So You Think You Have ADHD..What Now?🤔 (ADHD Help)

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Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:05 Should you see a therapist?
4:00 Who should you tell?
6:35 What does having ADHD now mean for you?

Thinking you have ADHD after you did an adhd test? Then you probably have questions like what this now means for you, if you should do therapy, take medication, tell your family and/or friends etc. In this video, I help answer those questions to better help you understand attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and provide some helpful tips.

DISCLAIMER: Please note that I am not a licensced therapist/psychologist and that I derive all of my recommendations from my own experiences with ADHD and/or publically available information. If you have ADHD please always consult with a therapist first.

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[adhdvision]

Hey my fellow like-minded friends! I hope you enjoyed the video. Whats you opinion on telling your friends and family about your diagnosis? Let me know!

[shamailafarooqui]

I want to get a diagnosis, but I'm just afraid what if it comes out negative and everyone (including my parents and the doctor) would think that I was just making a fuss out of nothing.

[hellgast]

I am 99% sure I have ADHD, but I haven't been officially diagnosed.
I tried a couple of times, but the institutions where I went were very uninterested in what I had to say and they charged way too much imo. My family and friends also never believed me when I brought it up.

The problem I think is that I'm very introverted and shy, so it doesn't look like I'm hyper at all... I was/am also suffering from depression (which I think is partly caused by the ADHD, but makes the diagnosis more difficult).

This year, at 27, I finally found a doctor who listened and I started a Ritalin trial, now the chaos in my mind is gone... and it's so peaceful 😭

[pAwLinNe]

"you can't have adhd, you're intelligent." "it's all about discipline." "you just need to be mindful all the time." "JUST FOCUS."
I got diagnosed at 29, and when I told my parents, they wouldn't believe me, especially when I mentioned the part genetics have a role in it. I grew up being criticized a lot for losing stuff, forgetting things, getting called out at school for being too hyper and "disruptive", and for being disorganized in all things in general. I did my best to educate them about ADHD and they stopped disagreeing, but that was probably just so I would shut up about it.
I only told the closest friends about my ADHD, because 1. It's tiring having to explain the condition to them and 2. I felt like they were the only ones who really cared. They reacted more appropriately than my family did.

[cgarcia]

After overthinking whether or not I have adhd, this video finally convinced me to seek help. Ty :)

[Crazyibbes]

big thanks mate :) . yuppp, ''Once you realise you have ADHD, your past life explains it self!''

[mrt_]

I personally don't want to use medication if I end up getting diagnosed. I like how I am, and from what I've heard, the pain points can be improved by other things, like getting good at making lists, getting good planing stuff out, psychotherapy, etc. Also, I want to stay far away from narcotics.

[ike]

My mother is like “omg you don’t have ADHD” every time I say that I would like to check if I have it

[whitneyrivero]

Well dang. I'm just realizing I have ADHD at the age of 26, with two kids. I get good grades, but I struggle with things I'm not interested in. The inturpting, many projects but none finished, easily bored, restless. I literally ticked 13/14 of them. Thank you for your videos!!

[aimeezingvideos]

I think i have adhd but i am scared to tell my parents that i want to do a test.

[bigurodelaz]

Since I’m a minor, I would probably have to ask my parents to get therapy, but I don’t like talking with my mom that much and I don’t with my dad either. My parents would probably think I’m over reacting. And my mom has constantly to me to pay attention but I get easily distracted and space out or try to tune others out depending on the person who is talking to me. I hate school because the kids laugh at my hyper activity and how easily I get distracted, AND my horrible memory. I told my friend I was workin up the courage to ask my mom to go to see if I have it though.

OH WAIT I FORGOT, UHHH, MY MOM SAYS THAT I LIE ABOUT FORGETTING THINGS OH I ALMOST FORGOT.

[dfw_babytitan]

I’m 34 and just realizing I might have ADHD. It’s relieving to know why I am the way I am. Everybody just assumes I have bad qualities.

[GoADHDGo]

Last month, I made a video about this same topic… but from a different angle.

I also added your channel to the list of ADHD YouTube channels in that videos description. Hope ya don’t mind.

[quintonpiercehawkins]

Really appreciate your videos. They've helped me out in my life as someone who also has ADHD.

[HIDDENADHD]

Such an important topic. Thank you for sharing!

[trudibarraclough]

I have trained myself quite well, but I am 65 now.

[_logoon.yu_]

I don't know if telling my parents because I'm afraid they'll say like "you're just spending too much time on internet" and I mean, yes I did, but to do many researches on ADHD, I had myself informed about the symptoms for like, half year, and I'm pretty sure, of course I can't totally be without a diagnosis, but I don't know where to start to ask them to see a doctor

[Jo-razz]

I was Officially diagnosed with ADHD the end of 2018 by a Neurologist/Psychologist,
It was pure luck & chance that I had gotten Doctor who is a Neurologist & Psychologist.
I had been to therapy before & I would always go because of my crippling anxiety,
Always feeling I didn't have control of my life, I knew something was wrong but couldn't put my finger on it.
About 11 years ago, I had a Therapist who said you have ADHD, & I am going to see if we can work with your family Doctor for the medication & we will continue therapy.
I thought to myself, people mentioned it to me before & because ADHD had such a bad rap, people saying its not real, its just excuse for soccer moms to get their fix Etc.etc that I would bush it off, but maybe there is something to this, it sounds like what I have been struggling with, I should not brush it off this time & see what happens.
She called & followed it up with an detailed email, & time past & she said your doctor is not getting back to me, I told her that I happened to have an appointment in a couple of days & I will ask him about it.
I go to the appointment & I was made to feel so ashamed, I didn't even have to bring it up, as soon as I seen him he said my therapist keeps calling & sending me emails & said that he refuse to even talk to her because she said I had ADHD, which is made up &
That it is only for people to have an excuse to get speed Legally, & she probably on it herself, I hung my head down in sham & apologize, for what I was apologizing for, I dont know??? I even lied & said she told me she was calling you but she didn't tell me it was for ADHD.
Years later, still dealing with crippling anxiety, it was effecting my life more & more, to the point I only go out when I had to.
Then my family didn't ask told me that I was to be my grandmother's caregiver & then my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer & he refused hospice & only wanted me around besides my mom, my mom was in shock, she just sat beside him, while doctors where getting up set because we where refusing hospice, he looked at me & said this will be to much for you to handle, oh yes I am married but he couldn't help because my mother-in- law was Diagnosed with stage 4 cancer the month before & my grandmother had to get a hart surgery.
The doctor was right it was all to much & I felt like a huge failure.
After my dad passed, my mom just took all her fear, sadness & anger of my dad dieing out on me, always saying to me, what is wrong with you???? In disgust or my favor are you on something? When we would have to go out, she would tell me to change, that I am to fat for that & when I talk she would say under her breath shut up why did you say that, it sounded dumb.
About to have a nervous brake down, my life felt so out of control, I started feel hopless,
So back to a therapist I go & she said to me, you have ADHD, its pretty bad, you need to see a Psychologist.
I didn't show it but I was mad, after all that& still with this ADHD but I agreed to see a Psychologist, I just will not tell he or she what she said, because I can finally afford one because we finally got insurance to cover it.
I got a list of about 40 Psychologist, not one specialized in ADHD, I noticed & I called for 3 weeks & before I can even get to a reason, as soon as I said insurance, they couldn't get off the phone fast enough.
I called my insurance customer care, to whom I embarrassed myself by braking down & crying & I got very nice lady who seemed to give me a phone # to a doctor who she said wasn't on the list but he will take the insurance, he is also a Neurologist too. He is very serious about his work & he will only take people who are very serious about helping themselves & she thought I was.
I called & it almost felt like a job interview, he wasn't giving me an answer right away, he gave me what felt like a test over the phone, this last 4 calls.
He finally agreed to see me.
I walk in & yes he definitely had experience, he was 91 years old, another doctor told me he is very respected & looked up to as a Neurologist & he was surprised, he took on a patient (now you can see when I say it was luck & chance, I meant it)
He wanted to see me on a weekly basis, he gave me test After test & even had a brain scan done that I found out he didn't put into my insurance or charge me, 3 months later he tells me, you have ADHD, I couldn't believe he came up with the same as other therapists did but this time, I believed him,
He told me in detail what it is, he told me that even in just the past few years that they have discovered new things about ADHD, he even told me unfortunately a lot of doctors do not keep up with this information.
He told a month figuring out what was the best medicine for me, he told me yes he thinks that I would benefit from medication but it was my choice but it all ways have to go hand to hand with therapy, the medication is not a curse in any way, it is simply a tool to help me with my therapy.
I was doing so much better, I was full of hope, I was excited to keep learning in what I can do.
Then 2019 hits, meaning Covid hits, my amazing Doctor decided to retire & said to me you definitely need to continue therapy.
My husband had also started a new job as a boss in the dairy industry, people where not coming into work, he was working 7 days a week & I realized he hasn't ask me any questions since my Diagnose & I said to him, do you have any questions for me??
You can see I was happier, I actually slowed down, did things one thing at a time, I wasn't haveing anxiety attacks on daily basis, I actually went back to working,
So I thought he has to notice, thinking at least be happy I am not driving him nuts with my anxiety & I am working now, during this hard time, he must be happy about that, right? I mean he always been a loving & supportive husband.
What he said made me what to throw up right on the spot, he said that it is fake & I better not start taking that medication because then he will be mad, & I already had, was shocked the fact he didn't know that.
Now, I have no Psychologist, I am right back where I was before.
But I decided, I am going to help myself no matter what & find another Psychologist.
Easier said then done.
I found one who had 30 years experience, I told her everything & she agreed to take me on, great! Right? Nope, wrong, she must be good in other areas but not ADHD!
she would even talk about it, my sessions where for 45 minutes & she would be rushing me off the phone in 15 to 20 minutes, she only wanted to see me one a month & that was fine, but then I found out she was billing my insurance bi-weekly, so taking to double the payments per month & I wasn't even getting the full 45 minutes & she never brought up ADHD, so I dropped her.
Now I am back no Psychologist again.
I feel incredibly alone in all this.
I mean not even all doctors think to highly of it, let alone people in my life.
Forgive me for saying this but I think if I was Diagnosed with anything else & not ADHD,
I would have a better time, as far as finding the right help & my husband & (I didn't tell most) family being a lot more supportive.
I know I sound like I am playing my tiny 🎻,
& I know that giving up is Not an option but I keep hearing help is out there, just ask & in my opinion that is BS.
I still can't get my husband to even to not believe me but to do his own research.
hoping my opinion changes, I am just having a long tuff patch, & a long patch of bad luck.
I know this way to long, I don't expect anyone to read this, I think I just needed comment on it, just to make me feel better.
Sorry if you did read all of this🤪
but thanks
✌

[labadabadoe]

How do I contact a psychologist? Do I call and say « hi I want a ADHD test/diagnosis? » or would that make them biased?..

[charlotte]

Perfect choice of song 😎 Thank you for all your solid advice. Getting diagnosed helped me understand a lot about myself but I really didn't know what to do about it to help. Finding some strategies, giving myself some credit & compassion helps ❤