Should I Always Pay For Dates? I'm Spending Too Much Money

Caroline and Corey discuss a viewer question that asks if he should always pay for date because he is spending too much money.

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[Coolness]

Its rare but I have to disagree with Corey on this one. All of my friends who are in real long lasting relationships have one thing in common. The woman started contributing immediately. If a woman really rocks with you, she's not going to want to see you spending all your money while she saves all hers. Even if you're a millionaire. All the women I dated that contributed somehow immediately, were I better quality woman.

[lloydbeal]

A guy should pay for the first few dates, but after a few dates she should offer to pay for something. After a few dates it’s obvious she likes you and shouldn’t have a problem with paying for dinner or a round of drinks 🤷🏽‍♂️

[angelaragon]

If you ask them out, you pay. They ask you out, they pay. If you are dating exclusively over time and the man is ALWAYS paying, that’s a problem. ( 🚩 ) That’s a woman who EXPECTS you to pay all the time. 🚩🚩🚩
Men want their women to put effort and contribute from time to time. That’s all we want. To know that you care enough to make an effort and help out. That is all. Simple.

[DamianGshow]

Yeah no. I may be the outlier but 2 of my best/longest relationships were when she paid the bill on the first date. They both made their own money and came from good families. If after a while she's not contributing then she's not looking for a partner she wants a sponsor.

[drewelliott]

I could've sworn Corey has said in the past that the man should pay for the first few dates but it is a good sign that she is a giver if she offers to pay sometimes.

[krinkle]

This is where the whole feminism falls apart, women rage about equal rights but still expect us to pay. They don't mind that 'tradition'. But that being said I always offer to pay, hold door open but ya after awhile and your dating she should pitch in from time to time

[thomv]

Yeah I'm not with Corey on this one. At first a guy pays for dates. If a girl never pays for anything she's just a leech. I'm not saying it has to be 50/50 but there should be investment from both people

[arananation]

If men always have to pay then women should stop working and go back to being housewives!

[notall]

I agree when you first start dating you do pay, however when you in a relationship you can't be expected to pay ALL the time. The worst is when she expects you to pay all the time, you start feeling used.

[jesusalfaro]

As the man, I paid because I invited her out. But after about week 6, Of her NOT paying or offering, i began to see red flags. What also stung was that she would order and order rounds and seconds like, she knew it was not coming from her bank account. My cut off from her was when she went out and asked me to venmo her money so she can buy some drinks. Mind you, I stayed home that day! Fellas, pay in the beginning but take note of the woman and see how she acts. If she offers, great. Shoot, if she paid for parking that helps too!

[js-ovig]

If that's the standard then if a woman you're consistently dating isn't asking to take you out and pay for some dates, find a new woman.
Today most women work and make just as much money as a man. So women don't have to invest money into building a relationship but men do?

[TayDoe]

FOH. Lol this chick started paying for both (like men usually do) and she stopped it cause it was too much. Welcome to being a man

[c-fin]

Many women have the ability to contribute at least occasionally. To never offer to pay a portion in future dates is rude af.

[Allnatural]

If she’s not attempting to pay for anything by the 4th date I’m kind of turned off. She need to invest at some point into the relationship. I don’t need her to pay but it shows she’s investing in the relationship even if it’s just a drink.

[bigimportantman]

If you can’t afford to take women out… the only people you should be disagreeing with are the people who taught you how money works.

[IntegralLifestyleDesign]

I also disagree with Corey here which is very rare. A guy should probably pay for the first few dates but if the girl doesn’t offer to contribute financially at all by the 3rd or 4th date I’d personally see that as a big red flag. I guess the difference of wealth between the two people would also impact this though. Corey likely has a far higher net worth than most women he’d be dating.

[MrNixity]

What if you your dying of cancer or have a terminal neurodegenerative disease? Do you just figure it out? Hate simplistic bs quotes.

[mikegee]

No. If you're paying for every date you'll eventually be viewed as a doormat or meal ticket

[emmagatewood]

I see a lot of guys disagreeing in the comments... But... There is a reason Corey is the coach, and everyone else is watching his videos. He's 100% right on this one, like it or not.🤷

I will say though, in reference to the great example he gave of inviting people over to your house for a party- yes, of course you wouldn't ask your guests to pay at the door, unless you are an absolute knob. HOWEVER- assuming you are a guest invited to this party, and assuming you weren't raised in a barn and you do have some class and you do appreciate being invited to said party, you are going to bring something with you- a bottle of wine, a case of beer, a fruit basket, a dessert, an appetizer, a bouquet of flowers, SOMETHING. At the very least, you will ask your host beforehand, "hey thanks for inviting me. What can I bring over?" The dating equivalent to this would be the lady offering to pay for something or reciprocate in some way by about the 3rd date or 4th date. If she hasn't offered to pay for something by then, I'd take it as a red flag.

[joshtheweedcoach]

I do 3 separate stops on a date. The first stop is for appetizers only. The second stop is out for a fun event like putt putt golf, or the arcade games, etc. The third stop is dinner. To eventually grab a bottle of wine for back at my place. Everything is usually going to be within walking distance, walking saves gas money. The first stop I ask her “do you mind splitting the bill?” Appetizers are usually cheaper then a dinner. And it’s a great way for veting out any ladies that lack the “flexibility” I’m looking for in a ideal partner. If she shows resistance or a attitude I simply pay for the appetizers and end the date there. No call backs. No second date. The second stop is a activity like putt putt golf. I always pay for the event on the second stop. The third stop is dinner. If she makes it to dinner then I’m liking what I’m seeing so far with her. At the end of dinner I’ll ask specifically “are you willing to split the bill with me?” The key word is “whilling”. If she says yes, I simply respond “ I appreciate your flexibility, thank you for being you.” (Then I just pay for the whole dinner as she’s shown she’s worth my time and money so far). If she’s says “no I’m not paying for dinner”. I just pay for the dinner and never talk to her again.

Usally the women that “needs/ or demands” that you to pay will expose that over appetizers. It’s a cheap way to be rid of women that have that rigidity.

In sales you don’t hold a product for someone that isn’t whilling to at least put down a nonrefundable deposit. Putting a down payment is a sign of someone that truly wants to buy/ invest. It’s a part of smart sales. As a custom carpenter you would have them cover the cost of materials upfront. When the jobs done they then pay you for your time. In theory it would be half down up front then the other half at the end of job being finished. Hence splitting the bill for appetizers.