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[loadingmikke]

I even remember waking up crying from a dream at age 6 where my brother and father where on an air ship about to lift off.
They screaming hurry up!
As i tried and tried to get aboard this thing, but wasnt fast enough. Like i was walking trough molasses.

[grayskindablue]

I struggle immensely with task initiation, so being late kinda goes hand in hand with that. People telling me we’re gonna be late is probably the worst thing for it lol. I’ve just recently been kinda able to neutralise being late, like “for most events, if I’m running too late, I can reschedule that.” And turns out, that’s true! Lol. It’s usually various doctors who I am very vocal upfront about struggling with my time and my sleep (narcolepsy) but that I’m trying really hard. For things I absolutely cannot miss, I just stay up. It may not be healthy and isn’t what I want to do forever. But if I’ve got a flight to catch, I just take my meds later in the day and spend the night leisurely packing and double-checking, and I stop when I need hydration or fuel or just a breather. I do my skincare to feel better, I play with my cat to help reset a bit. It’s not perfect, and there’s definitely things I need to get better at. But god it is so much better than 15 years of being yelled at and half-dragged to the car while I tried to get myself to _move_ and then had a panic attack because I forgot the two things that mattered to bring. Lol. A mess, truly.
I’ve also been crystal clear with those around me that it’s okay if my narcolepsy is rebelling that day and they need to do anything possible to wake me up. But once I am up and getting ready to go, telling me what time it is or that we’re running late is not the help I need.
So I’m working on it. It’s better.

[epicherbalism]

Sometimes it's OK, probably better to teach him time management for long term benefit - and believe he's capable of learning & implementing it.

[wolfmeoww]

Yesss I do this all the time. And if my friends are late I always tell them to "no stress" because if they're late and also stressed it's double bad.

[juleswick]

This is HUGE. Thanks for the language…I know this is going to help me explain myself and help those around me better understand. ❤

[Curlyteacher]

I think that’s ok in moderation as long as you are always actively trying to be on time. Teaching your child it is ok to be late to reduce stress might work as a child but they can’t have that mentality as an adult because jobs won’t allow it. Unfortunately the world runs for neurotypical people and we neurodivergent people need to learn the skills to live in it successfully. Telling your child always being late is ok so they don’t stress is not in their best interest even if it feels better in the moment. Pick your battles and be firm on times and places it is and is not ok to be late to. Find strategies to reduce time stress and allow your child to be successful. I suffer from time blindness very badly and had to learn strategies such as setting a thousand alarms to get places on time, especially work and school. It’s good to understand and accept neurodivergent people’s weaknesses, but we still need to teach them ways to survive in a world not built for them. I say this both as a teacher and as a person with ADHD.

[rubywilson]

How do we go about it though cause i try putting things in place n i dont trip about 10 mins but sometimes we gitta be on time

[monikarate]

Take away the stress of having to be somewhere on time? What's the worst that could happen? Getting fired, that's the worst for me and it's happened more than once. Everyday I get up and try to get to work on time (not right now though cause I got fired for too many tardies/absences) but then most days something happens that slows me down, usually it's GI upset related, so all i can do is wait for my "as needed" medications to kick in. I'm also a spaz-tasic klutz, so accidentally making a mess, right before I'm supposed to leave, is common.

My second answer:
People, who's opinions you value, assuming you don't respect them/ their time.

WHAT ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO DO WHEN YOURE BEST ISN'T GOOD ENOUGH?

[ChrlttC]

As someone with ADHD I find people who are late rude. It’s almost suggesting they don’t value my time so are happy for me to wait around for them. In the same respect I value peoples time so why should they be waiting around for me?

[jemma-joon]

These are the sort of mothers that brought up the lazy and careless kids that we now have to deal with as adults. She tells you, what worse can happen? Be 10mins late! Actually, losing his job that sustains a decent living for him because you brought up a slacker that can't manage his time

[joes-wife]

But no... It's not okay to be late to things.

[KH-chwz]

You could give them a cup of concrete….?