How can INTJs gain EgoHacking Mastery? | CS Joseph Responds

CS Joseph responds to the Acolyte question how can INTJs gain EgoHacking mastery?

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[luissberenguer_]

1. How to Win Friends and Influence People
2. Ego Hacking by Text…
3. Books on Social engineering (3 books)
4. Season 21 (how to social Engineer)
5. Every Robert Greene Book
6. Learn GAME, pick up artistry or social skills, Roosh, Rational Men 5, Game = Social Skills
7. No more Mr Nice Guy, learn from ENTPs, Dating Essentials for Men
8. How to be a 3% man
9. The Unchained Man

[Floridamanknowsbestt]

Personal development #1. Get a haircut, get some new shoes, work out, read, join a local club or organization with good people involved further ahead than you are. Stay out of bars, stay away from drugs. Part with less than desirable friends holding you back. Be better, more days than you are not until you die. As confidence and competence grows things get better. Don't worry late bloomers. Play the long game, just keep trying to double up as many times as possible and you will surpass a lot of people you had on an imaginary pedestal faster than you may believe 💪

[cynthiasmith]

As an INTJ woman I have never contacted an ex

[beckylo]

First thing I did when deciding to leave academia was read a bunch of books on social & emotional intelligence, business, sales, marketing… I recognized my deficiency in the “real” world and being a withdrawn loner in the math department with other loners did not help with my feedback of what was normal. So socially awkward but like most new domains, I had confidence I could learn from books and master through practice.

Learning typology has helped so much in having compassion and understanding. I used to be perplexed and peeved why people didn’t see things my way. Now I get and accept that most people will not. But one step further, I can set my views aside and see through their lens with their worldview and framework. So helpful when counseling to understand their proclivities and how they may come to harmful conclusions so I can help guide them using an approach they deem most sensible… because my natural “say it as it is” approach doesn’t go well with most people.

Thank you Chase for your content.

[estebansosa]

As an Infj I’m boutta binge all the books he just mentioned

[qasimimtiaz]

only non heart temple types view me social inept. i don’t get same judgement from heart temple types - intj

[georgeklein]

By the way, you said something before - Ni is willpower and not organizing the world into concepts. I also thought it was the organization, but now realize it is because memory is so bad we need to organize the things we read into concepts. Kind of like how we store our memory in objects. We need to distill information into objects or concepts to remember them. Saving space? idk. But that is the kind of "note taking" we do.

[nmorg]

Alright Ik I’m just ranting at this point but I seriously love this video. Like I would literally watch an entire series on this for all the types

[MariaDevon-tq]

As an INTJ with Asperger i realized being so fixated on not coming across as socially awkward(Se inferior) actually made me come across as even more socially awkward than i actually am bcuz i was tryna micromanage everything:what i say, my body language, what others think, how they react etc and it made me come across as even more socially awkward than i actually am and sometimes even as a little bit of “a pussy”. Being a children entertainer(i was paid mad money for it like 100 bucks/2 hours that’s a lot for a teenager) has helped me kinda embrace being a little socially awkward and not be so afraid of how i come across anymore

[icingcake]

The shortcut is learning social skills from watching other people lol - I feel like a lot of this is directed at young INTJs.

[qasimimtiaz]

what places are friendly enough for intjs to practice social skills?

[nmorg]

This is one of my all time favorite vids on ur channel almost immediately. So many sources and so much info to go through thank you for this amazing content. Also just to double check (this goes to anyone else who knows the book) is the 99 ways book by a guy named Matt Madden I wanna make sure I’m getting the right one

[qasimimtiaz]

i think one book is enough and then just practice on the field

[gouthambolt]

I have read how to win friends and influence people more then 5 times, which I don't do with any other book. Its the book for me. My problems mostly were that there usually are no established rules to social communication. I do speak well but it feels very formal, can never git women by texting them. Texting the biggest problem.

[dakocat]

As AN older iNTJ we can have many exes, but usually it's others who chose us, the ones that we choose we will never forget them. We will always try to contact them even if it is extremely painful. Imagine loving an ISFJ with everything you have had and then reject them because of some stupid reason and then regretting that decision after realizing how stupid that decision was. it took me 3 years to get over them, the process was extremely painful. ISFJ never look back once you hurt them. If i had the opportunity to talk to them then i wouldn't mind at all. It's just that isfj can be extremely stubborn and they hold grudges forever. My point is, we INTJs will have one or two such exes that we will always try to contact but they usually don't give a damn.

[Twelly]

Intj lesbian here. I don't try and get back with exes simply because I don't see the point. Seems like too much work to try and convince someone to like me. So if they don't, I don't press the issue. And that goes for beginning relationships as well. And I also won't hang around and try to be friends either because that just sucks. I take my L and move on forever.

[sandymakesplans]

i never knew the celestial, festive was an aesthetic, but alas. thanks for sharing 🙏🏼

[sylviaowega]

You are right that the INTJ typically lack social skills, but you can be rest reassured that the INTP is even worse. I can tell you that I had to work harder at mastering social skills and game theory than my INTJ my hubby

[sylviaowega]

I think it may be an INTx thing, I know that I’m an INTP recall taking a very long time to let go of this ex that broke up with me.

[aleks_o]

INTJ. i read like half of that list back in highschool lol. didnt expect to hear rooshs name these days