The Towel That Ruins Marriages

[imdonewithyall]

If a messy towel makes your marriage hard you have bigger problems

[antonioliles]

I am a stay at home dad. Have been for a decade now. Never felt like these ladies. I swear social media has cranked these womens nerosis up to 11.

[TheGreatVandoly]

This is cracking me up. I only saw the notification “the towel that ruins marriages” and immediately spoke my thoughts “I bet it’s the kitchen towel”. 😂

[SaintSC]

All these women have exceedingly privileged and easy lives.

[isaacgorski]

My wife had this crazy technique of dealing with this same issue with me after months of me ruining her nicely arranged kitchen and bathrooms. She talked to me and asked me to at least try to bring it back to its original position. SHE DID NOT BLAST ME ON THE INTERNET WITHOUT TALKING TO ME. guarantee you she has said nothing and thinks he should just be a mind reader

[eliminoh_p]

If that’s the hardest thing she has to deal with then she should feel so lucky.

[rabbitrn]

I just had the "towel talk" with my wife last night. No yelling, no frustration; she just told me what she wanted, and I agreed. It's stupid to get upset over something so trivial. Especially when you can just have an open lime of communication about it.

[Plasmalescence]

The hardest part for me is the “enough is never enough” mentality. It is exhausting to have to run the circuit jumping through petty little hoops to satisfy compulsive, unsatisfiable person who makes you feel like love itself is contingent upon performing a near slavery level of attentive service. “I’m not your mommy” attitude creeps in. Men HATE that. The election to be condescending is the choice to not love, but rather to disrespect and humiliate your partner. The first lesson we learn as toddlers in preschool is that having relationships means give and take. Each person gains a little and loses a little in the bargain, but if your heart is in the right place, you realize how much more you gain from your connection to others. So, put up with the occasional spill, sock in the middle of the floor, garbage in the bathroom that got overlooked. Try appreciating all the things that are really hard for a guy, the things that a guy sacrifices for their family and partner.

[Jade_goes_crazy]

THIS. I was raised seeing this type of behavior and the day I realized (as a newly wed, a week into living with my husband or any man not related to me, for the first time ever) that men actually live in the house too, and shouldn’t be treated like guests who constantly have to clean up after themselves and walk on eggshells for aesthetics sake wasnt common knowledge and that’s so sad. Now instead of “how does society say this should be” my husband and I ask “how does it work best for us”

Our house has many unconventional things, from a trashcan in the livingroom, an entire tv stand that we bought just for all his gamer stuff instead of the sleek and stylish one, mirrors on both sides of the bathroom so we can BOTH get ready at the same time, a hook for the had drying towel instead of the stupid oven handle, baskets so he can leave what he needs out without having to constantly pick up after himself because GOD FORBID a man doesn’t put every single shred of evidence that he lives somewhere away, the second he isn’t using it 🙄 our lives got so much better!

It’s his house too!! The rules in your head are in your head. If they aren’t working make new ones, but for gods sake, let men exists in their homes without constantly fallowing behind them nit picking the smallest, stupidest little things or treating them like a tornado you’re trying to contain.

[justinanderson]

As a guy I can confirm we only leave the towel like that because we're sick of having to pick it up all the time when it inevitably slips through the handle and falls on the floor.

[PungeonMon]

"Marriage is hard"
"With you it certainly IS."

[ObnoxiousBlightbringer]

But Dadvocate, if the towel isn't unused and pristine and useless, how will people know she's a good wife and mother?

[lizzyhoins]

My husband said to tell him that you lay the towel flat because it makes it dry more efficiently. Men are more likely to respond to a simple logical reason why something is done.

[bradwolf]

"Choose your battles wisely"

[NotMyGumDropButtons.]

I can never tell if people are having fun blowing things out of proportion to try to seem funny, or if this really bothers them it really bothers them. I think I quit.

[xiongray]

The towel to end all silly marriages.

You're welcome~

[gelusvenn]

"Like adding water to a Gremlin" You are perfect and your husband is lucky.

[matthewesch]

Frankly, when I lived alone, I didn't hang a flammable object on the door to my oven.

[hasufinheltain]

I mean, different people do things differently. Sometimes you'll find that stuff a little irritating. The solution is to USE YOUR WORDS.
My spouse has this habit of opening things (e.g., cream cheese), peeling back just enough of the foil to get to what they need, then folding it bad and putting the lid on. Drives me nuts b/c I can't tell it's been opened.
So... I asked about it. They thought it would make stuff last longer. I explained why it bothered me, and we decided how we'd do it.
Could it have been a problem? I guess. But instead we used our words. Like adults.

[dvinator]

I did a deep clean on the house today before I left for work. Kitchen, laundry, bedroom. I also fixed a little table she's been bothering me about for a month. I get home from work (11 pm) and all she says about it is "you should have done that on a day when it rained." I'm used to that kind of reaction but I DON'T like it!