Enneagram: Getting Along With Type 2

Transformational Enneagram & Relationship Coaching

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Dr. Tom LaHue is a graduate of Florida Christian College. He holds 3 Master's Degrees including an MDiv from Liberty Univ. His Doctoral degree is from Grace College and Seminary. He is also a certified Marriage Coach. He and his wife Traci have been married since 1991. They are the proud parents of 5 children and 5 grandchildren.

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[nuria.sakura]

I love your videos. They are inspiring, and on spot. I always recommend them to my friends. I am a 2 and I relate with what you say in your videos. The love tank with holes is a good analogy.

We want to be there but have this dark side of: "I am always here for you, but will you be there for me? But its okay if you dont reciprocate, im not doing this with second intentiond. This is not for me, its for you. So whatever it happens its okay..."
We do like that other people see and recognize what we do. Although we dont want to be the ones saying it. For instance, we like giving others presents and make others feel happy, but we also like when people think of us and gift us back as well. We dont want to do good to others while thinking of a payback. However we would like to receive that same thank you and recognition and sometimes even a spoken "thank you, i noticed what you did" is enough.


Anyways. As a 2 I think the need for appreciation is hard to ask. It feels very entitled. I can be in a healthy 4 spot, know how to better respect my time and boundaries, and still feel sad and blur about not feeling reciprocated. Its complicated.

I wish you could revive this series for all the other enneagrams! I have a (maybe unhealthy) 1 friend with problems dealing with an unhealthy 9. Im also curious on how to deal with unhealthy sixes. And other comment also mentioned the sixes as well. Please consider developing this series ^^

Blessings and wishing for the best always! ^^

[Chappy-jtcl]

Thank you for this! I am a 9 who experiences two of the 2's in my life as smothering, manipulative and I am afraid to get closer to them because it feels like they want to be codependent and use me/make me responsible for their happiness and emotional well being. It really scares me and makes me not want to get very close. Can anyone offer any advice? They are great otherwise and I'm sure they can sense my hesitancy. I've struggled with this feeling for years and am not sure how to move forward.

[niniram]

I’m sitting here watching and moved by your understanding of who I am . My heart thanks you for putting into words the feelings and the things that I couldn’t. I especially appreciated how you kept everything neutral and didn’t criticize the two’s as lacking. You are great at what you do, glad I found you 🙂

[mawi]

Wow this explain my mums actions with
After 43 years I now know why she felt extremely frustrated when silly things happened....

[jeffreyhotchkiss]

I am a seven in the process of going through a long break up with a two. This video helped put words and understanding to some of my feelings/experiences.

[deannamartin]

Thank you explain it very well I am a type 2 wing 1 I can really relate to this this is exactly how I see the world

[KelliFolsomOilPaintings]

Love your explanations! I’m a 2 wing 3. Wondering if you could talk more about growth for the 2. You’ve said moving to the 4, bit I’m wondering what that looks like.

[ACDBunnie]

I find this title interesting. As if it's hard to get along with type 2s.

[PaperMicShow]

As type 7w8 or 8w7 entp or entj, , being with 2w1 enfj was special, , many qualities, , , but that sad cloud hanging over them sucks

[margaretjudice]

Good information. I don't think I ask the people close why they don't need me after I help people not close to me. I am always just looking to help who needs me. I do feel like I am outside looking in a lot.

[shelleyjenkins]

Just to add to what you're saying, which is SO true. But the love from love ones is thicker liquid, the "love" from others is thinner liquid that flows through the heart tank holes quicker. Thus you need to do more to refill up more.

[bayargelenkhuu]

Dr. Tom, in one of your videos you had an example of different colored houses and how 9s will think of that and have hard time to make decisions under pressure and be indecisive of their own preference color etc. I really liked that example. Is there anyway you can make videos how each type will react to exact same situation or something like that. I hope this idea will inspire you for the new video. And thank you so much for doing this videos. One more thing, is it possible to be 9/2?

[simonroberts]

You mentioned briefly how the various types express their love for others... 8s will argue / debate with those they love... What does a 3 do?

[ashuranero]

Sounds like a narcissist. Not saying they are, but it sounds like it