🎯 Why You Act the Way You Do

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[RemarkablyBroken]

Hiding and being by myself as much as possible worked for me

[Bluecity]

I really like this bloke, he makes a lot of sense, no BS …AND, he is really trying to help people to see the world the way it is, NOT how we’ve been “engineered “ to see it.
Nice one mate, keep on keepin’ on!

[heartpumpsdust]

Chase you have the best energy. You make me feel centered and calm so I can absorb the info! Love you!

[ElizabethWarrenYeahYeah]

From 6 to 13 I would say that no matter what I did it wasn't good enough.
I stopped trying to achieve anything as it was only met with disdain, derision and threats of punishment for not doing whatever good enough.
I was punished either way so I stopped trying and learnt to slide into the shadows, to be alone and to stay silent to keep the attention off of me.
Exactly as it is today.

[Tactility]

I never got rewarded. I was told to go outside or in my room. I was constantly punished or beaten. Now I am a strong woman and have 2 kids that I love and adore. I learned with my mistreatment that we all suffer and have insecurities and it has made me be able to see people that are not good and good people. I love your videos Chase. I hope your health and family are well and Blessed. I have been learning so much from you videos.

[anonymity]

I have a tremendous respect for the breadth and scope of your knowledge, understanding, and experience.

[HerMajesty]

At 65, I've spent my life trying to recover from my first 20 years. 16 at hime and the four after I ran away. I did make sure that I did better with my kids. No matter what we do westill make mistakes. The best thing is to own them as soon as possible, and ask for forgiveness.

[ageless-existence]

I was raised in a super strict cult. Following orders was the only way to get approval. I spent the next 30 years trying to learn autonomy, boundaries, decision making, or even trying to understand what my own preferences were. I was the King of people pleasing. I’ve mostly recovered at 48 but man that took a lot of conscious unlearning.

[deborah]

Thank you, Chase. This really helped me. My mother was distant but at the same time extremely controlling. She never hugged or said I love you. She strongly believed in shaming but not building up. It continued almost to the very day she died at 89.

[habbibi]

Brilliantly explained - Stronger emotion leads to deeper memory imprint resulting in adaptation of behaviour

As you say via reward and fear, the brain is associating what is beneficial / Detrimental and reinforcing via emotions.

[johnmaus]

This is very true. When I raised my children my ex wife couldn't find the inner strength to support an agreed upon discipline mode. It was easier for her to avoid conflict by overlooking or toxic positivity. She was absued as a child by an extremely narcissistic mother and a father with no pebbles that allowed that to happen. She was a high performer but it was never recognized. She became what is now called a Dismissive Avoident. She meant well I think by overlooking but it made a huge mess with our son. No accountability for anything he did. He became someone that was incorrigible. As an adult we tried to :save him from him self: she divorced me to save him 3 years ago after 34 years. Parents need to work together and not scapegoat the other parent. The child is modeled disfunction and doesn't learn how to be a productive adult nor have a good relationship with an intimate. Passive parenting " look up the effect" is not good at all.

[dragonflypromoise]

The 3 things that impacted my life with my dad's discipline is 1) Lying gets you in the most trouble 2) If you are not home on time you are grouned for 2 weeks case closed! 3) stealing anything at all from anyone for any reasons you will be disciplined harshly. *Results as an adult: I'm a truth teller, I have NEVER been late to work and I never take anything that doesn't belong to me.

[Mary-tpp]

You’re right on number 1. I had to calm my violent dad down from the time so early I can’t remember. My mom had an alcoholic dad so banned alcohol from our house, but if a drunk customer came to the door looking for my dad because a tractor broke down and he needed parts asap, my Mom would hide in the bathroom and make me go to the door. I’m very’ naturally ‘ good at dealing with out of control people.😢

[LadybugI]

If I was sitting across from him I would be extremely cautious lol the coolest, calmest, most controlled behavior I have ever seen. Definitely a seasoned interrogator. Deadly power.

[decemberbaby]

Keeping my mouth shut, staying below the radar, dealing with secrets large & small because it was easier than involving my adults.

[AndreaCrisp]

Thank you so much! I have training in Counseling Psychology and Bowen Family Systems. Not bragging, all that to say hearing you talk about this and giving that very specific age range makes so much make sense for me personally! Holy smokes! I mean just hitting at an entirely different level. For me it was 8-13 years of age...

[ItsMeNanaD]

Damn. Those were the years my mom married a new, very strict husband who had 2 older kids; the oldest of whom molested me from the ages of 8-12. No one knew so I got zero help. I’m Gen X, we didn’t share those things. Plus, my dad divorced my mom when she got pregnant with me because he didn’t want kids (he now has 2 adopted kids) & I didn’t want to be the reason my mom got another divorce. I knew at that young age that if I told on my molester, I would be the cause of her 2nd divorce. (They’ve been married over 40 years now). I finally told her when I was in my 20s. I stayed outside playing with friends & running the neighborhood, really only being in the house to eat & sleep. I preferred drinking from the water hose than going inside to get a glass of water tbh.
Needless to say, I’m fucked up still at age 53. I’ve never had a healthy relationship with a man & I’ve resigned to remain single the rest of my life & try to simply heal. I learned sex was the only way to attract a guy & I’m now celibate for the past decade, since my hubby passed. I’m fine with it. Drama free baby!!!! 👊🏼

[elizabethcayless]

i thought my young son 4, 5, 6 ish used randomly tell me he loved me, untill my sister said have you noticed he tell you he loves you when your stressed. Kids are so clever its scary! Now i do randomly tell them i love them, for nothing so they know their just loved.

[author]

I so enjoy Chase Hughes's interesting helpful info ❤

[nomoreexcuses]

As a child, when I got in trouble or I ust upset about anything, I was sent to my room. I was never taught to think through my emotions or what they meant. So now, as a middle-age adult, when I'm stressed or sad or mad, I just want to go to bed. That was the only coping mechanism available during that age range he mentions. And now, that's my default still.