I don't want kids (ft. Julie Nolke)

Timothy Lum
Melvin Teagai
Frank Martinez
Vanessa Khoo
Edward Hirst
Marcus Lechner
Ian Abinoja
Charles W Jansen II
Alexis Gonzales
Kevin Swiger
Elaine Tso

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shot & edited by Eric Lombart

produced by Amber Grace

grip - Melissa Gasca, John Lee

sound - John Lee

gfx by Bethany Radloff

[AnnaAkana]

Thank you so much to top-tier patrons for your support!
Timothy Lum
Melvin Teagai
Frank Martinez
Vanessa Khoo
Edward Hirst
Marcus Lechner
Ian Abinoja
Charles W Jansen II
Alexis Gonzales
Kevin Swiger
Elaine Tso

[michaelnawa]

Instead of saying"I don't want kids"I'm gonna start
saying"my bloodline ends with me". Its much more dramatic

[peachussyy]

KIDS DESERVE PARENTS WHO ACTUALLY WANT AND ARE PREPARED TO HAVE THEM. period

[HAlC-uphm]

"Just because you can, doesn't mean you should...even if you'd be good at it." applies to many things, including parenthood.

[gabbym]

I'm a teacher and working with kids has taught me that raising a human being to be a compassionate, respectful, functional member of society is an insane amount of work. I wish people thought more extensively about whether they really want to/are able to put in the necessary work to raise a kid. I feel like a lot of people have kids because of societal pressure, even though they are not in a place to love and care for the kid the way the kid truly deserves.

[Exdus]

As a father I wanna say, it's not for everyone.
It IS for me though, I love it. But I was Ready for it. We wanted it for a long time, talked about it for a long time, had several miscarriages, but kept on trying.

And now my daughter is the coolest kid in the world. And all the parenting stuff, diapers, waking nights, dealing with tantrums, all that, was totally worth it.

BUT I knew I was ready. I knew it was something I wanted.

If you don't have that certainty, don't do it.

[rosegoldhiips]

i dont want kids bc i dont have the right temperament to handle kids and i dont want to traumatize another human being who didn't ask to be brought into this world. i dont want "traumatized a kid" on my concise.

[nora_]

Really the biggest abnormality in society is that people try to make you feel like a cruel person for not wanting kids. You can't just get pregnant because you want to or you've been taught that that's the next step in life. You have to be PREPARED. Most people can't even look after themselves, they deal with their emotions like toddlers and for some reason feel very confident and excited to be parents. Honestly if you're worried about being able to raise a kid, that shows you are actually aware of how hard and important that job is and in my eyes that's a sign of maturity.

[SamElle]

im 24 and at this stage, I don't think I want kids. There is SOOO much pressure from my family that I need to get into a relationship and I should be excited to become a mother! I just wish people would stop PUSHING IT

[awkwardaquamarine]

Anna, I'm 39 and single because I don't want kids. I broke up with my longtime BF because he wanted one. In my 20s, I thought kids can wait. I was going to have a successful career and enjoy my life. In my early 30s, I thought there was still time to rethink having kids in case I change my mind. As soon as I hit 35 though, I was firm about not having one. I have 2 sisters who have kids and a sister-in-law I'm close with. The horror stories they tell are enough for me to forgo having kids. In this pandemic, I'm glad I made the right decision for myself, despite the pressures of society and my own family. I have health issues (hereditary) that I wouldn't want to wish on my enemies, let alone a child. The host of diseases in my family history dies with me. Cheers!

[krisnadirgantara]

Two days ago I read on the news there is little girl, 10 years old, raped by her uncle for 6 years. And then she's pregnant and that's how the story blows. Her uncle are facing court, she's got into hospital and right abortion. Somehow, the news broke out, and some public figure dox her identity, that spark people to march to her hospital demanding the hospital and the doctor to stop the abortion. They even go as far as to call her "killer".

When I read this, it reminds me how cruel the world is that I don't want to brought a child to this world.

[LadySugarcube]

Confession time: I was not a wanted kid and grew up without my dad mostly not being around. My mother raised me all on her own and my dad refused to pay allowance most of the time. So my mother had to work six weeks after she gave birth to support us both. I grew up mostly at my grandmothers, but my childhood was anything than stable. My mother is the kindest person on Earth and did so much, she basicially sacrificed her life to raise me all on her own.

Even though she gave her best, I always felt and feel guilty. I know it is not my responsibility and was her choice, but it's what I do and what years of therapy did not fix. I had to go to therapy for 2+ years and I feel more stable, but there is still a lot of work to do.

I completely support people not wanting to have kids and I am furious towards those who still want to convince others to have children stating "that's in your nature". My body, my life, my choice.

[cheryllim]

I don’t want kids too. Didn’t want them when I was 16, don’t want them now that I’m 26. People kept telling me I would change my mind, and nope. Ain’t gonna happen.

[ghostly]

Being a part of the child free community should be normalised

[LuceWithLove]

The question of “Do I actually want this or am I just programmed by society or biology to think I do?” is a complicated one, because they both make up who we are and so everyone, at least by part, acts based on it. And you can’t really separate it from what YOU truly want because you are, at least by part, a product of the society you grew up in 😆

[Dania.q]

I am someone who was raised by a single mother who was not financially, mentally, or emotionally able to care for me. I grew up feeling unlovable, unwanted and a burden. I still struggle with those feeling as an adult despite almost a decade of therapy. Despite all of this I do know that I want a child once I am capable of giving love to myself and others. I want a child, because I know once I am healed that me and my future partner can raise a child who will do good in the world and maybe make it even a tiny bit better. I don’t think not wanting kids is selfish, and I don’t think wanting kids should be looked at as selfish either.

[steffis]

My ovaries are completely quiet and content without kids. Every single day I am grateful for being child free. It's just not for me.

[nicholaslastname]

It's worth noting that there's another option: foster parenting. Maybe the infant phase is overwhelming, but you could serve as a point of stability for a child or even teen.

[coffeebean]

I don't want kids and I remember this random lady was trying to tell why I should have kids and talk about how great kids are- like, how is that supposed to change my mind?

If you have kids, then kudos, but I can't do it.

[NetiNeti-gmbz]

Our society needs to programme loving ourselves first. It's more important to prioritize mental health than regretting creating another soul in this planet.