Being a Pastor's Kid is HARD!! I Lost myself

Life As a Pastors Kid

I would love to shape your perception of “Pastor’s Kids” and show how growing up with fathers as pastors have influenced my life and made me lose my identity.

The expectations and pressures of pk's by the surroundings

The horror pastors kids go through

life of a Pastors Kids

[vukona_n]

Yeah being A pastor’s kid is very hard ...you struggle with finding identity in Christ and you end following people’s identity, I only realised through therapy.The pressure is just a lot...that is why I never want people to know I’m a now it doesn’t matter because I’ve learned to remove myself from my parent’s shadow .I’m becoming my own person.

[shadowgod]

It was rough, i hvnt step inside a church service for over 30 years… I’m all set… but I believe in God.

[bkstandard]

The problem with being a pastor's kid is that you can never just be a Christian. People literally told me, "you're gonna be the next pastor and you don't get a choice!" I used to fantasize about what my life would be like if I'd just been born to a standard Christian family. It was only 5 years ago (at the grown age of 29) that I finally admitted out-loud that I hated being a pastor's kid and it was the most freeing moment of my life.

[MitzziM]

Good video. Many pastor kids go through more than any will ever know. It also makes us very strong and independent. I'm glad for all that I learned and for having my eyes open. Thank you for talking on this!

[bathabile]

It takes an incredible amount of self awareness to identify the behaviour/character you took on to avoid the labels people tried to put on you.. Well done for digging deep to rediscover TMP.. Proud of you sir👏🏾

[ms_charming_]

This man and I are 110% common
My father is also a founder of the church, so many people recognize me in every town cause I look so much like my dad 😢
People believe I'm supposed to follow my dad's calling or something, so much pressure on me spiritually, physically and socially....It was so bad that I started questioning God, I hated going to church, I hated the congregation, it wasn't healthy for me til God actually transitioned these problems into my blessings, I unknownly started feeling joy when going to church and being a pastor's kid ... God showed me that he gave me this life for a reason, He favours our family in such a great way

I'm grateful, God ! ❤😊

[carltoncoleman]

I grew up hating the church. One because I was socially awkward and did not fit in and too I knew I was different as far as sexuality at a young age, and three I generally did not believe that today's moral standards should be based on a book of fables. These three things made it difficult for me to really adjust. My dad had been a deacon all of my childhood and teen life. He forced me to go to church and the only I could escape it is to go over my cousins house at the time during weekends. Once that relationship was strained, church was almost an every Sunday occurrence. Around the time I got into some trouble and came out as gay, I was in my 20s and he became an associate minister a year later.

Many pastor's kids rebel as they are held up to this gold star standard with everyone thinking that they too will or should end up in ministry. Most are forced into it one way or other without it really being a calling. I was a blasphemer every since childhood and those kids that are the most compliant as young people become more rebellious as they get older. Many have even left the faith as in becoming an Atheist. I'm currently in that category as well. It's not so much about being church hurt either although that could be catalyst to some degree. Just do research on your religious faith and you find it to be BS. There is still nothing wrong with a relationship with God and spirituality in general, IMO.

[Kboss]

As a preachers kid I can 100% understand and agree with what you’re going through.

[chawanetwins]

There's no way you can define who you are unless you know where you come from🙌🙌🙌this was good to me

[leandajane]

Keep your head up, I'm a pastor's kid too.

[EmmysCoolVids]

I am struggling with an identity crisis faith wise. I've seen alot. Too much judgement and pain and also false lies that are said too by Christians themselves towards pastors that affects the kids. I don't have social media either due to fear of being judged and not wanting problems. I became anti social due to being tired of people and their bs been that way since i was 14 years old im 24 now . I go to church but I can't say my relationship with God is not the best right now. It's hard everyone expects alot from you and are just waiting to see what you do. It gets tiring and it gets to the point where religion scares you.

[ndhlovulegacypictures]

I think the pressure comes from being born or being under the hand of someone who is known for greatly servicing his /her people! I experienced this also! It's bad!

[robloxcool]

I'm 11 and i feel related I'm a pastor child and everyday church i can't stay home for one day and they keep calling my brother pastor and me and my brother would laugh because we both know we hate church we both know when we go to college don't count on me

[LivingToLiveAgain]

I AM AT THE PLACE WHERE SOMETIMES FEEL HATE FOR MY PARENTS!!!

👎🏽 even though god hears our prayers to; it’s very hard! Even as an adult.

[koreangrace]

It's really too Hard....Hearing this I understanded I'm not alone who is facing this

[hluchawane]

There's no way one can describe themselves without knowing where they're coming from 😭 that's a word up!!🔥🔥🔥

[tanyabrown]

What a great video. Helps me to understand my children’s perspective as they are pK’s, too. Thank you for speaking this truth.

[thefixwithrighteous]

I was wondering what happened to this video 🙈🙈are you taking over?

Does it have to be like that in ministry? Do children take over?
What if you don't have the call?
Or don't love church at all, what happens in that circumstance?

Sad truth, people don't know what they do to us?
Society could destroy us somehow
I am soo sorry to hear you went through this shame I feel you.

Pastor's kids go through the most shame and nobody notices, we can't be us we have to live as little angels💔😭that's 1 of the reoson I never wanted to marry a pastor or to be 1 myself. I didn't want my children to go through what I went through.

What a gift to be a Pastor's kid
Thank you for this it's powerful and eye opening 🙏🙏congratulations on finding yourself in a long run.. Welcome

[The_People_Who_Know_Their_God]

Fourple character 😂😂😂🙌🏾 dead for days lol!
More strength and wisdom to you brother ✊🏾

[fortunemotitimi]

This is could be why Paul remained unmarried!🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️🤔🤔🤔