Your Questions Answered

[nyomiberriman]

Thank you for being a touch stone for many of us. Your insight often opens a closed door in our minds. It's like an audible snap of the fingers. For me personally, I will pause & have an oh wow moment. After five years of therapy, that is ongoing due to childhood trauma, finding you has been that additional trigger for thoughts I never knew I had. Thank you. Love & support from Down Under XOXOX

[Jacobrosstech]

Thank you. I needed to hear a lot of this. 💜

[Hammssty]

Thank you for helping me starting my healing journey

[denisebacher]

The question about the “dad who was abusive but she/he feels the dad was a good person “ … I went until about this time last year, so 59 years, knowing my mom was not a good mom but making excuses for her bad things.

And last year she was lost in her dementia and close to death and I got ANGRY! Because I KNEW she’d never be the mom I deserved. And she’d never apologize for being the mom I got.

She passed in April and I don’t miss her. I haven’t even cried for her. Because I have no sense of loss.

The pedo second husband she gave me as a gift to left her ONE MILLION dollars. And she was unbelievably stingy with it. Not that she had to share it with anyone but my mind kept going to “were it not for me being the right age and being pretty you wouldn’t have landed and kept that man!! So maybe you COULD sell me your used minivan as I have no car and I have 3 children. Your grandchildren!” I didn’t even want her to give me the car. Just sell it to me for cheap. But no. She GAVE it to my other sexual abuser and he sold it.

I will go to my grave not missing that woman.

[lisahagestein]

As one of the girls who asked you in Amsterdam to write something down for a tattoo, and I did! I have a tattoo of your writing, got it a month after the seminar. I send you picture back then. I love to hear that you haven't forgot about that. To this day I am still so happy that I got the tattoo. It reminds me to be strong and to put myself first, a thing that I have never done before I listened to your videos. Maybe it is weird to have your writing as a tattoo but it has helped me through so many bad things. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for listening and helping me and more, just a listening ear is something many of us has never had. I know that you maybe not gonna believe me but you do a lot for many people! Thank you so much Ben, you saved me just by listening!

[Matin_M]

Love this! I've been watching your reels for a while but I love this format. I'd love to hear you elaborate a little more on each question if possible. Thank you for all that you do!

[joshyoung]

My wife saw your videos on Facebook and told me to check them out. After just the first 2, I was hooked. Your videos really do help out, brother. Shows that I'm not alone. All I can do is say thank you, man. For real.

[makayleeanderson]

Thank you Ben. Your videos helped me with my awakening to my childhood. It’s helped me realize why I have the struggles that I do and I’m grateful that I can now start my healing journey ❤️

[matthewfearne]

Thanks as always mate. love ya lots and just letting you know that you have the heart, and all the good bits that go with it, keep being you bloke.

[melissaanderson]

I first found your videos on Facebook and then I looked you up on TikTok and then Youtube. Your videos are so validating and make me feel less lost. I always thought I was weird or like an outsider but to see you and so many people who feel the same way from similar childhoods is so validating. Ben, you really are lifechanging and I hope it helps ease the imposter syndrome to see how you've helped so many heal and bring people together. One thing I've never quite understood that I know has to stem somewhere from childhood is the amount of times I say "sorry" in a single day. Could you make a video about what might cause that? Thank you and I love your content!

[saraa_o_]

I've never commented on anything before but i just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your content. finding you was the best thing for my healing journey. i wish you nothing but blessings and love 💗

[abonnieforclyde]

Ben, I know you just said you don't read some of your praise because you don't think you deserve it, but please read this. I'm not going to sit here and say that you have changed my life- that's not your responsibility, it's mine. What I will credit you with, and it is deserved, is the way that you teach us this material. You translate things that are clinically so complex into just a handful of very easy to understand concepts and thought processes into a relatable form and language for us, and that, speaking for what I believe might be your entire audience, helps us tremendously on our journey. And I believe that to be the reason you are here, right? So, thank you for the work that you do to promote mental and emotional health. You have helped me gain a lot of insight and clarity in just the short time that I've been aware of you.

P.S. You *are* deserving of recognition for your successes in not only your own journey, but in how you contribute to ours. Please don't stop doing what you do. You may not feel like you change lives, but you damn sure touch them! ♥️

[nomoredream]

I've put some boundaries with my parents now but now they are not even calling me, I was always the one who was calling them and to solve their issues and I got burnt out by all of these and now they are not even calling, so what is all these? now I feel like nobody loves no one it's all just give and take policy...

[KeaganTheBoss]

Bought a house had a kid and got married all in 1 year and all I think is what's next? Did I peak in life at 22 years old? Even though im aware these are good things and I should be proud of myself I feel no sense of accomplishment. Is that impostor syndrome? It was that part that made me think this, that's why I ask...also i hate how logical i am sometimes...other times i love it.

[jaynewell]

Thanks all the way from NZ, you’re videos have been super helpful and have helped me have a better understanding of things

[youngtucson]

I'm not sure where to ask the question at but I'll ask here..
What makes a child go to the people who abuse them?
I don't think I was given candy everytime so I don't think bribary..

[jnfx]

My issue atm is in my healing journey trying to find out who I am... yet everything i enjoyed in some way shape or form is a trsums response from listening to music or even writing fantasy stories

[LubnaSiddiq]

I didn't want this video to end 😢

[zuzannademuth]

I was smiling a lot, while listening. I guess, you've just opened my mind at so much stuff you said, you've cleared my mind somehow. Thank You for your time. feels like I didn't deserve it😅

[Uni_]

Thank you 🙏 you've hit a few nails
On the head ❤