Want to Be Happy? Give Up on Happiness! - Teal Swan

This video is designed for people who feel powerlessness about happiness. People, who feel like happiness is beyond their reach.

Happiness has become the new enlightenment. It has become the new heaven. An unattainable goal, a finish line that we keep chasing. There is a kind of shame that arises within us when we are unhappy. This is especially painful when we identify with being unhappy. Some of us don't have any idea what happiness really is, because we have never felt it. We feel like we "should be happy" even when we aren't. We feel the very worst about ourselves because we can't seem to "get life right and be happy like other people can".

We begin to feel like we are karmically destined to suffer. This issue of attaching to happiness is just another branch off of the tree I like to call "trying to get life right". We believe that if we are happy, we are getting our life right and if we are unhappy, we are getting our life wrong. We are holding onto the painful thought that we should be happy, even when we are not. This reaction to being unhappy only makes us unhappier. So what do we do about it?

Teal explains that the best thing we can do is to Give up on happiness. The idea of giving up on happiness may sound very odd coming from a spiritual leader because it is the job of a spiritual teacher to teach people how to find happiness. But Teal asserts that many contradictory teachings are in fact quite complimentary; and that this is one of them. Teal explains that if you give up on happiness, you are releasing resistance to suffering and/or unhappiness. And thus, you are allowing yourself to flow in the direction of happiness.

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Teal Swan is a New Thought Leader and a Bestselling Author who is an expert in human development and relationships. She has over a decade of experience working with people of all walks of life with a mission to reduce human suffering.

Today, she’s also become an International Speaker, having facilitated retreats and life changing workshops in large venues worldwide. Teal was ranked 15th on The Watkins Most Spiritually Influential Living People in 2023.

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Beginning Song:
Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel

[Miyankochan]

What I actually did a week ago: I have a "vision board" on my wall. For weeks I felt so pressured looking at the pictures of what I want to have that I finally decided to take down all pictures. Now, there is an empty board on my wall (with some necklaces) and I feel a lot better now looking at it. I let go of all my dreams and I don't want my happiness to depend on whether I reach these things or not.

[mugejones]

I watch this video once a week. I love the fact that I can just go to your uploads and watch whatever it is that I need to remind myself that day.  You've been a blessing in my life and you are on my list of "positive aspects of my situation. " Sending love your way, Teal.

[arnoldnarine]

How is it possible I haven't heard about Teal Swan before. She is amazing. Eye opening and accurate.

[brucekeen]

Be happy for no reason, like a child. If your happy for a specific reason, you're in trouble, because that reason can easily be taken away from you!

[dingsysaba]

I wish I could meet you in real life and speak to you. You are incredible, nothing has ever helped me think and feel more clearly about life than watching your videos, thank you. XX

[discoteque]

My two fav quotes: Being unhappy causes me to know strongly what I don´t want, and thus, strongly what I do want. Being unhappy forces you to get unstuck in one way or another.

[fzuzka]

The other day I saw a video of a handicaped young girl. It just blew my mind. It touched me so deeply how joyful she was. It made me question my own notion of happines so deeply I couldn't stop crying. I think for the first time in my life I TRULY realised how I neglected myself. And I was the one who felt handicaped in that moment.

[Love-bodf]

when my husband died I found myself in a world of contradictions,  I was so overwhelmed I could barely breath.  Of course "helpful" people were there to confirm my unhappiness and then to tell me "in time".   Of course people do not understand that time takes on different qualities for the person in that space and doesn't mean anything.  I hated that space and wanted out,  but didn't know how to move.  One day while sitting outside,  I said,  I need my yard to be filled with birds and their song.  Instantly birds came into my yard and I cried tears of joy,  I had moved!  And I felt grateful and I breathed.  I understand that the sadness is preparation for the happiness we are about to experience.  Just look for the Balance,  it is always there! 

[Love-bodf]

WOW!  I know this is for short comments but Teal,  you wouldn't believe the understanding I just gained from writing my first post.  When my husband was dying,  a flock of robins came into our yard and stayed throughout the duration of his death process,  one robin sat on our window sill and never left his post.  I had never seen or heard of this before.  On my husbands final day here,  all the robins left and I knew that he had to go.  After he died,  not one bird came into our yard,  didn, t even fly over our yard.  This is why I needed them to come back.  I always wondered why this had happened with the birds.  It was the vibration.  WOW!

[LucaZsofia]

This woman is a genius!! :) I've been really unhappy for not being able to be happy.. thank You Teal! So much!!

[DarthMadV]

If you get upset from her words you are not processing her words properly for what they truly mean. Go watch her video on Anxiety by typing Teal Swan Anxiety and you'll see what I'm talking about. You'll feel sad/anxious at first but just let her words process and you'll slowly understand. She will help you through this necessary moment in life that everyone will go through. But some won't be as lucky to find her videos.

[swanstorycraft]

You know, this is actually a VERY effective method of getting rid of depression, I believe. It reminds me of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, a form of thought-control that psycholigists/therapists use for drug-free healing of depredsive disorders. Wonderful job, Teal!

[cindyramirez]

YOUR KNOWLEDGE BLOWS MY MIND, I PRAY YOU GET THE CREDIT YOU DESERVE, YOUR BRILLIANT AND NEED TO BE ASSESABLE FOR EVERYONE, THATS WHY I ALWAYS SHARE YOU ON FACEBOOK WHICH I HAVE AROUND 200 FRIENDS ON, FROM HERE TO THE UK TO MEXICO, I WANT EVERYONE TO HEAR YOU! LOVE YOU

[mariamurphy]

I no longer should all over myself, others, or situations. I have also lost right and wrong. Now I can stop being upset with myself for being unhappy. Thank you for the more obtainable goals.

[albertodagrezio]

you're absolutely the best person one could ever desire to meet. the sense of peace, tranquilty and confidence you inspire is unique. Your "have a good week" feels so real and sincere. Thank you to exist

[giobartolomeo]

are my hero....an angel walking this earth!!! Your accuracy and precision on these matters always amazes me! You are truly a beautiful individual inside and out! You have made such a wonderful difference to my life and I’m sure to many others also!

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for so lovingly sharing this knowledge, for being the person you are, for possessing the gifts that you have and for saving so many lives!

SO MANY PEOPLE LOVE YOU Please keep up this fabulous work as this world is in desperate need of your help!!!

Love Always x

[z]

I absolutely 100% agree with this and I know intellectually and experientially that what she is saying is true. As soon as you let go of something you really want it shows up almost instantaneously and its remarkable how often I come across scenarios like that happening in my own life. Time and again your videos and that of other spiritual teachers have had that excellent timing and resonance with exactly what I have been going through and thinking at those times and for that I am deeply grateful towards you and the universe. May your life be filled with an abundance of joy and fullfillment in the most harmonious and extraordinary ways. Thank you.

[NeechOne]

This is some of the most beautifully enlightening information I've ever heard in my entire life. Thank you so much for this message.

[CrissyAlwaysSunny]

This is amazing. I actually feel better after watching this.

[traumametaphysical]

Teal you are just.... no words!!!! U have changed my life so so so much I can’t explain.... nobody in this worlds has changed me so much