9 months since my big chop

Many women were my big chop inspiration but was the straw that broke the camels back.
When I cut my hair, it felt like I was exposed to the world.
So much of my identity was in my hair.
I felt unattractive, thought I received less attention, stop taking selfies. I felt like all of my feminine energy was gone.
So much of my worth as a black woman was having long hair. Maybe I was trying to prove it was possible to the world but it became my sole source of identity. I wouldn’t leave the house with out my hair done.
But when I finally cut it, a remarkable thing happened.

All the bandwidth that I had been siphoning off to how my hair looked, was now being put into doing the things that made my life better. I loved my hair.
It gave me an identity when I had none.
But Without it, I have cultivated an identity that I’m proud of that doesn’t require me to hide. I realized that’s where my feminine energy comes from, not my hair but a soft, openness and vulnerability, not the rigidity or demands I had previously held so tightly too.

I hope you have audacity this week.
To find the thing that is taking up so much of your life source and re-evaluating if you actually still need it in the way that you had before or maybe, just maybe. It’s time for something new.
I am free now. And anyone who is attracted into my life is here because of attraction to my authentic self, not an idea or trying to prove something.
Will my hair stay short forever?🤷🏾‍♀️

But for the first time in my life:
I am telling the truth when I say, I’m happy right now.

I hope you have audacity, to be the person that you want to be, not who you think you should be.
Don’t be afraid to experiment if something isn’t working for you anymore.
It’s okay to start new.
Happy Monday peeps.
Go out and do.❤️

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[Nyjae]

Thank you for sharing your story. I needed this❤I’ve been natural for 6 years & had locs for almost 3 years. Due to unfortunate circumstances I had to Big Chop again & I absolutely loved my locs! I never felt more me. I realized I put a lot of my self worth & beauty into my hair. It reflected my growth as a person which was a beautiful journey but now that I’m starting over again it’s painful. Headwraps & Beanies have helped. My first big chop was great because I wanted to learn how to do my hair & go on that journey but my big chop now was just not the plan at all. Seeing this video does help with how I’ve been feeling. I grew my hair for years & now that it’s gone it hurts but I’m more than my hair. It’s ok to feel sad about it but I know that I can’t let it get in the way of my inner self growth. Thank you.

[intellectualrebel]

"If the first word someone uses to describe me is pretty, I will be dissapointed." This is going on my list of best quotes of all time. You really are a total queen and deserve soo much more recognition!

[tyheviadavis]

You are beautiful from the smile to the love.

[YorksGamingEmporium]

You know.... Nature made us attracted to pretty things for a reason.... Then nature did a real good one, it changed the standard, so that men would like women and the way they are pretty. And it made men masculine, so that we might be pretty in the eyes of a woman. That being said, I think your body, is stunning.

[theplayhouse]

I think a girls cute face is actually more defined when she cuts her hair short. Be grateful of your looks, but when it comes down to it, looks are only initial attraction. A woman could be miss universe, but if we don't get on, I would get bored within 2 weeks, maybe less

[JessieJ]

This, ladies and gents, is what we call privileged