Why do Kids Fight? Tips for Sibling Rivalry & Nurturing Siblings WITHOUT the Jealousy ! | Sue Atkins

Hello, In this video I am going to explain to you why siblings fight with each other & give you some positive ways to handle it.

Sibling rivalry has always had a bad press – think of Cain slaughtering Abel and Joseph being thrown down the well and sold by his brothers because they were jealous of his beautiful multi coloured coat!

Sibling rivalry can apply to any child living in the same family, from step brothers and sisters to blood related brothers and sisters – and it refers to the jealousy, competition, teasing and fighting that goes on between them – and all the experts seem to agree that it stems from your child’s deep desire and need for your exclusive love – and their need for your attention and their sense of identity, self worth and specialness within your family.

So let’s look at why siblings fight. Siblings fight for a number of reasons:

They fight because they want your parental attention, and you naturally only have so much time, attention and patience to give.

They fight because they are jealous: “He got a new bike. I didn’t. They must love him more than they love me.”

They fight over ordinary teasing which is a way of testing the effects of behaviour and words on another person: “He called me…” “But she called me…first.”

They fight because they are growing up in a competitive society that teaches them that to win is to be better: “I saw it first.” “I beat you to the water.”

They are vying for your attention and if they don’t feel valued or feel they are getting equal amounts of your love and approval they will fight for it and as they don’t always know positive ways to get you to notice or respond to them – and any attention is better than none.

Teenagers fight for the same reasons that younger children fight.

In this video I’ll give you my top tips.

Let me know how you get in the comments below 🎈

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