13 Things I Wish I Knew in My 20s

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These 13 pieces of life advice will change your future.

Buckle up, because today Mel is not holding back.

It’s true that your 20’s can feel overwhelming, but you’re more powerful than you think.

And this advice will unlock that power.

If you’re feeling behind in life, these 13 pieces of advice will move you to the front of the line, no matter how old you are.

The truth is that no matter what decade of your life you are in, you can make it the best one – and this advice will help you do it.

I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.

In this episode:
00:00: Intro
06:15: Think your 20’s is the BEST time of your life? Think again.
08:35: Here’s why your 20’s can feel so out of control.
11:05: You’ll feel better when you hear these words.
14:40: Are you doing this AGAIN? Please stop.
18:50: Tempted to hit “buy now” on social media? Do this first.
22:00: The two reasons you feel so overwhelmed.
26:50: What does it mean to ‘date the person and not the potential’?
29:20: Are you a serial dater? Here’s what you’re missing.
31:00: Think life isn’t fair? That’s fair. But don’t do this.
34:30: Do this and you build your confidence and your friend circle grows.
36:20: Were you the bully in school? It’s never too late to do this.
37:00: If you can’t do this, you’ll never get what you need.
39:05: No matter what you do for work, start your day with these 5 tips.
42:45: This is why you need to look at the 5 people you hang out with most.
46:00: Listen to this if you morph into the people you’re hanging out with.
48:50: The fastest way to figure out what YOU like to do.
50:15: Instead of seeing competition everywhere, do this instead.
54:30: Be the one in your friend group who does this FIRST.
1:00:00: If you listened to this podcast, it proves something important.
1:00:20: Here’s a recap of all 13 Life Tips.

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[michellekowalska]

I'm 23. I've never felt so anxious, depressed, burnt out and lost. It's so hard and I just hope it gets better...

[ambseyyy]

1:00:19 - 13 things recap
1. 20's might not be the best time, it could be the hardest decade of your life so give yourself some grace!
2. stop spending money on stupid shit
3. you have so much time
4. date the person, not the potential
5. it's not fair
6. define wins by the quality of your circle not the number on your paycheck
7. don't be a dick
8. you don't get what you want if you don't ask for it
9. get serious about who you're hanging out with
10. create a rock solid morning routine
11. be your own person, stop pretending to like things that you don't
12. you're not in competition with anyone, cheer your everyone- including yourself!
13. take big risks in your 20's

[yossuarapitty]

international student here. i haven't seen my family in 3 years due to my studies and holy moly, i really needed this video. i swear i thought i was going insane with the amount of stress and anxiety running through my whole body. i am proud of myself that i am living in another country, another continent from where i was born. studying in my second language, a job using my third language while also learning german. thank you mel. your podcasts tend to find me whenever i feel the lowest.

[BarbaraMarks-ys]

Wholly Fright!! I am sending this to each and every 20 to 100 year old I know. I’m 58 and will be forever grateful to you, Mel!❤.

[robertgann]

Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationship and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she has insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her.

[lorraine.joycet]

Thank you Mel. I'm turning 28 this year and I have been following you for like 2 years already. You have been giving big impacts to my life. And this episode is what I really needed for 3 years left I have in my twenties. I love you and you are awesome!

[GenZ_Zillenial]

"your day is coming!" Thank you for this video Mel. Watching this as a 27 year old who is at the crossroads in life.

[paigez]

Holy shit! THANK YOU! I didn't realize I wasn't only comparing myself to my friends, but also my timeline of my parents. It's totally different times now.

[Themoonxchild]

Omg THANK YOU MEL! As a woman exploring the world in her 20s… moving to a new country a whole day travel from home.. this is soothing to the soul 💛💛💛

[Fascinatingstreet]

I recently turned 27, feeling so lost. Not sure what to do or where to go. I REALLY needed this video! thanks Mel🥰

[nadivasalsabil]

I'm still watching it rn and everytime she said the advice, I pause and re think about it. Thank you for telling me these advices I don't know I need to understand more, specially for my self. You're a great friend Mel

[s-fkwm]

I’m 23 years old
I’ve been feeling I’m behind and not enough. Sometimes its difficult to even breathe…
Every time I feel lost, I come back to this episode and telling myself I’ll be ok.
Thank you so much Mel for this episode.
I love you

[BugDrivenExplorer]

Thank you Mel!

I’m in my early 20s, feeling isolated from the people in my life and this is exactly what I needed.❤️

[カリナ八四四]

As a person who will be 20 years old in a month, I so agree that this is the most difficult stage in life, in the first few years there are no adults around me who would teach me and tell me what, when and how to do and this leads me to panic and confusion, in just the last two years I have changed two colleges and several groups of friends and it seems only recently that I have found a minimum of stability in my life, but I still have the feeling that this is not forever

[SteveandJaimieYannalfo]

WOW!!! Just wow!! I have an almost 26 year old son and 22 year old daughter! You are just so spot on with everything Mel! SO much pressure for our young adult children. I wish someone taught me this when I was in my 20s. I was at Family Reunion a week and a half ago and just loved seeing you there. Thank you so much for inspiring me every day!! xo, Jaimie

[wolfinallen]

I was the opposite. My twenties were my happiest. I went bump, bump, bump down from there. Now I'm in my late sixties. I get by. I'm alive.

[Friku]

“You have your shit together” thank you, this is what I needed to hear. It’s so hard when everyone around you wants to convince you that you don’t since they don’t have the same end goal as you and don’t understand WHY you’re at where you are now.

[ItsabeautifullifewithJesus]

I never got to live on my own in my 20s. I'm learning how to navigate that now in my 30s. 😅

[passivelyobsessive]

I just crossed the bridge from 25 into my upper 20s but already made my financial mistakes about 2 years ago where I was spending so much on god knows what. Now I've taken up that habit of writing things in my notes app before buying - mainly because I have to save up for them - but i wish I was doing this sooner.... but I am doing it now, so while I can't get my money back from 2021-2022, I can start saving the money I'm making from here on out.

[rekayluft]

Ok, Mel. I listened to... "the things I wish I knew in my 20's". NOW... I want to hear from an expert on "the things I wish I knew in my 60's". I'm going to try and keep this as short & sweet as possible... but as much detail as you need to get the right Podcast content. Bachelor's degree, 37 years of working as a Controller / great job & wonderful friends, was on-point every day for 37 years, retired at 59½, listened to your Podcast about finding your Passion... and do it! So, I did, at 60 I enrolled in the National Academy of Sports Medicine and after 6 months became a Certified Personal Trainer.... went to the local fitness facility, taught free to sell myself... was hired and began teaching Sessions! (...love it & and the members love me). But... my upbringing said, not enough... then enrolled in NASM to become a Certified Nutritional Coach. Yes, I couldn't STOP, I have to constantly learn more so I can teach more... Until about a month ago... when my anxiety level was at maximum... thinking I had to get up at 5:00am to teach Personal Training Sessions, Study every day to ingest & maintain all the information in the 800 page Nutritional manual prior to taking the 100 question exam, while also leading a life with my partner and all my fellow friends who are retired with me (...now that I'm 61). I literally sat down a few days ago and said, what am I doing? Yes, maybe my passion is Personal Training... but it's also: spending time with my friends, Gardening, etc... I'm not the person you spoke of today at 20 yrs old. I no longer have "that much" time... although I'm in pretty darn good shape and eat better than 99% of my friends! LOL But at 60 I need to know how to feel that - I don't have to do EVERYTHING. My generation was taught to work hard, find that positive place in whatever you are doing, always help others, etc... now that I'm 60, it's hard to turn-that-off. I don't want to just sit around. But I DO need to be "ok" without having a fully booked calendar. I guess in writing this to you... I realize I need to learn to say "no" - to myself - and others, at times. Maybe you could fashion a Podcast around the 60's generation?!??!?! We are listening to Sorry this got lengthy!!! Thank you, ReKay in Wisconsin