AITA for Refusing to Help My Brother with His Wedding After Declining to Attend?

[adreannacarlene]

If your brother knew how she treated you before they got involved, then shame on him. You’re in your rights mental abuse is a horrible thing to go through.

[tangerinebabe]

I'll never understand how someone who is supposed to love you, will put a bully over you. It's vile

[briannahudson]

Why should she give the bully a chance when the bully spent at minimum 8 years making her life a living hell. Has never apologized, has never tried to make it right and yet she's supposed to be the bigger person and treat that horrible person as family? And help them save thousands upon thousands of dollars and get special flowers that are only for close friends and family of the florist which OP is but her brother and bully aren't? Nope. NTA and keep them out of your life.

[hitoshishinso]

We can all tell who the golden child of this family is. I bet the parents were just like the brothers' fiance to some other poor kids when they were in school, and thats why they defend her. Bullys always defend bullys even at the expense of their loved ones.

[jnull]

Ah yes a decade of bullying a small thing to get over (sarcasm) NTA

[lindah]

There's been a couple of stories similar to this. In one case the victim actually played nice. The abuser had sincerely apologized. Cough, cough. During the speeches the victim was last to speak. Took the stage and the mic. Cued up screen. Her speech started out talking about her brother, his life. Showing pictures of his life. Then she began talking about beautiful bride. Showed a couple of pictures from when she was very young. Then as she mentioned the Bride going to highschool, pictures of herself with a broken arm, stitches on her face with a black eye. Followed by notes/letters from the bride threatening her. Her brother (Groom) did try to get to her to take the mic away. He was blocked by 2 of his groomsmen. The Bride lost her shit. Her parents tried to calm her. As the victim left the reception with the 2 groomsmen, the Bride screamed that she would K her.
This whole scene caused massive problems for the Newlyweds and both families. Groom and Bride had their bosses and many coworkers attending. FOB, FOG, MOG had bosses and some clients attending. Some were forced to quit their jobs, some were demoted. The 2 groomsmen received praise by their coworkers for their roll in protecting the victim.

[doriskoons]

The girlfriend is psychopathic. She missed tormenting you so much that she hooked up with your brother so she could torment you from the inside of your own family.
Kudos for your sister realizing this is messed up and for sticking by you. Let your parents deal with the mess they are making for the brother. She will make his life hell if she can’t torment you.

Drop them, block them, get as far away as you can. Take your sister out of that if you can. Your family is now toxic and it is their own problem. You owe them nothing. You owe yourself peace and healing. You owe yourself happiness.

[maluna]

Ok, people can change BUT we are talking about a woman who was 20yo by the time she stopped harrasing OP and not because of conscience, but because she would get expelled.


If she stopped by 15-17yo or apologized then I would consider giving her ONE chance. But she obviously never outgrew highschool or middleschool even.

[mayurakshimukherjee]

Getting stalked for 8 years is something small, what weed is op's family smoking?

[lyraflow]

Be extra petty and ask your friends mum to not work for them at all and blacklist them. Or overprice them. But the first is better, since it's the most popular it will not hurt them. And when they go crying on social media, then they can just answer that they don't serve bullys and stalkers.

[Fennni]

NTA. Brother and parents talking about being loyal to the family while this girl made ops like a living wreck. If this happened to me I'm making a USB with everything she ever did to me and bribing the dj or whoever runs the screen cuz most weddings show pictures of the couple I'm pretty sure and have him show everything that happened because of the girl and since she seems close to the florist try to ask if she can not give the wedding package to them and keep the price the same it would be for any other event besides a wedding.

[theender_ends]

She didn’t “change” she stopped because she was going to get in trouble

[SUPR_Enshine]

Something so small- bullying and harassment isn’t “small”

[stevealexander]

Wait till their marriage starts falling apart, the bully wife will turn on him

[dailyRddit]

NTA. He is selfish, he just cared about his own life and neglected OPs feelings. Never forgive or help him, the bullies would never change

[aplaszc]

I love how it's OP's "refusal" to get over their trauma destroying the family instead of the brother being a pos bringing that girl as his gf/fiancé

[VirginiaSunrise]

Something so small???? What is wrong with your parents and brother? NTA

[sh]

Why cant brothers be loyal to their families

[Dimsrose]

Sometimes I'll listen to these while getting ready for bed or for the day. So putting on moisturizer or makeup, And the reaction I have is so visceral, I have to stop what i'm doing, and like, take a lap

[MH_Prof]

It’s just flowers. Let them go to another florist. They had a lot of nerve asking.