CBT Role-Play - Managing Anger

This video features a counseling role-play in which cognitive-behavioral therapy is used to treat anger and frustration. Techniques demonstrated include identifying automatic thoughts, forming adaptive responses, and identifying cognitive distortions.

[pure.panic.productions]

I can easily say your channel has inspired me to finally look into going back to school to be a therapist. I've been casually studying for so long and I'm going to be studying until I'm dead so why not see if we can make a modest career out of it. Love all your fantastic and thoughtful content.

[ushasingingforfun]

I like the way CBT was used here, ever so subtly. I've seen videos where they are almost teaching the client all about what CBT is.

[janicedixon]

I like how Dr. Grande asked the client to name a few things her boyfriend does well even with all the anger she has toward him. I find it interesting after Dr. Grande made the client think about her phrase of "all the time " which then turned into "most times" her boyfriend doesn't do what he is supposed to, to help around the house. Also Dr. Grande did a good job helping the client recognize that she can control her anger because she does it when she is at work.

[MelisJoy]

I've followed you for years & your older material has added to my already profound fascination w psych & has inspired me to be a therapist. I visit it from time to time to still learn & be inspired. I do hope you go back to creating videos like these, or examples/signs that show trauma /abuse because it seems to be a prevalent pandemic. Sadly most who are being abused are not aware they are & it starts/continues the cycle. Videos can help so many identify their reality

[KittehNow]

Oh wow....I got a lot of useful information from this video. Unfortunately, anger is one of my things. It really can make life difficult. Thank you Dr. Grande!

[mailvessel]

I have seen many therapists and they were never therapeutic. I usually come out of the room feeling so frustrated and drained. They usually just regurgitates what I tell them, paraphrasing or summarizing, so called give a listening ear. I really like that Dr Grande ask questions. My therapist listens mostly and if they do ask, they do not make use of the information I gave to help me e-skill to better my way of solving my problem. I must say this video helps me so much more. Thanks so much Dr Grande!

[dorkygirl]

I'm a counseling major and your videos help me so much.

[marieeame]

I want to stop yelling and calm the fuck down when I get angry. I am aware that I learned how to behave like this due to my parents being very explosive. I want to stop my anger. I am frustrated with my behavior and feel like crying when I behave like this. I feel angry most of the time and it is frustrating me. I plan to speak with the person in a normal tone but them it changes and I regret it. I feel that this video has helped me learn the importance of walking away and thinking how to approach this as with work colleges. I am sad and angry that I behave like this. I feel broken and helpless at time. I am even more angry that mid life I see that I have a problem that I learned how to behave like this. Changing this behavior is like being a drug addict, you want to stop but at times your brain is your enemy. I hate my brain. I truly hate is.

[reln]

I am really new to CBT but not new to getting angry and yelling. What I am having an issue with here is that she claims the reason why she doesnt yell at work is cause she would get fired. Now I imagine that even if she would not get fired she still wouldnt yell at work for two reasons:
1. she is a public environment
2. she is not close with her coworkers

If her boyfriend got her angry in public it is unlikely (though still possible) that she would start yelling at him in public. Alternatively if she had a co-worker upset her in private it is unlikely (thought still possible) that she would yell at her in private.

I think those two points are important factors and should be the focus of the session.

Also, when we yell we dont do it to try and change people as she mentioned in her session. We do it most of the time as a result of letting out our frustration. Yelling is a reaction and a release to our pent up anger / frustration.

just my two cents

[xaviersoto]

i like watching your videos to help me conduct mock therapy sessions. a very good source to learn from. keep the vids coming

[miahleissa]

I'm thinking this goes beyond just getting angry over something not done. I suspect there is some pay-off other than just being able to express anger that is not expressed at work. ;) like a subconscious desire to start a fight that will be a great excuse not to be intimate tonight....for whatever reason....too tired or something else. There is often some sort of a pay-off to "losing it" with people we love...and often, we're totally not aware of it. great video...ty. gave me lots of neat ideas ;)

[GretSanDiego]

This is a great video in explaining CBT.

[gamemaster]

This lady pissed me off, so I think I'm the target audience for this video.

Good acting btw.

[JesusSaves]

Great video! So helpful to see the thought processes behind the anger. But maybe you can address what to do if another person is just sitting at home doing nothing and not helping? I understand that raging anger is not helpful in this situation, but I think it would be great if at the end you could show her strategies of what she could have said to her boyfriend instead? Otherwise, the problem is still there and potentially not going anywhere?

[treesart]

This is great. But this boyfriend, and all the other boyfriends, really need to start doing the dishes.

[ryleighlloyd]

It'd be helpful for him to give examples on how she could effectively communicate with her boyfriend to fairly distribute domestic chores in a way that holds the partnership accountable and how to foster consideration on his sides. Also examine what would be a fair distribution in the first place. It seems crazy to me that if she reminded him before he continually couldn't bother to simply take some chicken out of the fridge to thaw. I see how that'd be frustrating, but I don't think she knows how to channel the anger from that into a productive solution. It seems some information would be needed about the partner and their relationship for that which wasn't explored.

[RandStrauss]

This is NOT an example of how a therapy session might use role-playing as part of therapy. It's an example of how CBT is delivered, looking at triggers, thoughts and responses, and looking at cognitive distortions that might be at work, new thoughts that could be more helpful and new responses.

[Bradley]

I can see that this approach has merit. But often there is no time between thought and action.

[jackiesims]

If the anger is problematic in the relationship, it may be better to talk it through with your partner & negotiate ways of avoiding the issue in the first place, by asking him to start doing the dishes before she gets home.

[alliedcommander]

I have p.t.s.d. and I always get upset by things that remind me of negative time's in my life.