What Advice Would You Give Your Younger Self?

“The Real” hosts open up about words of wisdom they’d give their twenty-something selves, during this Girl Chat. Tamera says her best piece of advice would be: everything’s going to be alright. Check it out.

[shabbyLaw]

Jeannie was 23 in the girl scouts? Lol

... oh, and Adrienne. Jada Pinkett Smith said it best,
"Worry  about being respected, never worry about being liked because that's the trap. That is where people manipulate you."

It took me a long time to learn that as well. Love you ladies.

[HeyMyLifeIsLibby]

Completely shade free: this was one of the most real, intellectually stimulating segments I've seen here in a while. I love how the ladies can reflect back on their lives and teach us how we can better ourselves....DANG, y'all make me have feelings! What are you trying to do to me, make me human?!

[jellygurl]

I Loved this! I so feel Jeannie! For years my family of 3(my mom and sibling)  we lived in a small one bedroom apartment! All my mom asked and prayed for continuously was a 3 bedroom house!! (God is so good) and she got it! I remember always being embarrassed in those days, always wondering why in my entire family we were always the ones struggling. Years down the line I went to college. My best friends invited me to visit their home . Little did I know their family of four lived in a one bedroom apartment as well. You just never know what people go through or how they live. We are share the same stories.

[RoseKimberly]

Tamera is so much like me!! Literally LOVE HER!

[gabby]

Tamar's smile when jeannie was talking was priceless!! It seemed so sincere!

[melifelove]

This was the most Real segment on the Real!

[lehtarobinson]

Jeannie's story made me tear up. She was being completely real and honest...and I think her co-stars and everyone hearing her story could feel that moment

[jessicavarona]

Waiting on Tamera to write a book on relationships..just saying.

[keke]

I'm 22 and very shy and quiet, so I try to avoid people. People like to laugh at me and sometimes I hear they call me mute and I always worry about what they're saying. I'm realizing that I'm quirky and strange and I can't change myself just to please people who will never be in my life. I'm working on not worrying and focusing on being successful so I can have my my mom quit her two jobs, get us out of debt and just let her experience the world. That's all I really want in life!

[danielle]

This was a really great girl chat. You could tell that Tamar could relate to what Jeannie was saying. I remember she said or one of the Braxtons said that they would use paper plates and cups, and lived in a small home etc. So she really understands her viewpoint, and appreciates/cares for her mother too. I've really seen that through bfv and t&v. I could relate to all of them in one form or another. It was nice hearing such powerful words of wisdom from these strong ladies!!!

[shaedavis]

I would tell my younger self to stand up for herself against bullies! I was bullied so bad that I couldn't even defend myself. I was already being abused at home so the fear crippled me to where I couldn't fight back. If somebody is bullying you TELL SOMEBODY THAT CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!

[Misslovlii]

I really enjoyed this segment...I'm in my 20s now (21 yrs old) and I worry a lot about the things the ladies were talking about. Gotta learn to live in the moment, let stuff go and stop worrying so much! Everything will fall into place.

[myrahmcneil]

I'd tell myself to be confident and to not let people push me around and to not let other change what I think of myself

[onmywaytohappiness]

tameras' advise stood out to me the most. i am about to turn 21 and i never had a real boyfriend so i worry if i ever find the right guy. my dream is to get married to someone whom i love and who also loves me, i want to be a mom one day, but for now these dreams look kind blurry to me....

[MrsTatertots]

I will say that Tamera makes me feel ok not being one of those super datey people. I'm still a virgin at 26 and sometimes I worry that makes me somehow less desirable. But with her being mostly ok with her waiting until she was 29 makes me kind of ok with waiting until I find the right person or the right person finds me.

[jackieheartseevee]

Wow, I appreciate Jeannie's story. Really touched my heart.

[jodiii]

Adrienne was speaking my heart.... Lawd, sometimes I cringe at how much I was a yes woman in my teens and current twenties up until last year. Till this day I still hate saying no to things but I do now. It's so important that you do what's in your heart and not try to please everyone around you.

[Mizzbabyblue]

I love Tamera! Even though i'm only 22 turning 23 soon I look at life the way Tamera did when she was in her 20's. I need to stop worrying. Just live in the moment. Your only young once.

[Immis_snow_globe]

I love all 5 of them, they have such sweet hearts.

[houstonscott]

I can gladly say that at 25 I'm at the point where I definitely live for myself and I've gotten to the point where society doesn't run me like a puppet. I care less what people think of me and it's nothing to cut a person off because the negativity in my life isn't needed. I came out completely as a bisexual last year and I'm loving it. Either you accept it or you don't. I'm not gonna lose any sleep. My family loves me. My close friends love me. I'm content and happy with that.

If i could tell my younger self anything, I'd tell him to be true to himself and actually LIVE life more. I worried about people way too much growing up.