We'll see: how to guard against frustration and disappointment

Buy my book, "The Value of Others"

This is a very simple mind hack that I've developed to guard against frustration and disappointment. Look: you should take what people say with a grain of salt. When they say that they're going to do something (or that they're not going to do something), just say to yourself: "we'll see." Withhold your judgment until you see behavioral confirmation of their commitment one way or another. Trust and doubt are earned.

Orion is a licensed psychologist in the state of California.
Podcast available on Spotify, Instagram, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, and others.

#trust #relationships #we'llsee

[queenr.]

"Both my doubt and my trust are earned." I love this!

[domsberisha]

Be present, neutral, and healthily detached from all outcomes. The experience will speak for itself.

[modickens]

It's true, as the saying goes " expectations are the root of all suffering "

[idlehourlinda]

Love this idea of taking a neutral position and then waiting to see if the person's intentions are just words or are followed by actual actions. Well done means so much more than well said.

[stravagantares]

I agree so much! This is the lesson that the last 3 years of my life taught me.
It's absolutely true and super important advice! 👍🏼

[JM]

Great advice I’ll have to remember this. I have high integrity. Time and time again I make the mistake that other people do too.

[jlvandat]

💯💯 Exactly. Not sure what happened to us- there was a day long ago when a person's word was everything and level of integrity literally defined a person. Fast forward to recent times and we see so many people making statements and promises that lack any substance. Best to use this let their behavior be the judge, and be slow to trust or distrust.

[kathygarner]

I do get frustrated with people that don't follow through. I was raised that when you give your word, you do it. Thanks for this video. Can you make a future video about how to handle people who can be users at times, or don't reciprocate ??

[tarelatawari]

The frustrating part is when you keep reminding folks they owe you nothing and should not feel pressured to offer you help( that unfortunately you may need desperately) but they insist its the least they can do...and still ghost you. Making future interactions awkward. We'll see is the solution.

[selaelorakgole]

Your Content is my favorite on youtube right now so informative.

[teddy]

This is exactly how I traeted taking the coof shot. Looking like a pretty good tactic, in retrospect.

[jgxmumy]

This seems like a good tactic. Also, if I assume other people adopt this mindset, I can be at peace knowing that it doesn’t matter if people believe I will achieve the new things I’m doing. Even the people that have known me would not have seen action in alignment yet

[mg-qggf]

Great advice, we give people multiple chances to come thru and is just another disappointment.

[derek]

We'll see is something I stuck to for a long time until i decided to drop it and be more trusting so it's myself that I'm really annoyed with

[HomerSimpson-hruw]

I tell anyone who will listen - if you don't want to be disappointed, lower your expectations. It is that easy.

[geargail]

Declutter...let go of outdated circulars. Anybody will say anything...action speaks louder.

[blueskies]

It's especially challenging when you allow yourself to fall prey to flattery, "It must be true and reliable, right?"

[John-eewm]

From my experience are full it... So we'll see fits the bill...

[keithkollenbaum]

Trust only motion. There are two worlds. The first is the spoken world. The second is the real world.

[derek]

People see a glass half empty as a bad thing with disappointment they miss the point if it's half empty and they want to pour it down the sink and go thirsty then that's a shame you can't take things personally if someone let's you down it's usually nothing to do with you