Essentialism: How to Do Less & Have More Impact

Freedom is knowing the power of doing less. Today I'm excited to share how to do less & prioritize your life, which is essentially teaching you how to design your life around what matters to you. You'll get a chance to self reflect & answer some journal prompts in this video to help you figure out what to focus on.

Essentialism is the concept of "less, but better." It's okay to do less, if you're choosing to do the right things. Focus on impact and value. Stop doing busywork and wasting time on distractions! Let's continue to hone in on how we spend our time and energy, and design our dream lives with clarity and intention. 💎✨

The best part about this is that it supports being gentle and compassionate with ourselves. Take off that pressure to do so much, or try to be everything to everyone. Focus on what truly matters and the most impactful actions, and everything will be fine. 💜

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I’m Aileen, a lifestyle creator sharing knowledge and inspiration on creating your dream life.

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Disclaimer: This is NOT a sponsored video. All opinions expressed are wholly my own. Some links I share are affiliate links, which means I earn a small commission if you make a purchase through them.

[Sarah.g.carter]

"My growth doesn't have to be visible to others. And that's okay."
I had to pause the video and write that one down in my journal. This video came at the perfect time for me. <3

[lavendaire]

If you haven't noticed, there's been a thread of my personal growth in my videos for the past couple years on self worth, success, and healing.

Someone commented saying that because of my financial freedom now, my values have shifted and I can afford to do less. She said: "Those who are still struggling, like me, to be financially free - have to grind still. I know you were grinding for a long time, and that is why you are able to slow down now - which is fantastic and I'm so happy for you. I just feel that if we don't work hard in the beginning we won't have that opportunity to do less."

Here's my answer:

This video isn't about not working hard, it's about choosing to work on the RIGHT things for the RIGHT reasons. And not trying to do everything. We all have to work hard at building our dream life. The problem was, I realized that I was "grinding" for the wrong reasons. I had tied my self worth with my success/productivity. I was trying to prove my worth to my parents & peers. Once I achieved financial freedom & abundance, I still found myself stressing & putting an immense pressure on myself to do so much, saying yes to projects and overcommitting myself even if I didn't need the money. Why was I putting myself through this? Even with enough money and a job I loved, I still found myself feeling low & insecure when a new video didn't get as many views. Something in me needed these numbers to prove my worth, like I was invalidated if these numbers weren't growing. It wasn't about the money; because it was all tied to my self worth, I was making myself suffer when I really didn't have to. I'm learning to let go of that now.

It's about learning not to hustle for hustle's sake, but to truly work on things that you're excited to do, for the right reasons. You define what "success" and "productive" looks like to you - and it shouldn't matter what others think or if others even SEE your journey. It's not about proving yourself to others. It's about living a life that YOU are proud of. 💕

[vijaypatil]

Essentialism is not about how to get more things done; it’s about how to get the right things done. It doesn’t mean just doing less for the sake of less either. It is about making the wisest possible investment of your time and energy in order to operate at our highest point of contribution by doing only what is essential.

[Caroline_Kim_]

I’ve been watching a lot of Lavendaire’s videos recently as I’m starting to transition into the adult stage of my life, figuring out who I am, my goals and dreams, etc. And I am SO appreciative to this channel. Not to say everything is figured out but when I feel lost, this channel helps me find my way again and I am so thankful for all the wonderful advice I’ve gotten from this channel ❤️

[crash_error]

quarantine seems like a competition of productivity among my friends and I feel so pressured. This helped me thank you so much.

[ElizabethAnnD]

I literally was crying over my morning cup of coffee about this. You inspire me, thank you.

[chandelperez]

I’m glad I am not the only on feeling this way. Feel overwhelmed now that I’m graduating soon and I do not know what to do.

[ana-m.m]

I found this video exactly when I needed it. currently I am listening to your podcasts, I started last week with the first one and I keep on going. Thank you for the inspiration and that you are making us improve our lives. We are so caught up in our daily routines and procrastinate and we forget to live the moment and enjoy what we have or improve our journey through life. 💜

[leticiacornish]

wow i did not think this video was going to hit me so much. i stopped at the middle and started feeling anxious, because everything you said resonated with ME.


I told myself that this weekend is all about doing this I love, which is self-development. Learning and putting it into practice. SOMEHOW I STILL GET STRESSED about working on my passions because I try to do SO MUCH in only one day.


When I did the list of everything I want to learn and do, it is quite a It should not feel like this so... My mind shifted. I circled the things for today, saturday!!!! and left other things for tomorrow.


It hit how anxious I got watching and pausing the video to think of answers. It did not feel like a video of you talking about you, it felt like you were talking about me.
Moreover, I just recently got a smart watch so I did a funny thing and I checked my heart rate, which was HIGHER while I was thinking about this! crazy, isn't?


thank you so much for your content x

[Mmoehi]

in this qarantine time i realized 90% of my stress and emotional breaks was because of my toxic friends and people i was connected to, you made me realize how to overcome stress and be more productive, thank you

[spiritedamanda]

Lavendaire, I am so appreciative to have come across your channel! Since then I have been loving playing your videos for inspiration 💓🙏

[bryanbutchmartin]

I've always felt like minimalism and essentialism are the same thing. And if not, they are similar and compliment each other well!

[cesslacatango]

I really, really love the aesthetic. Just looking at your videos just calms me.

This is so helpful for me, I actually think I am the only that puts so much pressure on me that it actually results to breakdown.

[hasnaassemlali]

Oh my God, your videos are great. I loved it very much, especially because you put the translation in Arabic. This attracted me to watch it because I do not understand English. I use translation only as I do now. Also, the important thing is I liked your videos.💜💜

[ClaireLamb]

This is so good! Paused this to journal . My health is top priority- want to feel better and more well in mind and body . Everything else comes after this.

[thecpcollective]

This video has brought so much to light for me. Thank you Aileen. 💕

[mariyehgmaramawi]

You really Inspire me a lot, and Whenever I'm sad or insecure i watch your Videos and then i feel Better and motivated to Focus on my goals

[yenart]

Thanks for the video. It comes at the perfect time for me. I need it. Wish you health, happiness and peace every single day

[LivingGratefully]

You are one of my original favorite you tubers!!! 💘 I needed to hear this message loud and clear. Loved what you said about you need to decide what matters most to spend time on. If you don’t decide, other factors/people/events will decide for you. I have definitely been spreading myself too thin and unable to focus and feeling down 😞 about not getting enough done. Looking forward to using some of the tips here in this video!!! THANK YOU!

[watchme]

I’m saying many yes every time don’t know why it’s just comes out
This video is for me just what I wanted and no one would tell me small thing means a lot that people don’t realise it

It’s so hard to know what my goals are 🤔 everyday thinking 🤔 about it

🙏 Thank You 🙏