KINDA FEEL BAD FOR HIM 😥😨

[skyOH]

NTA. As a grown man and as a father he should know better than to spend money lavishly without thinking. The money belongs to your grandparents they can do with it as they will.

[radixmaharaj]

NTA. When someone tells you not to tell, don't because if your father finds out your life will be hell. When you graduate move out, get a job now and start your own savings so you can move out. What's about to happen when this comes to light is a pissed off man who will take it out on you. Start planning your escape now, you have time.

[niche_ne_obeshau]

No, u're not. It's grandfather and grandmothers money, so they can do whatever they want with it

[gailboyd]

NTA. GRANDPARENTS KNOW WHAT TO DO. KEEP YOUR WORD TO THEM AO THEY CAN RIP.

[argates]

They aren't dead yet. They could change their will again at any time. What they say now may not be the case six years from now.

Your dad is counting his chickens before they hatch. Despite what your grandparents have said, don't make the same mistake.

Keep your head down, your mouth shut, and continue being financially responsible.

[nyxspiritsong]

NEVER rely on money you THINK you MIGHT get. Nothing is for sure in this life. Except death and taxes of course

[pennyaccleton]

Until it happens it hasn't happened. Apart from any promises, they still can change their minds.

[marchellewilliams]

NTA you are not responsible for how your dad spends his money. He is accountable for his debts and finaces. He should never act as I'd He already has the money or depending in his parents deaths.

[ericariggeal]

Your father is neglecting his own responsibilities. If you tell him, he is more likely to try and bully your grandparents or you into giving him what he wants rather than changing his spending habits. After you inherit, be ready to move and possibly hide your contact info from your dad and his family. There is a strong chance he will come straight to you with a sob story to pay off his debts and provide him enough money regularly provide for his lifestyle and possibly even his kids college fund etc. pretty much everything that he has been neglecting. If you give him money once, he will not stop coming to you for money.

[RoseChilcutt]

So you buy a pleasent little house and rent it to him really cheap when he's really hurting. This way you have an long term investment properity and you are not giving out any funds as per your word and he's not homeless as an elder. You are learning how to both keep your promise and a secret. Valuable traits. He's living an expectation and you are living with knowledge. You might concider buying some of his debit and forgiving it if you still feel guilty when the time comes. An indirect gift. Another lesson you will need is how to be kind yet firm.

[bodhiswayze]

I saw this AITA so long ago, I’d love to know what the outcome was…

[Lucas-kycn]

Never spend money you "think you will get"! Only ever spend money you have right at that moment ! Prevents a lot of headache, believe it !

[helenbontje]

Don't count on money until it's in your hands! Best rule to live by so you don't get yourself into debt because you were ASSUMING you would get a windfall. Others don't owe you anything you haven't earned. Why does your Dad thinks he's getting all money is puzzling. He's not the Grandparents child. His new family is nothing to them.

[ashleymiskell]

Nope he should know as a grown adult the only thing you can rely on is yourself and he shouldn't have made those horrible decisions if he didn't want to face the consequences

[JJ-obuc]

Hahaha😂😂😂 I want to see the look on the dad's face when they read the will. 😂

[sandrasausville]

NTA I wouldn't tell him anything.
He did this to himself for marrying the wrong person.
So let them have the final laugh

[tinanana-]

1) he was not told not to tell him, he was told not to give out any money. She's the one choosing not to tell him
2) no it's more than likely that the dad isn't getting the inheritance because they don't like the step mom. But it doesn't say why, and if they just hate her for no reason then both op and the grandparents are TAH.
3) OP didn't say anything about the other grandkids (OPs siblings) getting anything. So yeah op and grandparents are TAH.

[LolGurrl]

NTA, he got careless and complacent by being irresponsible with money thinking he'll be on easy mode for life. He reaps what he sews

[anuradhagupta]

Well they are doing great for u. Ok so imagine u are 18 and they told u to move out but u will still have the money so save it up ok😃👍

[dtulip]

Nta, you should never expect to inherite anything and budget accordingly