One simple trick to reclaim your power | Kasia Urbaniak | TEDxRosario

Throughout centuries, women have been trained to give up their power. With a simple communicational hack, they can reclaim their power when facing gender inequality, no matter the stakes. But the question is, why do women freeze in the first place? In this provocative and insightful talk, Kasia Urbaniak explores the effects of cultural conditioning and the difference between power and gender dynamics, while teaching us to change the way we have conversations as a society, so both women and men can reach their full potential as human beings.

Kasia Urbaniak spent 17 years studying to become a Taoist nun. To foot the bill for her studies, she worked as a high-paid (and extremely successful) dominatrix in dungeons around New York City. What she learned in these two wildly different settings has turned into her life’s work, teaching women about power dynamics and influence to become better leaders. Her mission: to redefine what it means to be a good girl.

[priagrace]

This might be the best thing I've ever seen on the internet.

[jimwinter-card.]

My wife discovered Kasia, I have become obsessed. She is so brilliant and exactly on point! I am a HUGE fan and learning from her so much!!

[sudheshkumaran]

What an amazing message. This must be one of the most powerful message that must be delivered to our kids in school so that our community evolves overtime.

[robinreinach]

Kasia Urbaniak explains why women sometimes feel tongue tied at the exact moment when we most want to speak. And Kasia offers a practical solution that is immediately usable by women in the real world. Kasia's delivery is exemplary and her attitude is generous, tender, and brilliant.

[raebarto]

This concept has been a game changer for me. I’ve started practicing “questioning back” and the power I feel within myself is amazing. I’m about to read Kasia’s book because I want more.

[FYPNLP]

I've taken Kasia's verbal course which is the ted talk in minute granular detail and I can attest it really does work. Just as you have to exercise to get the body you want for your physical health you have to be consistent in learning how to turn the spotlight. This coupled with NLP linguistics will allow you to break the freeze and own a conversation and not let the power dynamic 'own you'.

[metabolicmarybeth]

Brilliant. Impactful. Actionable.
Thank you Kasia for being a bright light in the dark for many women.

[jarodandbrandiokano]

I took your advice about asking a question with a question and it totally worked. Not only did it stop the person but I also got an apology for them asking the question. It did make me feel so inpowered.

[LizLaManche]

A simple yet revolutionary concept of the dynamics at work in communication and personal power. Inspiring, with a real-world practice you can use right away.

[stephaniebryant]

I am deeply moved by this woman and her work. This simple tool is a profound strategy to interrupt learned behavior in a way that brings us closer to what we want from ourselves and each other. So very powerful!

[kaiawang]

One of the most powerful TED Talks I've ever watched! So true and empowering for women.

[ShootTheMoonStudio]

This is pure, piercing, unadulterated genius. Ya just know it when you hear it. So rare.

[Mahrukh]

This is wonderful. It got me thinking about experiences in my own personal life. I can definitely relate to the freeze as a woman. It's time we realized dominance and gender dynamics are two completely different things!

[pnartugaykaraca]

This truly nails it! Thank you for the fantastic analysis of the state of things as they are and ways to handle them differently. I am absolutely going to try this for myself and share it.

[FreyaGem]

Wow. This was exceptional...had to watch it two times in a row!

[MonifaHarris]

I've read her book many times and I still am floored by the simple brilliance of her work. I'm still working on the not easy part

[sydneymav]

hate how we treat women as less. when they just might be better than men. maybe neither is better but both deserve RESPECT

[rubymaubert]

Wow!!!! Simply wow. Easy, straight forward, truly genius. Brillaint

[giselamoda]

I want you to think about the dominant and submissive states of attention like your right hand and your left hand. You need both of them, you need to know how to use them and use them well. Up until now we’ve been asking men to cut off one hand and women to cut off the other and the result in terms of human communication has been catastrophic. Kasia Urbaniak

[fitfizz]

Yes! Yes! Yes! Pure empowerment! So much admiration for Kasia.