Who has more POWER in a RELATIONSHIP: three easy ways to make the determination

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Much like attraction, the balance of power in a relationship is never exactly equal. Whether we like it or not, one person always has more power than an other in a given relationship. It would be irresponsible to claim that this power imbalance neatly follows gendered lines, as it intimately depends on the actual individuals involved. That said, in this episode, I give you three easy ways to make the determination as to who has more power in a relationship.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#power #relationship #psychology

[psychacks]

Much like attraction, the balance of power in a relationship is never exactly equal. Whether we like it or not, one person always has more power than an other in a given relationship. It would be irresponsible to claim that this power imbalance neatly follows gendered lines, as it intimately depends on the actual individuals involved. That said, in this episode, I give you three easy ways to make the determination as to who has more power in a relationship.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#power #relationship #psychology

[paulbeck]

It's been my opinion that the person who has the most power in a relationship, is the one who can walk away.

[kylemacdougall]

"If you want to know who rules over you, find out who you're not allowed to criticize."

[WillyEckaslike]

the one who loves the least has the power

[themick]

My ex wife told me she wanted an open marriage. (She showed signs of mental illness) . I said, " NOPE" you're getting a divorce . She's now divorced from her 3rd husband. I was #1.

[josephskowronski]

I have found that not being afraid of being alone is underrated power and leverage.

[dekev]

Whoever cares less, has less to lose and whomever has more options, has the most power.

[h.f.]

under this power theory, my wife's cat is the most powerful in our house.

[brinjal]

I will also add 3 more points based on my experience:
1. Who is testing more?
2. Who is seeking less or no validation?
3. Who is not ready to change for the other?

[jayedwards]

My (ex)wife issued an ultimatum. (She must have felt she had the power.)
I refused her ultimatum. She doubled down. I filed for divorce the next day. oh well

[kingdingaling]

It all boils down to leverage. Power and leverage go hand in hand

[chiefenumclaw]

In the words of Mr. Ben Folds, it's "the battle of who could care less."

[EdithEsquivel]

The more I watch your channel, the more I realise how atypical my marriage is. Although we know we have had objective power fluctuations through the years, we've both tried to act as if we had equal power at all times. We relinquish power all the time because we trust each other. It feels good to know that once a topic is important for you, it becomes important to the other person as well.

[LisaCulton]

Easy. The one who can walk away. That means the one with options (has money and other partners to choose from, among other things)

[everybodyyogastudio]

This fact dawned upon me couple years ago! I saw that the person that cares the least holds the most power. You explained it perfectly, thanks❤

[carlsmithllc]

I'm 64 and you are saying much of what I've always felt / believed, but certainly couldn't express myself, you are providing a gigantic gift to humanity, THANK YOU, I wish I could give $50B to promote you, please don't stop until you've mastered 'Loving like the sun' !!

[morganwhite]

When it comes to true love, power is rarely a priority. If it is a priority for the other person, then they are the wrong one for you. The need for power is for weak people, and they rarely make nurturing partners. Each other’s happiness is the north star ⭐️

[Nickelodeon]

Ultimatums may come from a position of power but not always. Sometimes it the 'less powerful' person calls their bluff, and this can suddenly send the so-called 'more powerful' person into a full blown panic. My ex was totally blindsided by me in this regard and begged me to stay. Sometimes we overestimate how much power another has over us, and vice versa.

[bobdobalina]

3 Easy Rules of Thumb Power is the Ability is to get other people to act in the service of your goals
1 Observe who moves the least - example Infants, Emotion Rules the Day
2 You need to Consider who is less committed than the other. Observe who issues Ultimatums more often.
3 Just Consider who has more Options than the other

[bernibeckmann]

I feel like my standards can't be compromised. I don't mind giving up some power in relationships, friendships and at work. I can always snatch it back if need be. I think relinquishing power is like giving somebody rope to hang themselves. People who don't take advantage of that are gold.