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[jcortese]

Powerlessness. It's about powerlessness and mattering to no one.

[myroc]

Feeling unheard at work. Recently speaking with my father, i told him something three times. Each time he ignored what i said and kept talking. It was worse as a kid because they had the "adults are talking" type of power. Now I see the same pattern at work.

[coralmccrystal]

This is helpful. I have only recently realised that they're not actually my "thoughts". They're my attempt to solve childhood problems. My narcissistic parents played their power games very early. Instead of helping or showing me how to go about things, they used my lack of knowledge as a weapon. It's unfair because I was very willing to learn. Just waking up to this now. They started me on the habit of arguing with myself. Thank you for this validation Patrick.

[lms]

I'm finding my inner child sits close to the surface and tries to respond when theres no need to now. I keep telling her I love her and its safe now to. I got this.

[ClaudetteMiss]

So many many many stories in my head and all at the same time😭

[FrisbeeGirl]

Lack of resources and wholesome ways to acquire enough resources to be safe.

[sitapixie]

It is not being listened to, no matter what it is. Not being heard, not counting at all, not being worth being around or worth spending any time on. Being not only lonely and alone but being actively discounted and ignored. Might as well have been a ghost in my childhood with how i felt i counted. It's carried over into all my relationships in adulthood. I still feel still feel that way at almost 50. I dont know what i "want to be" or who i even am. I'm disappointed by that because you'd think i would have figured that out by now.

[susangrande]

Yep. I’ve been addicted to watching/listening to the “bad people getting their comeuppance” videos. My trauma is about my perceptions not being believed or respected; I had to have Mom’s perspectives. It’s rage about being told my perceptions and feelings were wrong and bad and stupid. I’ve been healing from that wound a lot. God made me precisely to have my own perceptions and feelings, not duplicate Mom’s or anyone else’s. And, I’ve figured out why it was so important to Mom that I believe and act the way SHE wanted me to: it was because her own self-identity was so shaky, she needed my identity to shore up hers. It was too threatening to her identity for me to be different from her. In other words, she had to make me be a “mini me” for her identity’s reinforcement. After she died (10 years ago), it took me 6 months to come to the idea that it was truly time for me to figure out who I am without her telling me who I am. I’m 65 years old.

[FilippaSkog]

A narrative I’m battling right now is that I’ll never have a job in my field because I’ll never be seen as good enough. Finally getting done with my master’s degree, a little later in life but not awfully late. Excellent grades, great recommendations. Still feeling like no one will want me because… well… I’m just wrong, my whole being is wrong. I’ve always been wrong. An outsider. Not good enough. Not worthy of a normal, good life no matter what I accomplish. Best suited to live in poverty and suffering.

Logically I know this isn’t true. I’m well liked and respected, I’m a hard worker and my work is usually very appreciated. But in my head I’m still unworthy of it all and now that I’m looking for a job I’m scared to death that I’ll never get chosen.

[Rich_]

After meeting with my counselor this week, I realized my story has been: “I can fix it, it’s all up to me, and if I don’t, our whole family will fall apart.” That’s the message I was given as a kid. But now, I’m tired of trying to fix everything, and it’s not my fault that they’re so fragile and easily offended.

[linden]

My story is recognising how hard things were before and feeling grief and self-compassion and making space for that. It's very loving towards myself, but emotional too. It's also seeing how deep the hole was I climbed out of and realising that I just kept climbing so I'm a good way up a hill now. There is a bit of an "I'll always be grieving the past" narrative and I don't know if that's acceptance or resignation.

[deelitebetterpen]

I really like how you don’t blame really, you encourage people to self-reflect. I would like to know how to encourage people who project their feelings like this onto me?

[cleavland]

I have moments in the past 20 years, brief moments, where I can get out of the story mindset. It really is a unique experience. Like everything else, its impermanent. There is a feeling in the center of my chest that relaxes when the story is not present.

[Kelly_Grey]

Every day was a fight with my inner child for decades. The narrative would start right after waking, as intrusive thoughts. Remember the trauma, remember (my father) did this to me, remember that thing he did you don't want to remember. Remember, remember, remember. I got her to stop by brainspotting and inner child work.
I REALLY was not wanting to do inner child work, which is probably why I needed to do it so badly. My therapist said I was doing the inner child work intuitively, and I said, "well, she's been in my head for 35 years (at that point)". Now I stop and assess my situation when she gets triggered, it's a learning process.

[zofiajaneczek]

I’d like to erase that story where I constantly under earn, remain poor, struggle and suffer for it mentally and physically! I’m so done with that story already and yes, at this point, I do realize that the abuse I sustained for decades is part of what’s keeping me from reaching my fullest potential and the other half of the puzzle is on me to resolve as an adult. Granted, not having the means for therapy is certainly doing me no favors either. I’m not a deadbeat and I’m employed over 40 hours a week but can not actually afford to live!

[Thehook]

We go in our heads because no one is listening to us - no validation and no communication- no one to help us move beyond a disappointment or conflict or confusion 😶

[pepperspikes]

this is where i’m stuck though. i can recognize the patterns and the stories and the reasons, and i can see that it doesn’t have to be that way, but i can never fully move past it because i’ve never really been loved and i never feel like i have enough evidence that those things are really untrue. i know i shouldn’t seek extrinsic validation, but it’s just hard to find it intrinsically when no one has ever wanted to get close to me and/or wanted to stick around, which makes me wonder if there really is something wrong/bad about me.

[claudiamithunden]

I'm getting aware again, that whenever my emotions are too much for me, I'm going in my head and tell me storys over and over.
The solution? I try to get into my body and feel what there is to feel. I talk to my inner child, the little me from years ago and hug her.
The storys are only distractions from the pain deep inside me...

[jazzsoul]

My major experience has been abandonment: First my mother abandoning HERSELF, and I picked up that " nobody's home feeling". Then dad abandoned us, then men I dated, then my older sister became a Narc, then being gaslit by supervisors, now my landlord. So it's important to learn, but also get the Fk away from all these people and learn to affirm yourself. Talk to living good people, exercise, learn to sing!

[ProtagonistVon]

Hopelessness, that I’m stuck and I can’t get out of my half-safe(as long as I stay quiet and keep myself alive I’m fine) conditions no matter what actions I take.

When I do functionally know if I stopped beating myself up, and got help, I could stop this spiral of waiting for help so I can get out.

That hasn’t happened yet.