An Escape Plan or Independence: Do All Women Actually Have an Exit Plan?

Is it okay to actually have an exit plan in a relationship? We weigh in on the notion that women always seem to have an exit plan in relationships as a safety net. But could the net actually be damaging to the relationship if you know you have an easy out?

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[heatherlynsey]

My momma had a separate account she started a week after getting married to my dad. Every time she got paid, 10% of her checks went into that account. Eighteen years later my dad decided he was out and she only had what was in that account to help her survive on her own. It’s not being sneaky, it’s protecting you and your own.

[kaki_karei]

Jeannie once said on the show 'I'm addicted to my independence!". I can see things have changed.
Love Adrienne's growth. It shows.

[paulagabriele]

Adrienne mindset about money and marriage changed so much. I see you, girl. Now you are a business woman with real money 😉😉

[mandys]

Yes everyone should have a safety net! I remember Loni telling viewers this in the past, its to protect yourself. Obviously no one goes into a relationship believing it will be doomed but there's nothing wrong with looking out for yourself

[justtino]

lol mentioning Tams kids that took me out. 😂

[shahiskandar]

No relationship last forever. Either someone gonna leave you alive or die before you. You need to be independent anyway. There is a rare case scenario where both husband and wife die together.

[vancarbonneau]

"Is that Aiden and Ariah?!" I'M DEEEEAD

[Krisha]

Proud! I think EVERYONE should have a plan just in case. Don’t be so dumb and depend on someone so much you can’t leave when you need to. Marriages don’t always last so be prepared.

[moimeself]

This whole damn episode is a REAL mess... G popping out those babies mid-sentence!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣💕💕💕

[milagrosamaya]

"Thats aiden and ariah" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[winterbear_]

Having an exit plan is just being realistic. This isn't some fairy tale where everyone gets married and lives happily ever after (but wouldn't that be nice). You don't know what tomorrow will bring. You may be madly in love when you get married but fall out of love 5-10 years in. YOU WON'T KNOW and the last thing you want is to be left in the streets because you didn't plan ahead especially if there are kids involved.

[thiagobailon]

Loni said the babies look like Aiden and Ariah 😂😂😂😂 I can't with her!!

[dr.braxygilkeycruises]

Dang. Adrienne had a STRONG point!!

For me, I don't want to go into a marriage with secrets. However, I also think every woman should have at least one account that no one knows about. And you should have a MINIMUM of 15% of your income sent directly there. I set mine up so that funds cannot be transferred out of there. If I needed money, I'd have to show up at the branch. That makes it easier to save and not touch it. *Fear is an enemy of love, but love is a passive aggressive accomplice to enemies. Protect Yourself, Ladies!*

[MajesticMyronn]

I think if a relationship is not exactly going the best and you see it drifting into a direction of toxicity and not happiness… then you always need an “ escape plan “

[itswhatvr]

Freaking Lonnie is so funny in this one. Every time the camera is on her I'm cracking up. 😂

[meaganbianca]

This was such a serious topic and the Adan and Aria distracting everyone. Omg the shout out made my heart happy.

Back to the topic I think because Jeannie is still in the honeymoon phase is why she said what she said.

I was shocked but sooo grateful A said what she did. Not everyone has an exit plan but that’s why domestic violence rates are so high. My father wanted my mother to go to college because he didn’t want her to be dependent on another man if something happened to him since it was seen a lot in their community abusive men taking advantage of single mothers.

It’s not just financially either. A lot of domestic abuse victims don’t have emotional support. Mental strength is key to independence as well.

[justSymiah]

Someone said on the show once that the person you marry is not the same person you divorce . That’s not to say I won’t give my all or do my best to make things work but having a safety net insures that’s I am making a clear decision that doesn’t involve a risk to my livelihood if things don’t work out. Call it self -preservation 🤷🏽‍♀️.
Taking initiative to protect myself (and my unknown future) is important to me so I don’t end up in a situation where I NEED or HAVE to be somewhere that I truly don’t WANT to be. I need the freedom.

[nes]

Yall, there's life insurance, home insurance, car insurance etc..It's smart to have back up plans. You never know when you'll die, or have a car accident or if your home get taken out from natural disaster. No one ever knows what can happen in the future.

[Nique]

I agree with Adrienne you have to keep in mind that people are human no matter how in luv u are you really never know n coming from divorce i experience it first hand definitely learning experience !!!!

[bosslady]

It’s called being smart I’ve seen to many women in my current job and previous jobs not have they own bragging my man don’t want me to work and pay all the bills and then he leaves and they end up with nothing and have to move in with family and start over. There’s a shared account for bills and an individual account we can do what we want its nothing wrong with having your own! Doesn’t mean your planning to leave just means your prepared in case it doesn’t work out and not feel like you have to stay in a dead end relationship because of finances.