My Best Friend Is A Guy... Is His Girlfriend Jealous?

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In this week's episode of LOVELife, I take a call from Aubrey on what she can do to ease the awkwardness between her and her best guy friend's new fiancée.

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[deeeana]

I find it suspect how she does not have time to find love but has time for him? She seems to be making excuses to not move on. I think she secretly loves him. She also mentioned she had these problems with his past girlfriends as well...

[adrees]

I love how Matthew was very polite to this woman but still put her in her place. Raise your hand if you know she isn’t going to follow his advice and he will eventually break off the friendship cuz his wife demands it. Women need to stop going after men who are taken. Men and women will take forever to learn. How do I know? I’m guilty and just now figuring it out for myself.

[mannelshah]

i don't know, maybe i'm just jumping to conclusions, but am i the only one to suspect that she's secretly in love with that best friend ? 

[jennyaxelbraucher]

That's liar! If she have no time why she get get involve with others peoples bf! Excuses!!! Go and have your own life and leave the couples alone

[pinkqueenscookie]

Huh...I find it strange that she's apparently his bestie but she's has only met the fiancee a handful of times? That's definitely why she feels uncomfortable, I agree show her you're not a threat. 

[Fstop]

so shes busy with her work for any social activities but has time to worry this much about this guy to the point where his gf is concerned???

[Mariyahfatima]

Why is it still awkward for her to be friends with his girlfriend? She’s his wife to be, give her that respect.

[vintagegirl]

She acting like she owns this man, hes not in a relationship with you girl, go find a man that's single. She likes seeking attention from him, controlling him.

[maddyG]

Matthew is way too charming to even be real. I need to continue to improve my confidence so that if a guy this articulate and warm and sweet approaches me I don't totally blow it. 👏😍

[m.szarzanowicz]

Anyone find it suspect that this woman has time for her male best friend, but does not have time to find a romantic relationship? I agree 100% that men and woman can be friends without a Sexual tone however there still needs to be a level of compatibility between the two, thus there would be enough reason for his fiance to feel uncomfortable about it. I agree with Matt that the key to a successful friendship with someone who is attached would be to be a friend to both. I too am that crazy dog lady who enjoys diy projects and i relate better to men, women tend to be intimidated, caddy, bring drama, gossip, and guys are much easier to have a comfortable friendship, talk about sports, competitive... but I find it super odd that she has time for him and not for other males.

[scenepunk]

Some intresting points i think if i were in the fiance's position doing those things would definetly put me at ease. I would be suspicious about her lack of time. I would wonder if shes trying to keep herself busy so she doesnt have to think her best friend is marrying another woman.

[tabiade]

Omg I love Matt hahaha when he was like then you should live alone haha

[iselarodriguez]

Matthew Hussey seems like a very warm person (:

[SheOnEarth]

Great advice! I ended up on this video by accident, but loved watching it! I’ve actually been in similar situations before. In the past, the boyfriend made a new female friend and they got close very quickly where they would talk a lot. The main issue was that she wasn’t respectful towards me, and wasn’t interested in talking to me or getting to know me at all! Unfortunately the guy couldn’t understand why this was a problem and he couldn’t understand that if someone didn’t have an ill motive, they wouldn’t do this.

Other situation was that the best friend of the guy was already there, they were old friends. But the whole dynamic between them felt quite strange. They acted like a couple and did everything together, except they didn’t have sex. They even did the childish talk that some couples do, that weirded me out a lot. To me it felt like he was already in a relationship, he just didn’t know it yet.

The other people I’ve observed, the friends of the opposite sex who are super close to each other, they do seem like a couple and act like a couple. There is definitely a line that gets crossed, even if there is nothing physical.


Usually if we’re all together and the guy and the friend behave in a way that makes me feel like I’m not the girlfriend and someone else is, then they’ve crossed a line. It’s usually when they’re actually being disrespectful but then they don’t understand why something can be disrespectful.


Now I think I would avoid a guy with a female best friend. But I think I would appreciate it if he has some female friends, because then it means he’s capable of relating to women and communicating well. A female best friend, I can’t be bothered to go through those things again when there are so many other good options out there lol

[lakmak]

I’m in the middle such female ‘ friend’ interfering with our relationship and considering break up. Leave couple alone!

[rosemariemerzlak]

If the boyfriend has a girl as a friend while he's in a relationship with someone else that extra woman should have respect in his new relationship

[michelerose]

she is so busy, but has time to call in to a talk show about her friend and worry herself about her friend come on she likes her guy friend ...

[AravahStar]

I'm curious to know how you stand on this "men and women can't be friends" debate. I think it's very difficult for two people who really enjoy each other to go for long without one or both being attracted to the other in a way that is more than friendship. 

[BrittanyLovesStyle]

Your videos always make me smile and bring me a sense of peace and clarity. Thank you so much Matt! 

[mariebelladean]

Wish more women thought like this! I’m kind of in a situation like this one. Boyfriend has a female best friend, first time meeting her was brutal! she hardly talked to me, couldn’t make eye contact and pretended like she didn’t know anything about me or how we met, even tho he tells her everything. I tried to be her friend and even bought her a drink, but she was really cold.