Living Apart Together: Couples in separate homes say they have more success at love

What’s the secret to a happy relationship? For more and more Canadian couples, the way love is being lived is changing.

Couples are choosing commitment - but not to share it under the same roof.

It’s called Living Apart Together (LAT). Statistics show it’s on the rise, and the pandemic and all that togetherness might lead to more growth.

For The New Reality, Marianne Dimain speaks with couples and researchers about this growing trend and why more people are attracted to being in long-term committed relationships, but not living in the same space.

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[DaleStrickland]

Can confirm that living apart is working wonderfully for us. They're a 15 minute walk away so we can see eachother whenever we want while still having our own space

[rabiaarslaner]

My husband is very messy and I am no longer at peace in the same house with him, but I am very in love with him. I think the first thing I will do when I have money is to separate our houses.

[ransacktheelders]

I've been with my guy for YEARS and we don't live together. We have a fantastic relationship.

[nickyb]

Great idea! The only thing that scares me about having a relationship again would be loosing my space. And don’t necessarily want someone around every day! ❤️

[ac]

I want to do this because going to bed and waking up to the same person everyday for the rest of my life gives me anxiety and makes me feel suffocated. I also love my sleep and I am a light sleeper that if I am sleeping with someone everyday and they wake up in the middle of the night, itll wake me up and get me annoyed.

[jamiewilliams]

Having space and me time is healthy in a relationship.

[karinenolet]

My partner and I have been together 2 years and live separatly. He has a teenager and I don't have any kids. I am a home owner and he rents an appartment. We live about 20 minutes away and it woudnt be possible for him to move into my house, since it's too far from his children's school. And you know what? We're good! We have our solo times, our together time. We are both in our 30s.

[blackacrossthepond]

This arrangement really appeals to me! Im currently married. Been married for 7 years and i struggle with being married. I don't really want to get divorced as i do love my husband. LAT i think would make our marriage stronger.

[LSV-Walking]

I would love to have a relationship like that to be married but not have to live with my partner.

[teejack]

If both are financially stable and independent, then why not.

[StoicEver]

I think this may be a good solution for modern day relationships. It seems to avoid most of the silly struggles you have when living together. What's left should just be enjoying eachothers time. I would love to see more people speak on this and explain some of the difficulties that we may not see in this setup.

[Arlene_witha_y]

This is a fantastic idea

I’m a 40 year old single mom of two teenage girls and my boyfriend has adult children who live independently but a young son who lives with his mother 3 hours away.

My boyfriend is currently helping his elderly parents living with them.

He comes to my house when my kids are with their father and spends a night or two and we go out on dates and trips.

It’s been 2 years and i don’t think changing things to make us more “serious” is necessary such as living together or being married.

We are loyal and faithful to one another bc we are crazy about eachother, but we keep our independence and autonomy bc we are both financially independent.

It works for us so far. Who knows what the future will bring, but i know im a light sleeper, compulsively neat and need at least 1 completely alone at home day per week just to function (socializing too much drains my energy and i tend to be more anxious and he more social and relaxed)

We still enjoy each others company very much nonetheless. I’m afraid living together will harm that.

[Larindarr]

This is standard and common in Sweden. Even ppl having children and not marrying and living in their own homes still.

[Pat]

Living Apart is working well for my husband & I! We live in the U.S. 3 hours apart in neighboring states. We met online & no one wanted to move. We are both native to our cities & live near our families. So, we married & stayed living apart. Our marriage is good. The short distance is our only problem. It would be nice if we lived 1 hour away, rather than 3 hours. The access to one another would increase & be a very good thing!

[ysabellpp]

The amount of people in the comments threatened by this concept is truly remarkable 😂

[ParisTNT]

Thank you so much for posting this video. Very interesting 👍🏼😻

[Lav_amb]

Where can I find a man who would be intersted to do this? Married but live seperate 😅

[ciyqcwl]

When your thoughts becomes a reality 🤯

[diannemonroedlc]

I actually dig this ngl 🤷‍♀️then again I’m an introvert so yeah 😂

[AntonioAlves-wmie]

Yes yes yes !! Thank you as you said, the old tradition of Living Together is the number 1 cause of Divorced of the world close to 80% percent . However dating marriage or old tradition is over needs to change