How To Know If Someone Is Jealous Of You: Psychotherapy Crash Course

Have you ever questioned the loyalty of your relationship, your family, or your friend?
Have you ever wondered if your friend, partner, or even parent is jealous of you?

I know it may feel somewhat uncomfortable to consider this. I also know that this isn't something you may want to face but it could be true.

In this video, I review jealous individuals and some of the toxic behaviors common to people who hold malice and subliminal dislike of those they are jealous of. This video will start off our conversation about delusional behaviors which often entails toxic jealousy.

I welcome your comments, questions, and experiences.

[shexbdiamond]

family & close friends are usually the biggest haters.

[BBFCCO]

I was abused by my family for most of my life. My father consistently put me down so that I would not succeed. There was no love and light, no connection, just abuse. When I left them, I found myself not knowing how to connect with others, but I wanted to learn. I was healing from abuse. I am now slowly starting to rebuild my life and noticing that these are people out there that feed off other people's insecurity or goodness to try and keep them from being happy, being connected to others, from shining. There is hatred in their eyes and it is scary how many people have destroyed my from achieving my goals out of bullying and hatred. I am trying to learn skills on how to deal with these evil people. Better late than never.

[marijay]

timestamps

1. you're disliked for no real reason (4:03)
2. they undermine you in any given opportunity (4:42)
3. they covet what you've got (5:36)
4. their vindictiveness & toxicity is suffocating (6:40)
5. they often fit the description of narcissism (7:13)
6. they are often forceful and impulsive (7:56)
7. they are destructive & sneaky (8:20)
8. they are unauthentic (8:34)

as an empathetic person, i know it's fairly easy to understand a person's history or sob story as to why they are this way BUT sometimes a person is just plain evil. pls stay away from them socially & physically as much as you can

[Dobermanmomma]

I've had a problem with rental condos and ending up living in the same building as women who were extremely jealous and I moved twice in order not to be subjected to outrageous behavior from these toxic individuals. Its insane. If your pretty, successful, and friendly, watch out. I still have a hard time wrapping my head around the insanity these women were living in.

[kimH]

I had a friend that was jealous and toxic. Every time I shared something with her she would immediately run out and try to get something bigger and better. It was awful. Now I think she stalks me on Linked. I just ignore her and keep going.

[suejuede]

From my own female family members I suffered undue character assassination, also vicious intent to destroy my personality while they emulated my personality they were destroying in me . Their alienating me.bers of my social circle while they themselves entered my social circle, their emulating my hair style and clothing style and cosmetic application. My preferences in music and art. This is only the tip of the iceberg.

[missionrd]

I had a friend who was jealous of me but at least he admitted it to me and he did get over it. It is the ones who would never admit it that you have to watch out for.

[AntiMasonic]

I'll tell you one thing. I'm not jealous or envious of you. You are beautiful. Wow!

[prettydollswagg]

THIS IS my ex girlfriend. She copies my physical appearance, my college choices my careers choices my hobbies. After we broke up she went to all my ex friends or ex partners and smear campaigned me. She then called the college of social workers and my work place snd trying to get me fired/ in trouble. Watching this made me feel SOOO GOOD & VALIDATED. THANK YOU💗

[diannerussell]

The face says it all when it comes to jealousy. Also compliments, I hate compliments even from my family. What makes jealousy so sinister is that they will be so sweet toward you with the fake smile and the kissy kissy thing and at the same time they will be grasping hold of a butches knife ready to plunge it in at the appropriate moment. My husband and I would have a flexible Monday off work and we would watch the B grade midday movies that were on TV. My husband who passed away about nine years ago loved Psychology and I love it too. Anyway we were watching this movie and most of these movies were of male and female stalkers who were full of jealousy or girlfriend or boyfriends who couldn’t move on after the breakup, or divorcées who were jealous of the new wife or husband or jealous friends, coworkers or strangers. My husband would say to me you know what the acting in these movies is bad however there is truth in these stories, people do these hideous things to one another, it is true. In my opinion and by what I have personally experienced growing up with five jealous sisters and two Narcissistic jealous parents that jealousy would have to be the most prominent trait in all of us. I don’t think people realise just how powerful this emotion is and there is nothing good about it, all murders are based on some kind of insecure jealousy. I don’t read my comments when people reply to mine even when my comments are lovely because of jealous people, jealousy is insecurity and if jealousy is not controlled it can have detrimental effects both mentally, emotionally on the victim and can lead to physical harm and murder. If you see the look of jealousy in peoples faces get the hell away from that person and cut all connections with them. Displays of jealousy are dangerous, that means that person has the potential to do anything to you, your family or property. I had to cut my entire family out because of out of control jealousy on their side, the type that will say I love you while plotting your murder. I had a lot of people that were jealous of me when I was a practicing Catholic at a particular parish church, one woman in the church office who is a deranged bunny boiler. Jealousy is the most ugliest look and the most sinister trait.

[LADYDIVAful]

I had a family member that I had to CUT OFF COMPLETELY. Everything you said in this video describes HER to a "t". You never disappoint, thank you!

[vivicardona]

Tamara, you're right on point. The evil toxic behavior is the one that scares me the most. When the jealous narcissist person used their flying monkeys to get to you. I have lost my job, apt because of someone's jealousy. I call it jealousy because I don't know nor do they know me.
QUOTE: IF YOU DONT LIKE ME AND WATCH EVERYTHING I DO. AAhh , YOU ARE A FAN ....

[maddyG]

Another aspect of this dynamic: you’ll feel confused all the time. My friend coveted my life from day one, but I didn’t notice until she started imitating every big life decision I made, my university major, my hobbies, everything that made me ME. That changed a bit when I called her out and told her how uncomfortable it made me to share a goal and then have her come back and make it about how she was pursuing the same thing all of a sudden. When we’d interact it would be constantly hot and cold and riddled with passive aggressive, defensive reactions. I felt insanely confused and anxious during conversations because anything I said seemed to trigger a reactive response. She would make everything into a performance and a way to prove how great she was to me. I’m ashamed to admit I fell into it as well and let my own competitive side come out…but I firmly believe she initiated that dynamic first because I have seen her do it with other friends. It included contradicting and trying to argue with me about the smallest things. I felt this tense energy from her even during the most innocent topics of conversation. She was always working an angle to be smarter, wiser and more mature than me. To top it all off, she acted as though she was such a compassionate and selfless person, but let me tell you I have rarely met such a self involved, tactless person. For a period of time a few years back, I don’t think she asked me a SINGLE question, I’d just sit there while she went on about herself and interrupted me when I’d try to get a word in. She behaved in ways that completely went against the claim that she was a compassionate person. It was exhausting to feel so confused about what her actual feelings were.

[naomis.sharif]

Whether it's family or so-called friends. PUT Space between you and them!! This is an excellent presentation.

[barbarahenson]

I’m 63, and hearing this makes me so sad, because all my family members and friends have been this way, and that’s why today I have no one …except my husband.

[rubenbell]

" AND THY COUNSELLORS AS AT THE BEGINNING " ( ISAIAH 1:26 )
THANKS!

[AltraTara]

And when that jealous person is your own mother… 😔

[maureenwright]

I experienced this with other employees at my jobs but what really annoys me is the fact that I'm not competing with them neither am I showing any real passion or interest in the job so I don't really understand where their jealousy is coming from or why.

[missbettyboop]

I dont let neighbours into my home..i always think its dangerous for neighbours to know how your home is truly set up...we talk across garden fence

[ClarkeIllmatical]

Thanks again for making this video. I would like to add on that unless you too have been jealous at some point in your life, you won't know the signs or what to look for. I've dealt with my own jealousy at different times when I was younger and it has helped me identify when someone is being jealous. This is specifically manifested with JEALOUS SIBLINGS.