'I'm Not Sure What To Tell You'

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[jvmlucky]

She is a nurse, she takes care of everyone and everything. And she works hard. Prayers for her!!

[leocorral]

bro she’s incredible, nurse who sells real estate on the side with her own rental properties and bought a house for her daughter in law who had cancer… what a woman.

[coffeegirl]

He gets half of the houses & half of her retirement. I just went through this! My husband never paid for anything, he worked on & off, for 25 years I finally decided if I wanted peace I had to leave. He is disabled & also got 80% of the sale of the house.
I am starting over financially at 63 & I make a third of your income & have no house. I have peace.

[rosec]

She said she bought a house to take care of a daughter in-law that had cancer. What a kind lady. I want her to be my MIL.

[StarFishLady]

My dad used to tell my mom, "I'll make the living; you make the living worthwhile". It can be a great balance if one partner is business-minded and the other is stop-and-smell-the-roses minded...they each bring a gift to the table. But if it goes awry, there's a huge potential for resentment.

[catherinenelson]

I had a marriage like that. I went to a counselor. She asked why I was still with him.
I said that I believed that marriage is sacred.
She said she agreed, but that what I was describing is NOT a marriage! She was so right.

[shellyharris]

I am a nurse and it’s common for nurses to marry this type of partner but you deserve so much better! My prayers are with you

[theresalynn]

This woman has been taking care of everyone else but herself. I hope she finds the strength and courage to take care of herself and move on from a marriage that is literally sucking the life out of her. 🙏🏻

[skylarsteel]

Avoid hard conversations early on and you deal with hard circumstances forever

[kimberlyarunsiripate]

When she threw the “Nurse” in there I was like She takes care of everyone. God help the Nurse.

[flotaylor]

These calls just make me so grateful for my amazing husband!! ❤

[brianv.]

She's a rare gem and her husband doesnt see it.

[lanachristiansen]

My husband and I just celebrated our 50th anniversary. Before we married we discussed our views on finances, family, children, faith, religion etc. Marriage is hard work, times that are difficult, times that are wonderful. We feel blessed.

[iheartdates]

I caused a ruckus in my marriage when I was in a similar situation, and it made him start making changes real quick to become my partner instead of my other child. It only took me 10 years to get to the ruckus point. 🤦🏻‍♀️ (Please read that last sentence with the sarcasm it is spoken with.) The catalyst to make a ruckus was a conversation with my financial advisor about what I thought was a business issue… thankfully, he also opened my eyes by telling me it was a marriage issue, not a business or money issue. I feel blessed that he was willing to tell me the hard, honest truth.

[christineessex]

People can say they are in agreement before marriage, but when life happens, you find out that words are just words.

[Bigdyl]

I always tell people to count the cost. What’s the cost for keeping him. What’s the cost for leaving him. Which price are you willing to pay. Cost is not just financial.

[pj]

In a divorce, he would get half the value of the house, the rental properties, and half her 401k. Then she would pay him palimony monthly. Divorce is not an option unless she wants to lose half of what she's worked for and give up 30-45% of her salary. I know men who have gone through this.

[Cloudyconfusion]

I haven’t prayed in a while but I’m gonna pray for this lady tonight. For clarity, for strength, for random strangers to come up to her and just give love and opportunities. She’s clearly a smart woman with how much she does and properties owned and managed but you can be the best mom or wife in the entire world and still not be able to do it ALL. She needs some stuff taken off her plate! I understand why she feels that things are hers vs his…. She’s really alone in all of this and I think that’s worse than being single…. Being in a relationship and FEELING alone is WORSE than being single because you’re legally bound to them.

[remilemonde]

My GOD this hit home. I was in this exact type of relationship. Just ended it. Any discomfort or sadness/loneliness I feel now, is indescribably better than any feeling I had in that dead marriage. If anyone is reading this and you’re in this same situation, pull the plug. LEAVE. It only gets worse. Regain your peace! I thank God for getting me out of that situation. May God bless that lady.

[tallgal-]

This sounds like my marriage, except that my ex-husband RefUsEd to let me put any money in an IRA or 401k. When I left, finally after 26 years, I downsized into a cheap rental room and saved almost $100k in the 10 years before I retired while paying off my $40k student loan and @$10k in credit cards. Her situation sounds nearly impossible. I lived my life in angst, as Dave said, as alcohol and *legal* drugs were major factors in the marriage as well. Good luck to the caller!!!❤😢🙏🏻