Living with Infertility (Endometriosis and PCOS)

Jen learned she was infertile after being diagnosed with endometriosis, polycystic ovary syndrome, and adenomyosis. She feels like a failure even while her husband, Rob, assures her that it is not her fault. After 15 years the two are still praying for a miracle baby, but every day that passes without one makes their pain grow.

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[ComradeKoopa]

My wife was diagnosed with PCOS and infertility. We'd been trying hard to conceive for a year before we went to a doctor and she had an ultrasound. She was put on some fertility medication and after another six months, we very luckily conceived. We're celebrating our daughter's one-year birthday on November 8th ❤️ Remember that infertility doesn't always mean conception is impossible, but the road is long, hard and heartbreaking. 1.5 years of trying compared to 15 years is nothing, so I can only imagine how hard it has been. Sending hope and love.

[khawkgirl]

I watched this whole video even though, I personally can't relate at all to wanting children.
I just want to say, please don't give up. I was a miracle baby, my mom also had PCOS. She had me when she was 40 after she miscarried 14 times. I feel like I am so lucky to have spent my childhood very much loved and wanted!
My parents later went on to adopt 3 additional kids and we were a big, happy somewhat unusual family!
I hope you can have a big happy family someday too ❤️

[milky]

I have endo and PCOS, very happy to see you interviewing someone. We really need the awareness. Thank you Jennifer for speaking about your experience. <3

[JasonEdelman]

Thank you for sharing <3 As an adoptee I was blessed with parents in a similar situation. We should not be defined by what we are, but the love and compassion we are capable of. Best wishes to everyone.

[MorgueRat]

Was just diagnosed last month. Never thought I'd see a video like this on here, but I am thankful. ❤️🙏 I'm so sorry, sweetie. This disease is very frustrating and debilitating

[tresand]

I love this channel. I lost a 5 month old son to SIDS and it's impossible to deal with. Letting people see what others are really going through. People shouldn't have to hide what makes them human really...

[vizisolutions]

My wife has had PCOS since she was 16 (12 years ago), she didn't tell me about it when we got together or even until 2 years after we got married. It is tough going to family events because kids under 10 ask her a lot, but she is a tough woman. We may never have kids, but that's a sacrifice I'm willing to make because she is the most important person in my life. God bless you both for telling your story. This channel is truly wonderful.

[kaygee]

I’m so sick of woman being ignored with health issues. Revolution needs to happen

[CaptBrightside]

Mourning the life you wanted and thought you were going to have is often a necessary step in the process of learning to accept and love the life you do have. Its not easy, very far from it. But its also not impossible. I hope they find peace and happiness in whatever form the future takes for them ❤

[dogsoldiersc]

Thank you so much for making this video. My wife and I have struggled with infertility for 13 years now with little hope of ever conceiving. It is incredibly painful when people ask questions like, “when are you going to have kids?” or dismiss something because “you don’t know what it’s like.” Yeah…we know. We feel like we are missing out on one of the fundamental experiences of being human. Thanks for reminding us. I really can’t express how bitter I feel about it sometimes. So thank you, thank you, thank you for helping spread awareness.

Edit: Also, if I could just add to the awareness: please never say, “just adopt, ” or “just do IVF, ” etc…those things are also NONE of your business. I say this in love, not judgment. We know you’re trying to help, but it doesn’t. ❤

[moosepunch]

I and my ex wife struggled with this and nothing upset her or myself more than when her mom would say cold hearted things about her not being able to have kids or her sisters not respecting her enough to know what hurts her. This video hit so hard on me because even though my ex and I are no longer together we are still friends and I still love her.

[juliamahlke]

Thank you for this interview! I am a big SBSK fan but never thought I would recognize myself or our journey in one of your videos. Infertility is emotionally draining and very painful. We had our miracle after 6 years of trying and a couple of rounds of fertility treatments which are also very hard on your body and psyche. We were very open about our journey and people would stop asking the hard questions, that make you tear up... Thank you for spreading awareness and all the best for Jen and Rob! To them: I feel your pain and only people who experienced that themselves can truly grasp what you are going through. Thank you for sharing your story! You are warriors!

[kitandsons]

This is such an important topic. My brother and his wife have struggled with this issue for 14 years and it has been a roller-coaster of emotions. Thank you for including this topic. Always great content.

[wheelie]

Well done for covering these conditions, it’s clear to see how much these people are both suffering from this whole situation. I wish them both the very best of luck and I hope they get their little “miracle”.

[DeepBlue]

Thank you SO much for spreading awareness around these issues. I had secondary infertility (miscarriages with no living children) due to endometriosis and adenomyosis.

[SandiByrd]

My Mom had this and ended up adopting me when I was two years old. I had a childhood that most can only dream of....I know she went through a lot of the same problems with people saying stupid things when she was trying to conceive.

[ace.of.space.]

thank you Jen for being so open and vulnerable about this. the question "when are you having kids?" is really so loaded. people don't have children for any reason - infertility, risks associated with pregnancy, loss of a child, or simply because they don't want to have children. asking "when" is assuming so much!

[Bell.-]

I have PCOS and Endo and I can't express how grateful I am to have you interview someone and share it online. I've personally have gone through two miscarriages and that's on top of the constant pain we can be in. I also have PMDD which can come along with Endo. lot of the time we're told we are overreacting.
That it isn't anything severe enough.
Basically the whole "it's not that bad" mentality we face from doctors, nurses, friends and even partners or family.
It just feels good to be validated sometimes.

[teshuvatolchin]

i’m so glad you made a video on this. endometriosis is an issue very close to me. thank you chris for bringing awareness <3

[julestheswan]

I have PCOS and had a miracle baby. She's 6 now. It took us two years of trying and two rounds of fertility treatments to conceive. I almost couldn't believe it. I feel/felt very similar about how I was broken and I was a failure every day, especially when people would ask me about having kids/another kid. I'm so glad they have each other and a strong support network. I wish them the best and it seems like they would be amazing parents. Don't give up! ❤️ We're rooting for you!