HER ANGER SCARES ME: COMPLICATED CHILDHOODS

**FREE CHECKLIST: DO I HAVE NARCISSISTIC AND/OR BORDERLINE PARENTS?

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This video explores what often happens to us when we are raised by parents who struggle with traits or diagnoses related to Narcissism, Borderline, Immaturity, Unhealed Trauma, etc.

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1. BORDERLINE AND NARCISSISTIC PARENTS: HEALING AND DEALING WITH YOUR TRAUMA

(***This course is designed specifically for you if you were raised by parents who had Narcissistic, Borderline or significantly Emotionally Immature parents.

2. RE-MOTHERED: TRANSFORM YOUR WOUNDED INNER CHILD INTO AN INTERNALIZED, LOVING "MOTHER"

(***This course is designed to help you learn to heal your inner child AND your inner parent if you experienced a complicated childhood or challenging relational wounds).

3. IDENTIFYING CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT

Guided journal to help direct healing from childhood coming soon!

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Thank you so very much, and I wish you love and healing on your journey.:)

[kimbers]

I cannot believe u put out this video today. I was googling this topic today. My dad's fury was terrifying and I'm still terrified by anger.

[knitpurl]

Being yelled at is one of my biggest fears and I shut down. I've been attacked at work by people who have or perceive they have power over me and it's like I'm 7 again. That is getting better. My BPD mother had insane rages. She would also insist many times that I go places with her and yet she would ignore me or treat me badly but she had to have her possession with her.

[BecomeConsciousNow]

I have a lot of anger inside of me from my childhood. From my mother shouting at me and hitting me across the head to witnessing violent physical and verbal confrontations between my mother and father. I've always tried my best to never get angry, but holding it in only makes it worse when it finally comes out and act like an insane monster like the incredible hulk lol. I wish all this anger inside of me would go away but I don't know how to get rid of it. I feel deep shame when I do get angry and I'm afraid to be around people in case something triggers me. It's not fun having all this anger just underneath the surface a lot of the time.

[alexisrush]

I mirror...I did...I'm more aware of it now so I can control it better...but if someone is angry at me it terrifies me and it makes me feel very small

[haze]

I often yelled back at my mom but she still won every argument - in the end, I would always cower and cry and apologize, and usually she would make me pray aloud to God in front of her to forgive me for my sins while I was hyperventilating/crying. I had the corner room in the house with my bed pushed to the corner - I remember she’d bang on my locked door and I’d have to let her in, literally knowing there was no escape. I’ve learned to better control my own anger now with distance from my mother, but I do have trouble believing it’s ok for me to feel anger/express it.

[Jennicorn]

This is coming at such a perfect time! I'm finally at a point where I feel angry about what happened to me. The anger comes with a lot of guilt and shame, and it's hard to give myself permission to feel it, even when I know I have a right to it. Especially because nowadays (from across the country), my parents are supportive and caring and I barely play that old caregiver role anymore. I wish I could just get over it because they're doing better now, but I still feel angry deep down. It sucks.

[cmade]

How can I feel like less of a hypocrite? When my partner expresses anger or frustration, it immediately makes me uncomfortable. In the beginning I found myself hiding in the furthest room in the house from him which made him feel bad, like I thought he was going to abuse me. I personally feel like I cannot say anything to him about his anger because MY anger is all encompassing, screaming in his face, physical abuse. I sicken myself with hypocrisy in this cycle that feels like it never ends. I am constantly my mother and my mother's child, every single day.

[snhannis]

This is such a powerful video/message. It took me so long to realize that I struggled with anger and others being angry because of my mom. I’m finally identifying and allowing myself to be angry but still struggle with how to handle it. Previously I would ignore it and it would fester and when I couldn’t ignore it any longer, I’d take the anger out on myself for being angry. This video could help so many acknowledge this! Thank you!

[cliffordbrock]

Hi Kim,
Thankyou for your videos. I am currently being treated for Complex-PTSD. I am nearly 62yrs old. Repression of anger is anger that is not expressed, usually because people subconsciously want to ignore it or avoid it, often out of fear or shame. From my own experience, I would add to that. The abandonment causes confusion, entrapment. My anger came out through a light bulb moment when I wad 26yrs old.
Regards Cliff..xx

[meekmild]

Your words really calm me when i am feeling anxious. Thank you so much for your work. Very grateful.... I my life has improved since watching your segments... I use them a lot.

[JT-undc]

Can you do a video on the other side of the coin of anger? I grew up in a BPD house with violence and anger, usually being the first emotion demonstrated in every situation. I wasn't afraid to stand up for myself or fight back. Living with anger issues my whole life. I never really took the anger out on other people. In your other video, I am bad. this resonated with me more than anything! I would constantly be angry at my faults, not being good enough. I would constantly go back to this metal rod of anger without understanding how to break it. Finally, at least attempting to be kind to myself.

[dieresis]

TV dads mesmerized me - Ward Cleaver, Andy Griffith, Fred McMurray. Calm disagreements and wise counsel were not my dad’s way with but rare exception. Through mid life I feared expressing anger. It triggered an inward shivering, reminiscent of the visceral fear that I routinely experienced growing up. Some counseling and learning to practice meditation helped. I can now sense anger and decide if and how to express it - still not, and probably never will be my favorite thing to do, but it is much better now.

[Healingwithsantara]

I’ve mastered my mind (more and more each day) and I post material that may help you if you guys are on the same path 🙏🏽❤️

[taratara]

Your awesome and explain it so well. I have to ask about the necklace. Who made that?