My Wife Is Now My Husband & My Daughter Is Now My Son | MY EXTRAORDINARY FAMILY

WHEN Sammy, 25, and his partner, Miles, first met at college and fell in love, they were in a heterosexual relationship. Sammy, who was assigned as a female at birth, decided to start his transition after giving birth to their daughter, Hazel. Now identifying himself as transmasculine and non-binary, Sammy has been undergoing hormone treatment for six months, with the full support of Miles, who watched his wife become his husband. Miles told Truly: "He's a completely different person but I fell in love with him as him, not how he looked like." Last year, their four-year-old daughter started to address himself as a boy. The family living in St Cloud, Minnesota, say that their transition journey has been backed by their friends. But it has strained the relationship with some of their family members, who still insist on using feminine pronouns with Sammy and Hazel. But the parents believe that they are simply giving Hazel the tools and space to explore himself at his own pace. Sammy said: "I have not projected any of my experience onto Hazel. What I have done is to provide a healthy example of a role model."

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[mareshareid]

My little sister behaved like a boy for majority of her childhood. She dressed like a boy and only was interested in boyish things. The family never tried to change anything about her. In private we had discussions that we should brace ourselves for the possibility that when she's old enough, she may tell us that she wants to be a boy. At the age of 15/16 she started showing interest in more feminine things. She got her curves and now she carries herself as a stunning feminine woman at 18yrs old with a boyfriend. She jokes about being a tomboy "back in the days". Leave kids alone to make their own decisions.

[BengiHanim]

A possibility is that the child watched and internalised the parents discomfort around femininity and womanhood. Which then explains why he/she got depressed and rejected female pronouns.

[missg]

Asking a child every single day if they are a boy or a girl is definitely pressuring them. So wrong on so many levels...

[Chanceisafoodie]

I remember telling my mom I was a boy because all of my friends were boys and I liked “boy things”. My mom explained to me that liking the things I liked didn’t mean I was a boy. Girls can like to fish and skateboard and hate playing with barbies. I can’t imagine how awful my life would be if she had let me decide in the moment that I was boy instead of telling me that my interests didn’t define my gender. Totally my personal situation but I’m just glad it worked out this way for me.

[candace]

Don't you find it odd that a lot of these trans families also have trans children? Kids are very impressionable.

[gigglingchicken]

I would be careful about the child. I remember how I was a tomboy as a little girl. Hated dresses, had many guy friends, and played in the dirt. Had cargo pants and boy shirts. Loved creepy crawlies and laughed at all the girls who screamed. My parents accepted I was a tomboy but never changed my gender.
Now in my adult years I am the same but I am happy I have not changed gender. I know for a fact that if my parents said I do boy things so therefore you are a boy and asked me everyday I would be a man right now. And I most likely would of been miserable. Just let kids be kids and confusing them with gender just doesn't make sense. Let them make that choice by themselves when they are an adult and they understand what that truly means.

[tylerhoneycutt]

For people that dont want gender or sex to be how they are defined they sure do revolve their life around it

[vero]

"One day he was feeling very distressed about feminine terminology"
No wonder Sherlock, his mum has become a dad 🤦🏻‍♀️

[flatsoda]

Could it be possible that the sadness your child was experiencing was due to losing the Mommy he no longer has? That kind of change is a lot for anyone let alone a young child to get used to.

[shannonbritton]

Does a 3 year old truly understand gender terms and anxiety surrounding them? Or are we projecting and visualizing our own? And could the glaring signs of depression had anything to do with watching his mother change into a man and not being able to verbalize those emotions? Possibly 🤔

[daniellebill]

This is child abuse. Psychological child abuse. I don’t care what the parents do. That’s their decision. Let that baby grow and make the decision for herself. She’s a baby. Unbelievable and distressing

[theinternettrashcan]

all i know is that when i was little i wasn’t thinking about wanting to transition to another gender, i was thinking about playing with my favorite toys or eating candy. kids don’t know about these things naturally, they’re taught it. just let your kid be a kid, they’re way too young to have to be worrying about transitioning.

[Jujubes]

Sammy can do whatever he wants. But allowing your child to “transition” at that age… feels really wrong in many ways. That child is not even old enough to grasp gender at that age. Just let your kid express him or herself however they want and play with whatever toys, but no need to label everything.

[Dawnrebah]

Asking your child if they feel like a boy or girl everyday ? 🙁 why even do that.. How confusing.

[avacadotoast]

These people seem to "hate labels" but literally revolve their lives around labels.🙄

[helosoukous]

When I was a child (5 or 6 years old) I hated dresses, I loved boy clothes and I remember that I thought being a boy is cooler than beeing a girl.. I never knew transitions exists and my parents just let me play the way I wanted to! Today I’m sooo happy to be a woman, I feel very happy the way I am.. when I imagine having parents like those in the video, I think I would have ended up in total confusion

[tiggzr]

We need to let kids be kids and let them find themselves

[e_i_e_i_bro]

"I asked Hazel every day if she was a boy or a girl"
Gender being a fixation and forced daily topic is going to impact a child who is in the preoperational stage of development. The age where they are actively trying to make sense of concrete logic and understand the social world (including gender roles in the society they were born into). They don't understand irreversibility. They also can't separate themselves from others (egocentrism), so when a parent goes through something they will very much feel part of it and like they are also experiencing it. This is also the age where lots of pretend play occurs (I'm a doctor like daddy, I'm a teacher like auntie, I'm a different gender like mommy?). You can't convince me that this child's formative years aren't being overshadowed by the mother's transition. The child may have been distressed by the adult discussions, and the mother becoming a completely different person may have very well caused grief that the child is trying to process. This child needs a psychologist. People need to figure their s--- out before having babies so their personal problems aren't projected onto them. Amen.

[nowwithattitude]

“I asked Hazel everyday if she was a boy or a girl”

but why? Why project your experience onto your child? This is not it.

[voltronx]

AND NO ONE IS CALLING CPS? THIS MAKES ME SICK TO MY STOMACH!!