngel]

Never go into a relationship feeling like you “NEED” the other person.

[amorosogombe]

By the way, I've learnt one big lesson in life overall especially for empaths. Rule #1. Slow down! Stop rushing to say yes to everything. Always answer with, "Let me think about it." to EVERYTHING. Rule #2. See Rule #1.

[wallymarcel]

By the way, love bombing isn’t just reserved for romantic interests. It happens in business and potential friendships too.

[jcnlaw]

Well known divorce lawyer here. Gate keeping and careful vetting is critical. It may keep you out of my office.

[blairarchbold]

Ask yourself regularly, 'How does interacting with this person make me feel right now?' and track it over time. If you notice it doesn't make you feel good on a regular basis pay attention and don't let the person in.

[shawnette]

“Only the worthy should be allowed to enter your heart and your life”

[dubbyx]

I have lived with the motto "People can change" all my life.. Today I have updated this motto to "It is not my job to change anyone".. Thanks and God bless you for all that you do Dr. Ramani

[mikelane]

Don't let your kids watch most kids shows. There is always a character that is really mean and then changes at the end of the episode. I make sure they know that this NEVER happens in real life and they need to avoid people like this. These shows groom your children to accept narcissists into their lives.

[gigibtsurvivor]

1. Trust your instincts.
2. Trust is earned; not freely given.
3. If you witness someone having social chameleon behavior, pay attention as they are indicators of inauthenticity.
4. Call out abusive behavior and use boundaries to keep you safe.

[judithargitay]

I have a 100 year old Grandpa. He is telling me all the time: "Hun, beware those kinds of people who do not tolerate if you have a different opinion on something." So IMO I have a very simple and powerful technique: Say "no". Early on the relationship, very politely. Not in any significant issue, but something "mildly" significant. A narcissist's reaction usually tells it all.

[ckyung]

Their initial intense eye contact isn't about connection, it's about being a predator scouting potential prey.

[dhanyaslifeventure]

Love yourself. Don't allow anyone to define you.

[ginnyweasley]

When someone who doesn't respect your boundaries and gets really pushy, you better get out as soon as possible

[matrescence_motherhood]

I notice that they kind of leave you feeling insecure a lot. If anyone leaves me feeling insecure I’m going to walk away. Love shouldn’t be something that keeps you up at night wondering.

[JA-mzdh]

I've found that if I tell them, "no" to anything they'll lose their mind. They can't accept boundaries. It causes an injury and triggers them. I've always been agreeable and didn't want to make any waves at first. Not until I've learned to say no are they easy to spot.