Some Totally Honest Thoughts On Making Friends As An Introvert In My 30s

In this episode, one woman shows us how she finally learned to make friends as an adult introvert, when the built-in social structure of college no longer did the trick.

Through weekly video essays, "Making It Work" showcases how *real* people have upgraded their personal or financial lives in some meaningful way. Making your life work for you doesn't mean getting rich just for the sake of it. It means making the most of what you have to build a life you love, both in your present and in your future. And while managing money is a crucial life skill for everyone, there's no one "right way" to go about it — you have to figure out what works best for *you,* full stop.

Video narration by Meghan Grant

Video by Grace Lee

Based on an article by Amy Peveto

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[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
― Maya Angelou

[stephw]

Sometimes I feel like I should have more friends, I have one close friend, my boyfriend and many acquaintances I could do stuff with but we’re not close. I realized that I only feel bad about this when I really think about it and compare myself to others. When I just live my life I realize I actually totally love my life! I think comparing yourself to others or society can get you down.

[ramenchuu]

There should be a group or app "introverts in their 30s" 😂

[idontknow-msmc]

"Remember how easy it was to make friends in high school?"
No.

[the.annethology]

"Do you remember making friends so easily in Highschool and college?"
Me, who had horrendous highschool experience: 👁️👃👁️
👄

[andouhizumi]

My father always told me that if make one good true friend in your lifetime you accomplished something good. Keep your circles small y'all, less drama, heartache, and headache.

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
― Dale Carnegie

[Rio-ejjp]

As a introverted person, extroverted people are draining on me. Nothing personal just my experience.

[Maroonedprincess]

The message of the video: Embrace the extroverts bc they take you out of your comfort zone. You need to take action and not be passive. Be active in finding friends. Its the QUALITY of the realtionships and not about how much friends you have.

[sarahlacorte]

I am also an introvert but I actually have more friends in my late 20's than I ever did in college. In college I had so much social anxiety and was too focused on maintaining a 4.0 and juggling part-time jobs and internships. It was only in the last 2 years I just decided to put myself out there and try a bunch of new stuff. (In the before times) I started volunteering, swing dancing, rock climbing, playing on a rec soccer team, performing at open mics and have met 1 or 2 new friends through each activity. Though what really helped was finding a couple new friends who are the kinds of people that will invite you to everything. I had never had that before and now I want to be that kind of inclusive person for new friends I meet now. The few years of complete social isolation (and really bad mental health) I experienced while starting a career made me want to be more outgoing to the point where a lot of my new friends think I am an extrovert.These days I am trying not to dwell on the fact that I finally made a social life for myself and now I have to be isolated

[mouseluva]

"Do you remember how easy it was to make friends in high school?"
Uh.... no?
"If you went to college, it was probably even easier."
Uh, even more no?
The final tips have worked for me since leaving school though, so yay :) Volunteering has also been a great place for me to make friends, so would recommend that to anyone who has the time/resources to be able to spare an afternoon a week at a cause that matters to you.

[wisemoneywomen]

Yes! Getting older we lose some friends and it gets a little harder to find new folks to connect with. Especially when it comes to money, its helpful to have a wider expanse of folks - so joining local organizations (real estate for me) and some facebook groups have been handy to connect more with like minded folks

[joymae]

Also I feel so connected to this video - when I was younger I was more extrovert and the first job I landed luckily had a great social environment. But, as I got older I became more of an introvert and didn't want to befriend as many co-workers because sometimes when you miss business with pleasure things get complicated! I can't imagine sharing the exact same day everyday with a partner that must have strained the relationship. I found myself able to connect with like-minded females at meet ups, fitness clubs, book clubs, etc.

[elliottmiller]

Interesting hearing from inttroverts. As an extrovert, it is easy for me to find people and meet them, but I also get so much social anxiety. Its maddening at times since I constantly need to be around people and I get energy when I do but I am terrified all the time. I wish people could understand that socializing can be hard for us extroverts too.

[michelleolivas]

I'm very much an introvert. I suggest getting involved with a charity that's for a cause you're passionate about. You'll meet people you have something in common with. It's worked for me when moving to a new place (military spouse).

[davidliang]

I never thought it would be so hard to make friends after college, but it was. It wasn't until I forced myself to try new things before I was able to meet new people.

[emilyanne]

I’m going to be moving across the country soon, so I’ll definitely need to get out of my comfort zone to make a few friends

[lenapetrova]

I can absolutely relate! I’m in my early 30s and this current virus situation made it more difficult than ever to socialize and to actually want to go out and meet people. Really enjoyed the video and the topic! ❤️❤️❤️

[emmarochelle]

I enjoyed this video! The thing I don't like is the credit repair ad. I tried this after I saw Chelsea advertise them. I attempted to sign up but they only gave me one option, the "advanced package" at $120 per month... And I couldn't even look at the other options. No limited free option, no free trial. Then they spammed my email, text and called twice all within a few hours. I spoke with a nonprofit and they said to improve my credit I needed more lines of credit as I have a "thin file", I owe no money outside of my car loan, which I have an "exceptional" payment history on. How they thought I needed an "advanced package" at over $100 a month is beyond me. Especially when you consider it can take 1 month just to get a reply from creditors, etc so it's not even like it's going to be a once and done payment. I'm surprised TFD would advertise for them, their model seems old fashion. I share a Netflix account and only have Disney + cause it was free for a year lol.

[kmdash]

This was playing in the background while I was working on my d&d campaign, and got so excited when hearing it mentioned here.