6 Differences Between Healthy and Unhealthy Love

Love may drive us wild, taking us on highs and lows. Without being taught the “how” on how to navigate love, we can inadvertently act out dysfunctional patterns in our relationships. Even the truest kind of love can turn toxic if we’re not careful. Are you in a healthy relationship or an unhealthy relationship?

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[OnlineLifeGuide]

“A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dreams, your values, or your dignity.”

[thecharismalab]

There's a difference between really loving someone and loving the idea of them

[acejemeima]

I read something online where it says: healthy love makes you fall inlove with yourself while unhealthy love makes you the opposite.

[key-matt]

Differences
1. Intensity vs Stability
2. Isolation vs Independence
3. Concern vs Jealousy
4. Teasing vs Belittling
5. Generosity vs Manipulation
6. Honesty vs Volatility

[varun.shenoy]

The narrator's voice makes me feel like a small kid who needs a sweater and hot chocolate

[annastokes]

After a string of toxic relationships, I’m in a healthy, mature relationship and scared as 💩 that I’m going to mess it up because I literally am not used to a man like him! 😭

[smileythehand]

Me, a freshman in highschool wanting to become a therapist later on in life:


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[KikiMoralez]

So hard to tell the difference between a relationship that needs work and a toxic one. Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

[johnoverbey]

Giving to get IS wrong. However...
When you constantly give and the other does nothing for you?
That's a different story.

[Exquisitedd]

I just want to put this out here.
I was in an 8 years relationship.
For the first four years, our relationship was under the healthy love category, I gave him lots of freedom, love, support and concern.
However, into the fifth year I found out that he cheated on me emotionally and hide it from me for years.
I tried to communicate with him and work it out with him. However, it didn't work and he repeated his infidelity.
What I should have done was just leave him...but I didn't.
What happened next was the healthy habits I used to have in the relationship went unhealthy.
After watching this video, I realised I went into the toxic category.... he couldn't stop cheating on me and couldn't stand me controlling him, so he left.
What I should have realised earlier was, he just did not love me anymore.
I shouldn't have become toxic just so I could let him stay in my life, it just wasn't healthy.
I am trying my best to change, although I feel like I can't go back to how I was in the beginning.
I hope someday I would improve....

[XxHUNTRNTRxX]

I often think to myself: Am I too selfish? Should I be selfish sometimes? Is it okay to care more about my own well being than I give a shit about other people? What’s the point of trying to keep someone else happy if I’m not? Self respect to me is very important.

[jamesranierlagahid]

unhealthy love is when you fell in love with a bag of potato chips

[Lewonlovestein]

You don't deserve someone who comes back. You deserve someone who never leaves. 💔

[CosmicGlitterGoddess]

Communication is nothing without comprehension. I tried "communicating " with someone about a couple things from my past, there was no comprehension on their part of what I said and they took it to the most extreme scenario that entered their mind. Do not underestimate that!

[duaas]

For anyone reading this, if you are in a relationship that has one of the aspects of negative love, it doesn’t always mean it’s just a bad relationship and that it needs to end. Obviously, it depends on the extremity, however, many relationships can start out fine and become unhealthy. What it takes is for you and your partner to realize it has become unhealthy and take steps to stop the unhealthy behaviour. Sometimes things just don’t work out, and people cross the line and constantly fluctuating between extremes is emotionally overwhelming and unhealthy. But other times people aren’t aware of what they are doing to hurt you and an important sign of a healthy relationship (as the last tip mentioned) is that you can tell this person what they did or what you think is an issue and they (or you) genuinely apologize and work to change.

[meeramalhotra]

Tfw when your parents' relationship checks off all the unhealthy boxes

[AikoNoDawn]

Bruh, intensity vs stability is sooo important. Stability might seem boring, but it lasts, friendo. It's true that there is usually an intensity at the beginning, but intensity won't make your relationship last.

[idiotgoddess]

“What is love?”
*Baby, don’t hurt me. Don’t hurt me, no more!*

[lexeemaine]

Loving someone and being in love with someone are two different things.