How To Message Girls On Instagram | Courtney Ryan

In this video, I go over the best ways to message girls on Instagram to have the highest chance of getting a response. Nothing is guaranteed, but knowing these things will definitely help you out. I also go over some things NOT to do and speak about my personal experience... trust me on this one guys. Let me know down below if you’ve messaged girls on Instagram and what has worked for you!

[JamesRDavenport]

NEVER be too invested in the outcome of an online interaction. Say something on point or ask a specific question then get on with your real life. If she doesn't respond, you'll live I promise.

[ryanbarker]

I think the biggest thing no matter how you talk to each other is getting out of the mindset that you have to win somebody over. Just continue to talk to them as long as you are both enjoying it. If one person falls out of the conversation, move on.

[mattsmith.]

Girls have thousands of dm’s that they don’t even read while most guys have 0 dm’s and we’re just waiting for at least 1. Life ain’t fair

[HL-clid]

If she doesn’t respond to your dm, you go for her friends. Stay toxic kings 👑👑👑

[JosueExplores]

Even if a girl has 1, 000 followers, if she has mostly selfies and thirst traps, she could have 1, 000 unread messages.

Personally I like to follow women in my local area that I recognize, I also prefer if they upload a photo once in a blue moon. This shows that she’s not a slave to external validation.

And then when she finally posts a story, like Courtney says respond to her story.

[Incognito_alien]

You have been posting like a champ! Congratulations on the channel’s growth and thanks for helping us knuckleheads.

[Treisiess]

As someone who has tried dating a girl in another country and through long distance, I can personally guarantee Courtney is completely right. They're hard, but if you are able to make it work it is worth it. I recommend avoiding the sex talk and focus on the emotional aspect first, though, playful flirting is fine to develop some tension for when the sex does happen. It makes so much better.

[testosteronemastery]

I think a good general rule of thumb is to avoid messaging girls you haven’t met and interacted with in person. As always, great tips Courtney.

[pywifishingandoutdoors]

From my experience, chances are pretty low. I've had more success in person than just messaging online. It works because I've done it before, a relationship that lasted 2 years. As long as you can get a conversation going and eventually meet up, you can call it a date or not, and the both of you get a feel for each other, it could work, your ratio is just a lot slimmer b/c everyone is also sending messages and the gap btw the two of you is wider if there is no connection developed from the beginning. Great content Courtney, always appreciate these helpful and insight!

[Sparta]

Commenting on the stories has worked to get responses for me. I remember one girl posted something about all the adult things you start doing after 30. I replied with " You start telling everyone how awesome your airfryer and instant pot is". I thought it was funny (and true) so did she.

[rushx]

thanks for not being a shittalker like many other “dating” channels out there

[Teamshmo]

The key is to say something beyond hilarious in her story questions. Or you can ask her something very important that only her knowledge can help you with. She will message you first with either one. Also, you can respond to story questions every day without looking creepy since it's not just a wall of messages in her dm. Just talk from there and don't say anything weird and you're good. If you talk a few times send a meme or animal pic she may like and she'll start to think you're cool. Put actual effort in to make sure they are great. Don't message her every day wanting to talk about bullshit either. Never send a pic of yourself or cock as you want her to start to wonder what you look like. Build up the mystery. She'll start to send you some exclusive pics and secretly try to get you to send something back. Give good sexual innuendo comments to them, but never send anything in return. Eventually she'll be dying to know and ask you for them. From there ask her out if she lives near you. She'll definitely say yes since she kinda knows you and obviously wants to know more. If she lives far at least you made a new secret friend you can send nudes and jokes with. Finally, not everyone gets along. Some girls message you and some won't. It's nothing against you. Just the way she goes.

[Simon]

Me slides in her DM's: "Hi"
Her: "Sorry do I know you?"

[admirbarucija]

It’s really rare that I message on social media, excited to hear your thoughts on this! ☺️

[kosher]

Good one! I’m always messaging women (not “girls”) I’m attracted to on IG. It’s hit & miss. Sometimes I get a response. Sometimes I don’t.

[pitoblogg]

I will tell her: “Lokation, send me lokation, I’m gonna come. Dublin, Brooklyn, Moscow, London, I don’t care, I’m gonna come. Lokation. Tell me where, and what time.”

[m_]

Yeah totally works i usually never text a girl once i follow her instead i wait till i see some interesting post on her story so i can come up with creative replies that will keep the conversation going

[richardwagner]

Great advice. Always appreciate a woman's viewpoint on communication tips for guys. This is what we really need to learn before jumping into the deep end. Keep it up.

[DarkRipper]

- The guy who sent over 500 messages rn:
“Yeah I got finally noticed” 😂

[frankmartinez]

Courtney great work wanted to share an experience I have been having lately and maybe you can answer why women do this. A few weeks ago a started talking to a girl just out of politeness, I found her attractive but didn't think much of it. All of a sudden she started finding ways to catch my attention, secret telling with her girlfriends when I would walk by. She would get nervous while I was around, I speak to some of her friends whom I have known longer and they would make jokes about me hooking up with her. When it was more than obvious that she liked me I decided to shoot my shot. I told her I thought she was beautiful and that I would like for us to get to know each other. Gave her a ride home one day and I told her about my life a little bit and she shared some of her life as well. After that day she started acting differently giving me short answers to my questions and just disinterested. This has happened to me with a few girls that I know liked me, as soon as I show interest back they begin acting funny. Now I don't know how to proceed when a girl is flirting with me. I know most girls won't take the initiative so what the hell am I supposed to do to let her know I like her as well without scaring her off. Please help