Modesty Isn’t What You Think It Is | Alex Wilson

[jadynscott]

As a teen girl this was so encouraging. its so hard to live in a society where trends are crop tops and short shorts. I am the only one I know who still wears a one piece swimsuit and have been struggling with wanting to fit in but feeling convicted at the same time. this was an encouragement to me and hopefully more girls who are also struggling like me.

[ThingsILove]

This is gold ladies- when you advertise that your sexuality is the best thing about you, you will attract all the wrong “buyers”. Save yourself years of heartache and live in a way that attracts wholesome people to your life.

[annesley]

God had just revealed to me that the lust I had was from me not knowing my true worth and thinking I needed that attention to feel beautiful. God really just kept reminding me of how beautiful I am and that attention is really worthless because looks don’t last and lust doesn’t satisfy. Great video, I love that you talked about this because a lot of people need it.

[irenicrose]

A lot of girls my age promote dressing immodestly to go against men, but like honestly I dress modestly because it makes me comfortable knowing that I’m pleasing God and not causing men to struggle even more than they have to. Of course guys need self control but we should work together with them to the best of our ability. Also I feel like when people wear more revealing clothes, it’s to attract the attention of others even if the intent is body positivity. I’m comfortable enough in my body to not feel like I have to prove to others that I am confident in it. Also ladies keep in mind that modesty varies from woman to woman. What my sister wears might be modest on her but when I wear it it becomes immodest, so that’s another thing to keep in mind.

[ahkilnalls]

Being modest is a beautiful thing, as a 18 year old young man, my friends(who are also in Christ) agree that there is nothing more attractive than a girl/woman who is wearing a non-sensual modest dress and/or something non-sexual, but it can really be anything that is not attention seeking like not wearing lipstick if you feel convicted to do so or not getting a certain hairdo, it may sound unromantic but there is something so pure about a woman who does not feel the need to showcase her body or who is not conformed to the way of the world but is instead changed by God’s renewal of her mind, so for any girls/woman who are modest, at just the right time a boy/man will be in your life and he will love you and encourage you, in such a way that you’ll be joyful that modesty was one of the ways that God has given you to glorify him. And the relationship will be 1000 times better if you were pure and waited for them, if you shared every bit of your intimacy with them alone. But even if you fall short, don’t be discouraged because God is a redeeming God who can use things planned for evil, for good. But this goes for guys as well, be as pure as possible making not practice of any sort of sensual or sexual immorality. But guys like my friend and I, who seek to acknowledge the Lord in all of our ways, who seek to cling to the wives of our youths and love them as we love ourselves, who have built their houses upon the rock of Christ, we are also the guys who will be patient, kind, loving, just, pure, lovely, humble, meek, and upright in all of our ways, and we will love you because Christ first loved us, we will love you because our love for you represents the love that God had for Israel and the love that Christ has for the church, and one of the reasons we would be with you would be because the first time we saw you, you were modest, you were pure. Seek after modesty in the hopes of not being a stumbling block to others(not to say that others aren’t responsible for their own actions even if there is a stumbling block) and seek after modesty to save guard your own purity. But also know that modest will attract those who have the same God-fearing mindset. So please never tire of doing good because we know that we serve a just God, who at just the right time will exalt you, and although guys like my friend and I are rare, so are girls like you, so we’ll find each other.

2 Corinthians 9:8- “And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things, at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work”

Romans 8:28- “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”

[TheTheresaI]

This morning I asked my husband what’s his favorite thing that I wear because I wanted to look nice for him on Father’s Day. He told me “I want you to wear your modesty. That’s my favorite”

[halleryanne]

I really appreciate this. Modesty is so much more than what people wear, it’s so much more than an amount of fabric. You can be immodest without any skin showing, you can be modest with more skin showing. And yes MODESTY IS NOT ONLY FOR GIRLS!! Thank you! Modesty is a mindset. The question you have to ask yourself is “am I glorifying God with this outfit, or is it getting in the way me glorifying God?” Not “am I showing to much skin?” Or “will people judge me for this?”

[liniem]

This was very eye opening, modesty starts in the heart and acknowledges community :)

[arnoldhorton]

"Modesty is the hands that protects the flame of intimacy." Such a powerful principle.
Lord help me to preserve my flame of sexual intimacy for my future wife. Forgive me if I my lack of moderation or boundaries may have been a stumbling block to your daughters in any form or fashion. Holy Spirit, grant me the wisdom and the discipline to not be excessive with my expressions or indulgent with my attractions. As I preserve myself I ask that You preserve my helpmate while were waiting to meet and Let my fire for the Lord be greater than any passion I have adopted from this world. In Jesus Name Amen

[MasaroZilian]

I'm not a Christian, but this is a really clear and helpful definition of modesty that I never heard before. Thanks for sharing your insights.

[ChloeV.]

I’m naturally curvy and it’s so hard to to find modest videos for my body type . I can be fully covered and still looked at . I know that God is proud knowing that I am trying. I’ll work more on my character than trying to figure out if what I wear is modest or not . It doesn’t matter how much i try to wear something modest, if my heart posture is not right .

[generationsofjesus]

I’m still learning how to dress modestly because New Age had me thinking that self love means wearing less clothes that, that makes you beautiful when you show off your naked body because that’s how God brought you into this world. I was wrong for thinking that Im glad that I found Jesus. And my fiancé makes it hard because he still wants me to dress “cute” like I used to but only for him, we’re not married yet and I don’t want to tempt him with my body and wear provocative things I want to respect myself and my relationship. I’m learning to not get upset when he makes comments like that and remember that I’m doing it for God. Thank you for this video!

[tennehgarlimah]

As a teenager, it can be discouraging to see the youth in this generation consumed with lust and immodesty, especially in my family, so this was really encouraging. The way you explained this was amazing, and I feel more equipped to help others who struggle with immodesty!!! Keep trusting in God, brothers and sisters and be encouraged (Philippians 2:1)

[laurasofiaconcepcion]

This was really helpful. I am a teen who struggles with self-worth and not feeling interesting enough for people to want to talk to me. Now I know that my value is found in Christ and the price he paid for me. Keep up the good work, brother!

[milo_thatch_incarnate]

I want to share my testimony in hopes it'll help women like me. Throughout my childhood, I was invisible. I mean, almost none of my peers knew my name. Whenever I tried to say something in a group, people kept talking like they hadn't heard me, so I just stopped trying. I was labeled "the quiet one" by everyone who knew me, even my family. Once when I was about 8, I almost drowned in a pond at a BBQ, and no one even noticed. That childhood developed in me a deeply-rooted core fear of never being *seen* or *known.*
Now, at 21, I'm a woman, and I "got my curves". I found I was blessed with a beautiful body; curvy hips and small waist, but I gain muscle really easily, so good muscular physique too. It was a major glow-up. All of a sudden, people noticed me -- and because of being invisible for so long, I didn't really care *why* they were noticing me, just that they were. It fed and satiated that fear of never being seen.

I was raised Christian, so I've never gone full-out Kardashian-dress, skin-tight everything and miniskirts and stuff. But in the last few months, I *have* been wearing crop tops as a favorite and very flattering outfit.
But God has been convicting me about it in just the last day or so, and your video helped even more! I knew deep down that I like wearing crop tops because I have a *nice* body, and I like feeling sexy and desirable, instead of invisible (especially to men; what girl isn't mortified by not even being given a single glance by *any men*?!)
God has been showing me that wanting to be seen and desired are NOT BAD things... but my heart still isn't in the right place.

*Your* video revealed another new thing to me: you pointed out that I'm not only causing MEN to stumble by being a tease with my clothing... I'm also making my fellow WOMEN stumble, because those who don't have the hourglass waist and abs that I do may fall into envy, which is just as bad! I had *never thought about that before.* If I wasn't convicted before, I am now. Sure, I like looking beautiful, but not at the detriment of literally *everyone* around me.

[sure]

you have helped me come over suicidal thoughts and lust
Thank you and may God bless your family.AMEN

[Duaynehongo]

You have no idea how important this is for us gen z kids to hear. I don't usually comment on videos but I felt the need to this time to support you and what you're doing. God bless man you're really moving an entire generation closer to Christ

[KA-opof]

I'm a former sex worker. Lately I've been feeling shameful of my past. I recently deleted all the photos on my social media that is inappropriate. It wasn't so much about myself it was I literally didn't want do seduce or influence or cast immoral thoughts on another person's mind. I'm changing the way I dress and carry myself. I really needed to hear this

[bloom.withgrace]

I feel like dressing more modest is something God is tugging at my heart for me to do. It’s just a little tricky when you are a plus size or very very curvy girl. Sometimes I wear things that wouldn’t be immodest but can look that way cuz of my body. I feel like I’m going to start embarking on a journey of what modesty looks like for my body type. I believe modesty looks very different depending on your gender and body type. Therefore, find what types of outfit works for you. Because I know if I do the whole loose clothes or layering clothes that would make me feel and look bulky. And normally those are the types of outfits I have seen in modest fashion videos. But just food for thought... we need more conversation of different types of ways to dress modest.

[tobiosiname]

When you said that self-deprecating words are immodest, I felt that...

This video is highly appreciated. I do find it interesting that modesty's essence can remain in any age and culture when clothing styles change. But I'm so thankful to God that we can always find modest clothing (and attitudes) no matter which era and culture we live in.