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[kellygreenii]

Non-reactivity. Non-attachment. You can let them be who they are, and choose to not let it affect you.

[lauraw.]

You know that you’re a good person no matter what,
And difficult people are just acting out their trauma by making things about you.🎉
Thank you

[RowanRiven]

The list of things that trigger me is constantly shrinking. This was such an encouraging video. Sometimes you don't even see your own progress until someone reflects that back at you. Thank you! ❤

[tnijoo]

I can’t imagine ever getting to that point. 😢

[nonabonn]

Honestly, not caring about my abusive grandmother's feelings anymore has been SO beneficial to my life. Growing up with her I internalized a lot of her manipulation & genuinely believed I was a cruel & selfish person for wanting basic respect and boundries. Now whenever I have to see her I don't go out of my way to cater to her emotional wants - I'm not nasty towards her, just normal. And it doesn't affect me now when she gets upset by that. Life feels so free in a way I couldve never imagined 10 years ago. The only tough part is seeing my mother not be able to reach the same ability & still being triggered all the time

[sixtysense]

Such a good reminder. Thanks Patrick ❤

[FuschiaFrogFrappe]

I love your content, it’s been a true help. I’d love to hear your thoughts on grief and childhood trauma.

I was no contact most of my adult life but only recently started therapy. They both died last year. It’s been a very complicated grieving process. I find I am grieving most for what could have been and that they never got help.

[TraumaRex]

The first step to healing is being willing to feel the uncomfortable, agonizing, painful, humiliating memories and I for one will not shame anyone for how that appears or how it happens. Something to recognize as well ESPECIALLY WITH TRAUMA is the MORE STRESS a person is in, the WORSE the trauma can cycle and the WORSE thinking can become. Stress management I would argue is more important than giving a fuck what anyone else thinks.

[sharonthompson]

I'm not quite there yet, but I've come. so. FAR. 🎊🥰🎈🎉

[abbykoop]

My mom sent a box of stuff up to me with my cousin one time. I rolled my eyes when she told me what she had (I haven't seen my mom since 1995). Then she said that she saw my mom in the hospital and she thought she was just clearing out some mementos as she was getting older and didn't know how much time she'd have left. Oh ... OK. After my cousin left I opened the box. At first I wasn't sure what the items were or why she would send them to me. Then I saw the note..."None of this means anything to me any more". I realized that it was all the little gifts and cards and home made cards and booklets I had given her over the years, especially my childhood. I couldn't believe it! Like, what kind of childish slap in the face was that? Like, if you don't want it, give it away, throw it away, whatever. But I took a deep breath and did it myself. Sent some to goodwill and some to the dump. And read over the cards, especially the home made ones and thought...."Damn! I was such a great daughter!!"

[maddi]

Still working on it. Know the exact trigger points. Still working on the fearful thoughts. Will get there...😉🙌

[daniellfourie]

Slowly getting there... but my stomach still jumps... The body possibly learns slower.

[Emlane]

I never knew true sense of security/safety/peace until much later in life because unreasonable/unjust treatment occurred and was always rationalized

[jeremiahalexander]

My dad calls me out of the blue at 10pm, sometimes 11pm. It rattles me. He’s doing it because he knows I’m not busy and he knows that if it’s an abnormal hour, I’ll think it’s an emergency and pick up right away. The routine has gotten stale.

[annaburns]

I just looked at my older brother’s photos on Facebook. He’s a lawyer and he posted pictures of his girlfriend and him on the beach.
It looked like he was even about to go on a cruise. But that’s probably just facebook for you.
I live near the beach, but I can’t afford to go and I also have medical conditions.
I remember a time when he wouldn’t even give me $1 to buy a water or a coffee at a coffee shop. And I knew he was loaded.
I’m recently out of homelessness and I didn’t even know that he was coming around my neck of the woods. You know that you have really been rejected by your family when they don’t even let you know that they are visiting.
Of course I cried.
But then I remembered all the good things that God has done for me lately. I’m still no where near as rich as he is. But I have something that money can’t buy.

[Jessens]

My dad is literally not on this earth anymore and i feel like he's still in control of my life. He's been gone for almost 8 years now and I've been through a bunch of different therapy since then but it feels like nothing has changed.

[kateribarry]

I recently experienced EXTREME second hand embarrassment from something that happened to my Mom. I was shocked by how rattled I was, thinking things like "Doesn't she know better? When will she grow up? Why didn't I say something that could have stopped this." It was kind of a wake up call. Still working through it, but glad I had the presence of mind to step back from it.

[SuperBlakes]

I cant wait for that day. Still get into the fights in my head.

[PotsandPansWhatsPotsandPans]

For me it's recognizing for some people my back says more effectively than my mouth ever could. It's still an ongoing process to recognize when I'm in denial and grieving those I have learned are sadly that type of person.

[snuggisthecute]

I think I'm getting there. I've been no contact for 8 years and am still learning ways in which I'm codependent in certain situations. I am working on being unapologetically myself at family reunions and not making excuses or feeling as though I have to explain my choices. I can finally be myself away from these people and now that I've experienced that I'm NOT giving it up, even if I have to lose them. Totally worth it IMO.