How I get my children to listen

During frustrating conversations with your child, it’s important to remain calm and respectful — even if everything in you wants to start a shouting match. It’s easier said than done, but it teaches your child that you’re only interested in proactive discussions, not reactive ones.

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[MJFish]

This is off topic but your hair is amazing, and you are gorgeous.

[GeorgePooshoes]

The reason why I’m yelling is because I’m sick of asking and following your idea 6-7 times per directive.

[NikNik]

Absolutely! I agree with your saying 100% and second your hair is beautiful sis ♥️♥️♥️💕💕

[Gvno]

So while I was watching this and about the you know calm voice or quiet voice my daughter through empty bottles on the floor so I done a lower voice than her and then she looked at me with a confused frowning face, and then she said what motion are you feeling and then she said sad and I said no tired I guess and she said NO you happy, and I said no and now she's hearing me speak on my phone and she's like no no talking mummy. Talk to (said her name) 😂

[RuthannBattles]

I failed at that raising mine. You are a wonderful example.

[nath]

I recently saw a child psychologist who said, don't repeat your request when creating authority. For each time you repeat it you loose a authority point. If your child doesn't listen the second time, go to your child and ask "how come....?" Example your child is playing, you tell them "go put on your shoes" if they don't listen go to them place a hand on their shoulder try to get eye contact and ask "how come you don't wanna put on your shoes?". Then you can continue give the same instruction, without negotiation, but still show that you understand their frustration. At least that's what he said.

[katebialik]

Well guess what it doesn’t work with my son. Like not at all. He seems to take pleasure in not listening and doing the very thing that i tell him not to do.