NEVER do this on your first date! Adam Lane Smith | Attachment Specialist

There are things you should NEVER do on your first date. Mistakes you must avoid if you want to end up happy in a relationship. If you're having a first date, watching this video guide from Adam Lane Smith and make sure you NEVER do this key thing. Because this one mistake can take you from first date to no date.

Most people can get through a first date okay. Except for this one mistake that so many people make, and they don't even realize it. You should NEVER do this on a first date. But Attachment Specialist Adam Lane Smith has seen so many people, even experienced daters, do this one thing wrong. It ruins their chances of a second date and makes the first date miserable in the process. If you're looking forward to a date with a new person, make sure you watch this video first so you know what never to do.

This video is part of an ongoing series about attachment.

There is one thing you should never do on a first date. And no, it's not what you're thinking. This one mistake costs people on first dates their chances at a second date. And it makes first dates miserable. If you want to have a great first date that leaves you and your date feeling happy you met, watch this video guide from Adam Lane Smith and avoid the worst dating mistake.

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[turbulentadventurer]

You are the first person to address this I always thought it was just me. I meet someone they seem really nice and kind. A few weeks pass and they start love bombing you. I actually think I've met someone I can really focus on. A few months pass and all of a sudden it's as if your looking at someone you don't know. Honestly, this type of behavior has been happening to me for 20 yrs. Why can't people or the guys I meet just be who they are? It never works out I start falling for the person I meet and the difference can be unbelievable. I hate when someone lies to me and to me this has to be one of the worst lies.

[Dland_]

Most people will open up more if you are also being genuine. If they are sitting there eating half a salad, you can ask them questions about it politely and try to get them to be more comfortable. I did this once and my date dropped the facade pretty quickly and we laughed

[angelus_solus]

"Most of us don't think we're interesting or worth dating." I actually laughed at the irony of you saying that, because those very thoughts have went through my mind in recent years. Looking at who I am, if I was fake anywhere, I could see myself tempted to be fake in my opinions. Thing is, it's frightening to think about the possibility of my opinions not lining up with hers and a first date being all I ever get. (Edit: Especially since hot button opinions are so polarising. It's to the point that holding conservative or liberal opinions, for example, can cause someone to lose interest in you no matter how good of a person you are and how well you fit everywhere else.) Yeah, I know. No one has the same opinions and altering your opinions to match those of someone else is a disaster waiting to happen, which is why I wouldn't, but the uncertainty factor creates all kinds of anxiety. Especially for someone who would hardly get any dating opportunities to begin with, even if they lived in a large town or city.

[MissingTheMark]

Tangentially related to your initial phrasing: I remember seeing someone answer the question "what's the worst thing a woman can do on the first date to guarantee the relationship has no future?" with "murder-suicide". There are few guarantees in this life, but I think that would do it every time. :)

[ivro]

I want to state my case: i have a girlfriend and my relationship with her started as friends. Really good friends. Best of friends. :) I still believe she's as close to a soulmate as you can get if you belive in this kind of stuff. I adored her from the first minute i met her and don't think this has a fairytype perfect boy girl reletionship. We had our troubles and i found myself so often thinking to myself, is this right? Is this good for her? Is this good for me?
But i always knew from the start and along the way she is the one i want to spend my time with. Every second. She is everything in need and more and i love her. I never want to be with another person.
What i want to say is you can still find someone in the "real world", which whom you can be not only a lover or some sort of, but also a great friend, which relationship is built on trust and having things in common. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't. In Austria there is a saying: "Jeder Topf findet seinen Deckel", which means, every pot finds it lid. Look out for the one you can be yourself and you know, with whom you want to spend your life with.
Thanks, great video and keep at it!