The fantasy of successful men

Men run out of things to buy.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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[Khan-rzqi]

Not only do you run out of things to buy, over time you lose motivation to keep going above and beyond for the same woman over and over again. It’s like you can’t build equity with them, as Doc says everything you’ve ever done for them is meaningless, it’s what you’re doing now and what she can hope to experience with you later that keeps her there. And if you decide to fall back for one second to enjoy the fruits of all your investments, they start feeling like you don’t “love” them anymore, “you don’t date me anymore” etc. You gotta constantly keep them emotionally engaged or your sex life starts to die. All of this, while also having to balance an intense career and a very busy life. All of this was way too much for me, I used to feel emotionally and spiritually exhausted. It’s like you can’t even breathe.

[banksofbarcelona]

It's why frame is very important. You have to deny them their desires from time to time and if you're respected they'll stand by you. If she's a big shovel digger she'll leave. If she leaves 🍃 the better it is for you. Never compromise yourself for anyone. They only add little value to you. Most of the value you add to yourself is from your own hard work not by being with them. A saying goes, only time she makes a man a millionaire is when he was a former billionaire. How trill is that??

[joeyjojojrshabadoo]

You can't buy a woman's love, you can only reset the clock on her contempt.

[robertavila]

Those women unhappy with closet full of purses, 2 homes, and dream car in the garage.. they are absolute proof

[zjco]

Good God, why are men evening pursuing women at this point?

[Rakyr]

I think this is why players hit it a few times then bounce, they understand it is more difficult to maintain frame/relationships than it is just to enjoy a new one

[robertpappas]

Such a true statement; it is a lose lose situation.

[Snoop_Dugg]

There are so many jaded men here. There definitely are women out there that will stay with you long term.

But they are hard to find for a reason

[louisbee]

When will men learn? Women are for the short-term. Get in, enjoy while it's good, get out. 6 to 12 months should be the goal.

[aamirh]

Broke man, has all the time. Rich man has all the money. Does any guy ever truly win?

[henrycyan]

That's why you just switch it up and get different women. It just resets each time .:)

[JaeohnEspheras]

Thats why you don't buy everything she asks for. Trade it with something you want from her. Not sex, but behaviors on her part. Failure to do will end those purchase and may be cause to end the relationship. A sucessful man bare minimum standard is respect from that woman.

It is not too different than treated children. She can be spoiled as well. And if she would rather be with a man who biys everything she ask for and leaves you, she is doing a service for you.

[OptimalOpinion]

Trust me there are plenty of meals + vacations ... it is ALWAYS the time + $$$

[Authenticity]

And then that man (in your example) moves on to another woman so he can buy the same stuff, get the same benefits, from a younger/different model.

[tautvydukass]

Just be succesfull enough for yourself, they are all strong and independent let them be their own man they want to marry.

[OptimalOpinion]

"the ONLY thing left to give her is a divorce" genius !!!

[martinmcfly]

Thats why service women were created 1000s of years ago 😂😂😂

[djswaglightyear]

But the question still remains: why is what a man can do/provide for a woman the only metric of success in heterosexual romantic relationships?

[xxChacaronXX]

A lot of “successful Men” actually have wisdom. “Better to be poor and wise than rich and stupid”

Most people don’t know what success is. They turn to influences and go along with the herd.

[sepst]

good relationships are one of the best sources of happiness in the world and you can't buy happiness. when will men stop thinking in such materialistic ways? sorry bud its about you, not what you can provide