E18: What are the Consequences of Betrayal for the Unfaithful?

Often times a betrayed partner will wonder if the unfaithful actually suffers any consequences due to their choice(s) to go outside the marriage. Betrayeds will ask us "Are the unfaithful, actually suffering at all? Do you think they've become aware of what they've done to me, to us, to our family?" Our answer is "We're not sure yet....it depends on the work they're doing and who they are doing it with. They may not be aware of just how much they've lost....... yet." As the unfaithful get healthier and healthier, more and more 'sober' if you will, the unfaithful will become progressively more aware of just how much they've lost and how much they've hurt their loved ones and themselves. Consequences frequently will roll in as they start to do the work to find empathy, compassion and safety. From support groups, to expert help, to intensives, to doing their own work behind the scenes, if an unfaithful is 'getting it' empathy and remorse will follow. Join us today as we have an in depth discussion of the massive consequences of the unfaithful both known and unknown.

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[chels]

I would like to know how many faithful women have taken their lives because of the betrayl and the unraveling that comes after day in and out for years.

[LAstandard]

AWESOME content guys. I’ve watched dozens of videos from Dr. Ramani, David Hawkins and Les Carter and this has been MOST helpful insight so far. Thank you!

[darren_mcgarvey]

I was wondering where you got to Sam. Your AR videos got me through the hardest time of my life. 6 months on from D-Day 1 of many, and I can see the light, occasionally. Thank you 😊

[shala]

I think it's time to throw in the towel. I just can't anymore ...it's everyday that I get to see my spouse co-parenting now with the AP. I don't get any kind of break from the constant reminder of the disrespect that's apparently just the way it is ....was ... And will be. I don't deserve to pay his consequences

[joannecoots]

Do they digest that reality if they are still with the affair partner ? Do any of those consequences even come to mind or are they still in denial?Left marriage immediately after D-Day, moved in with affair partner . No desire from them to repair or work on the marriage at all, never looked back. Divorce took almost 2 years and post-divorce 7 months now. They are still together and just bought a house. One of our two adult children won't talk to him for the last 2 years. There has to be some recognition of the devastation that was caused by his choices. However there seems to be no outward expressions of remorse . The four brief instances where I have seen my now ex-husband he won't even make eye contact with me.. avoids me at all costs. Only communication has been business items as necessary. Married 28 years before D-Day.

[fruity_mango]

Thank you for this podcast! My husband of 21 years has been a pornography/sex addict with a 30+ year addiction, and also a 30+ year weed addiction, which he continues with daily, so he can “check out”. (Blocking REAL chance at connecting 😢) He says he hasn’t acted out since February. But I have no proof other than his word. And unfortunately, that doesn’t mean much. He still doing a lot of the defensive and blame shifting. But he likes to scream to the world about how he is a new man and how much work that he has done. There’s still no connection with him, and I, and it’s so draining on my soul. I am exhausted. he keeps dangling the carrot about giving me a disclosure. I feel like I’m sinking in quicksand. 😭

[tblank]

Great message w this one team - lots from which to learn.

[Dawn-tvbk]

Not everyone hits rock bottom. Some are just bottom dwellers.

[vanitaramlochan]

What about when they leave to be with the AP...do they face any consequences?

[MarkSummers-gn]

At what age do people stop having affairs