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[CeCe-xvfr]

God with a sister like that who needs enemies.

[Broke_BobaTea]

Bad ending: The girl who kissed the brother in law was his sister 💀

[DAL_bigD]

ALSO, I realized how OP was justifying their option to not tell their sister by saying, “ I figured it was probably cheaper to keep my mouth shut then to get a divorce and have his reputation ruined”. Therefore, this now shows me that you don’t really care about the money, you’re doing this to spite your sister.

[amalzuhair]

These two people are more like distant acquaintances than sisters

[AndreaOttoBK]

From the entitlement i would not be surprised that op expected help without asking, and then got spiteful for not being helped and did this

[moosefromsky]

OP's sister is not responsible for your children's care. Now, if she made an agreement or something like that to help you financially with the kids, that would be a different story.

However, OP should know the consequences of their own actions and decisions by having kids. Have the OP get child support from the kids' father or mother if they get full custody.

[j__k]

1. Her sister is not obligated to take care of her kids, she knew what she was doing making those kids. Spoiled of her, to demand her sister's wealth to be spend on HER family and mistakes she made.
2. Unless her sister is some wicked monster of a person this level of disloyalty is insane.

Edit: I have a question to some people in the comments. Don't you guys see a tiny-tiny-small-teeny-weeny difference between saying to the other person "hey I saw your husband cheating" and providing for someone else's entire family just because said someone made poor life choices?

[jonathanharris]

A lot of people are saying that the sister was not obligated to help out when OP was going through her situation but the thing is as a sibling when you notice that your sister / brother is going through something yeah you are obligated to help your family because you would want that same courtesy and another thing as an auntie or an uncle it is your obligation to help your nieces and nephews out to make sure that they're good because those are kids and standing by watching kids suffer is messed up a lot of people in this comment section ain't got no empathy man and that's what's missing in the world empathy and compassion bro

[freshmintsky]

I’m for the kids. Sister can take care of herself, just like she left her sister to.

[niamooresmith]

Well, as long as the children are being fed this problem with two grown adults, I don't care about it as long as the kids are fine

[monsters]

I wouldnt have trusted him. If he is willing to betray his wife, you can guarantee he will betray you to.

[SockMan-then]

As someone who's father cheated on his mom constantly this is wrong no matter what they did tell them because things might get physical between them cus he doesn't even love her

[almogxchq]

NTA for sure. Financial struggles can arise even after people had a stable life before. The house funds in this case have halved.

Trad wives for example, completely rely on their husbands and might be left destitute after divorce.

Considering the sister is well established, it's a moral obligation to at the very least provide basic things. We even helped our maids out financially when they had stuff going on. Even during the lockdown, my mother continued paying them, even though one of them had quit months before.

To let your sister struggle and leave her in such a state is diablocial. We treated our MAIDS more kindly?? The sister is a heartless person if she could stand back and watch. Definitely deserved.

You needed the hush money for your kids, and you took it. Had she provided some funds, you wouldn't have needed it.

[eaindraysukyaw]

I don’t care whether my sibling help me or not, if I were homeless.
When I saw my sibling’s spouse cheating, I gonna immediately tell them.

[AgoroDare]

Guys, she didn't pull 4 babies out her ass the moment her ex-husband left😂. She obviously had the kids before the divorce, before she had financial problems. I've read most of these comments saying "ShE ChOse TO HAVe ThE KiDs, it's HEr FauLT She DOesN't KnOW How tO SAvE mOneY😤🤓!" Do you think she knew the relationship was going to get rocky and lead to divorce, she can't predict the future, and even if she knew, she didn't know that she wouldn't get a single penny when they separated.

[jmobhlt]

It was for the kids, NTA. Maybe if her sister showed more compassion towards her, then it would have been reciprocated. They both didn't show compassion for each other, and thats how it ended up. If her sister had helped her, then she wouldn't have needed to take the money.

[leapheyart]

I liked the butter rubber ducky sliding down the sweet potato

[DioDia]

To be honest, I wouldn't have said anything either. Family drama is extremely messy. My mom was blamed once by my aunt for her cheating on my uncle. Everyone had something to say, mostly rude accusations but we lived an hour away and rarely got together with the fam so my mom just ignored it but she took me aside an told me "when it comes to family just shut up. But if your asked just tell the truth and dont let anyone tell you your story." Everyone still talks but its not forgotten.

[jacklynb]

Wow she couldn’t even try and help you 😢 I totally understand where she’s coming from

[Faoumeow]

Sister isn’t responsible for op’s kids, op isn’t responsible for sisters relationship