Something that this short misses is that Didoing very often follows on from denial. They almost always start with "you *don't* get followed around Macys" and when this becomes untenable they move to "it's not so bad". The central connecting thread being that they don't care.
pavarottiaardvark
The simultaneous "don't you have bigger problems?" while "these things aren't real" is shockingly accurate.
Peronioz
Funny thing about trigger warnings: they're not even new.
"All in the Family" aired in the 1970s with a wall of text warning the viewer that it was a sitcom about racism. We used to call those disclaimers.
howlandcrowe
Y'know, I remember back in 2014, when I had brain worms, I was all very 'trigger warnings are dumb, blehhhh'. But when I wrote fiction with potentially triggering stuff in it, I'd include "this work contains [X, Y, Z]. Viewer discretion is advised". Y'know, because I saw it on TV, and was a teenager, so just copied that.
Nobody, even in those circles, ever complained that I did it. It's just a trained response to certain words. It's why we switched over to content warnings and, even in those circles, the intensity of people complaining about content warnings dropped. Because it didn't have the word trigger in it. Because it's only ever about recognising buzzwords to identify someone as a member of the opposite team.
legateelizabeth
Content warning don't just allow informed decisions, they allow _agency._ Anxiety and panic disorders can feel incredibly arbitrary and random and this adds to the feeling of panic, and anxiety makes you super-vigilant for what is happening and why, which feeds into the panic. It's called a panic attack because it feels like something _outside_ of you is _attacking_ you. Something you have no control over.
Content warnings give the control back by allowing the person to have agency over the feelings that are about to be subjected to. It helps disable the outside trigger and gives it back to the person. Making the decision to open yourself to potentially unpleasant feelings gives the person CONTROL. The fact that the emotions are now happening _with your permission_ takes away so much of the feeling of random chaos.
jamietodd
DID YOU GET THE MISSION IMPOSSIBLE THREE GUY TOO???? I GOT THAT!!!
PhilosophyTube
Maybe because I didn't watch music videos, and have heard that song maybe twice, I... really prefer "The Tolerable Level of Permanent Unhappiness." It's obviously not verbable, but saying "people with power are only willing to bend enough that your level of suffering is permanently tolerable and no more" matches how sadistic it is
Dysiode
"I do have power over you, you should let me have it" I never had words for how people of privilege really think until now.
That really hit me deep in my core that i remembered my teen years intensely again.
luis
There's a phrase I've been turning over in my head for a while now.
"Self-justifying power."
The idea, the perception, that power justifies itself and its use. If you have power, you can do what you want with it because you have power. It doesn't matter what you did to get that power, just that you have it. Anyone attempting to take your power away is wrong to do so, and should be resisted by any means necessary. If someone else has power over you, all this applies to them, and your place--your duty--is to back them to the hilt.
At this point I'm pretty sure this is how an awful lot of people believe the world functions, even if they can't summarize it in as many words, even if they insist otherwise. They'd probably just chalk it up to "common sense."
devinfaux
"It's not life and death"
I'm nearing 50 with a heart condition. A panic attack CAN literally kill me. Panic attacks cause physical stress on the body, it isn't just a lil cry session or everyday common stress. I have a phobia that is unlikely to be triggered by media, and unlike media, I generally know when I'm going into a situation that will trigger my phobia, before I go into it. Can't imagine how inconvenienced someone is by a 2 second little blurb, when the alternative can be substantial physical harm to the human having the panic attack.
infinitivez
Content warnings should be treated like ingredient lists - to inform people with allergies that what they're about to consume may have the capacity to harm them. Unfortunately, there are still people who also don't treat allergies seriously, and sometimes that _is_ a matter of life and death
octochan
"That's just the way the world works"
"You'll get used to it"
"There's nothing anyone can do about it"
"It's not so bad"
Marconius
It makes a ton of sense when you realize that same folks who would brush off microaggressions as being "not so bad" will also complain endlessly about stuff like pronouns in a video game or seeing a LGBTQ romance for 5 seconds in a movie.
SymbiSpidey
This reminds me of all the times I had to read "We give them an inch and they take a mile" from some right winger when it comes to protections of LGBTQ+ individuals or people of color... as if *almost* being equal is good enough? As if hearing "at least you're not openly being lynched in the streets anymore" somehow makes things better...
genitur
I've found the "It's not life or death" crowd are fine if it happens to other people.
If it happens to them...they suddenly realize how awful it is and you see a tearful press conference.
MrSubsound
As an autistic person, it was surprising to see the point at 3:26, because my experience in society is that the vast majority people really do believe that "it's ok for others to suffer for the convenience of the normals".
cjmatthews
Yes and the threshold of 'so bad' is for conservatives is 'doesn't center me (or my idea of hierarchy)' and that's why it's so justified in their minds to be a reactionary but not justified in their minds to be considerate to marginalized groups. It's 'so bad' when anyone climbs out of 'their place' but never 'so bad' for someone to be put back 'into place.'
SilverBellsAbove
Seems like the most straightforward response is to echo their words right back at them - "content warnings? They're not so bad. Living in a world where people are free to marry whomever they want? That's not so bad."
davidzachmeyer
"But I don't want to show empathy. That would be allowing others to have power over ME." - People who only view relationships as hierarchical.
andrewklang
"The tolerable level of permanent unhappiness" is a better phrase than didoing because the former doesn't require an explanation or a primer.
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