Pain is more PAINFUL than pleasure is PLEASURABLE

Understanding incentives.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

[tamachining]

brings new meaning to carrot on a stick

[PhilipX]

The Pleasure / Pain principle.
5 to 1 ratio to make the interaction worthwhile... too much drama =
'Not worth it'. Find one with character

[toasterpastries]

*This is why frequently I'm tempted to unalive myself.*

[BeautiHacks]

This is also why a narcissist who love bombs so much in the beginning gets away with causing so much pain after their mask starts to fall. People chase what they had in the beginning like a drug. And the timing of when they drop their mask is right after they have you hooked. It’s easy to walk away from someone who is causing you pain that you’re not emotionally invested in, but far more difficult to walk when you are.

[mmmmeager]

Another one is people are motivated to change from inspiration or desperation

[justtekina]

I been struggling with trying to udnerstand people, but been wanting to because i always get maniuplated, so made sure to try and understand or see people agendas and the way they view me, and a way to undestand how they treat me, but with this in the mix, pain and pleasure, i somewhat understand, why my bad boy lil bro is love for who he is, and not what he does, for others which is nothing, i do a lot for people and they dont care, to respect me more or love me more, i actually got incredibly sad, when i realize im the last in everyone hearts to be loved, but its whatever, anyways pain and pleasure, as reasons why people do actions, is a great line of thinking, im trying to bend that into, overthinking and procrastination, which seems like a purgatory of between pian and pleasure, now to me

[monikasolymos]

It is not only valid for relationships, but life.
But we must learn to bear pain, because this is life. Sometimes we must take pain in life for longterm pleasure, take this life here in Earth, to gain everlasting plesure in Heaven. Only immature people hide against pain all their life. But no game is no gain.
It doesn't mean to choose pain. No! Find meaning and pleasure in everything! Even in the darkest moments of your life.
My coworker, my friend, is a wonderful woman, she had two husbands, both died, and she comes to work smiling, with make up, nice clothes, and radiates the will to live. Everyone can learn from her!

[maximusmeridius]

Anthony Robbins laid this out quite well over 40 years ago.

[MonteFleming]

It seems to me that pursuing love, purpose, and meaning are not things we do for the pleasure, but rather things we do in spite of pain. In other words, love, meaning, and purpose are far greater rewards than mere pleasure.

[mustafadawud]

I would reword that sentence: pain is more powerful than pleasure, that makes more sense.

[jameswilkerson]

I can’t imagine ANY relationship having even 3 pleasurable interactions for one painful. Being with people is a *mostly* painful experience, imho

[inserter]

I chose pain over pleasure 🙏
As hard as it was, I knew it was the best in the moment.

[zueszues]

Becuase bad luck can mean suffering death no more tomorrow
But
Good luck ONLY short fun time

That why human brain weight pain Over happiness

[anthonyml]

Another way of looking at it (assuming he's correct) we learn from pain but not from pleasure, which is why chasing after instant gratification is not a long term solution for anything.

[Doberman_]

The carrot ain't worth the stick, at least in the West.

[jeanettesuzannebrooks]

Also it’s what we’re used to from upbringing in how we related to our opposite gendered parent in that all familiar part of our brain as to what we’re used to in dating, mating, and relating it seems. How to break that cycle? Just have good times, which means zip our mouths and stop processing!

[Mr.E_Bodhako]

is it easier to avoid pain than it is to achieve pleasure though. you could argue that pleasure is more rewarding as it is harder to obtain therefor a greater reward than avoiding pain, although pleasure is fleeting and pain sticks in the mind. is the avoidance of pain a pleasure.

[davidlam]

That's because thinking is too difficult for most that why most people judge according to phycologist CARL JUNG which I also agree with, and that most cannot think in terms of long term bigger picture benifits vs. short fleeting pleasure🤔

[migueldias]

Use pain to control others is good until the day you mess up with the wrong person.

[durandus]

32:10 when you get hit by a drunk driver cause you keep driving down bar street on a Friday night your insurance will go up no matter how technically safe you were driving cause you ignored too much of environmental conditions