Demi Lovato Carefully Discusses Song '29'

Graeme O'Neil takes a look at what Demi Lovato has said about the song "29", off her new album "Holy Fvck", as many speculate it's about her ex Wilmer Valderrama.

[haley]

No matter what the situation was she was still a minor and I don’t care how much she pursued him. He shouldn’t have been able to be persuaded by a minor. And a lot of people that have been groomed don’t realize that’s what it was and when you’re being groomed the person tends to always be there for you making think you’ll never find anyone else like them like he did

[JC-unome]

How could a child pursue an adult? The people in the comment section are ridiculous. Wilmer should have left that child alone. He suppose to know better.

[T_Cup]

Why do so many people refuse to hold a groomer accountable for grooming a child? It’s understandable why that child ended up as the sole defender of that relationship up until a certain age. They’re literally not old or mature enough to know better, that’s why they’re able to be groomed and the groomer has no grounds to defend it. They can’t blame the child they groomed, or deny that it was a child they groomed, or say they didn’t engage in an inappropriate relationship with a child. But because they say nothing, when that child becomes an adult and denounces everything they went through – because they finally get why it’s inappropriate – they somehow get blamed for being groomed and told they should’ve known better about a situation at an age they literally couldn’t have known better in. And the groomer takes no responsibility. To make it worse, none of the adults in Demi’s life stepped up either (her mother was 58 at the time), which obviously made it even harder for Demi to understand adult/child boundaries. What kind of bs is this?

[janesays]

Mandy Moore dated Wilmer Valderrama when she was 15-17 and he was 19-21. I remember that there were cute articles about what a supportive boyfriend he was, there was an episode of MTV Diary (a show that followed a celebrity each episode for a week in their life) and there was even a whole scene dedicated to showing that her parents approved of him. I always found it quite creepy, that someone in their college years (in age) would want to date a high schooler. There was just something off.

Then came his relationship with Lindsay when she was 17 and he was 24.

When I heard he was dating a 17 year old Demi Lovato and Wilmer was 29…there’s just no denying that he’s an ephebophile, and it’s never been okay.

I’m sure there have been others too, and I’m glad that Demi is calling him out, and also making a clear stance for everyone who has been in a relationship with an imbalance of power, grooming, and other inappropriate actions that only come to light when your brain is developed enough to see things clearly for what they were and are.

[skyesolo]

The comments defending an almost 30yr old man bc a 17yo “pursued” him is insane. Wanna blame the child in the situation instead of the adult, get a grip. He dated many more young girls at his grown ass age. There’s a plethora of age appropriate women that would love to be with him and yet he continued to choose barely legal aged girls.

[maryortega]

This is the reason why many victims don’t speakers up Because there are people that will say their attention seekers and call them liars. I just feel really proud of her 😢 for having to finally speak about it knowing how people are going to react different 🥺I’m glad she’s finally in place we’re she can talk about it ❤ we love you Demi you have been through a lot and I’m glad you told us many people don’t speak up and we don’t know so I’m glad you can be this strong to speak about it. ✨

[goldenlily]

His dating record is very telling. She was not the only teen he dated, so there is a trail of his behavior

[dustinbrooks]

When I was 14 I was targeted by a 19 year old and I was the one called ugly names by family instead of being protected this song hits deep

[tatianagranger]

I had a relationship that shouldn’t have happened. I was 19, so it wasn’t illegal, but I haven’t dealt with it. I thought I had but then my daughter played this song and shared her story, and I realized I needed help through this. People who discount the “millennials” or are worried about what will happen when they are in power, should look into these things. These kids-to me they feel like kids- are not running from their pain, they are making sure others know that individual pain can be shared collectively and through that they can share their story for others to know they aren’t alone. Mine happened before the internet and though social media has its own faults, the beauty of sharing experiences and pain together is so brave and they are breaking down the walls and stigma. Demi shared her pain and trauma and it opened the door for others and the more we share our shame, the more we learn how to move the “shame” to pain and then to power. Thank I millennials!!!

[itsmehimsanson]

I felt stuff for somebody who was 27 when I was “17” I never thought it was cool, I though it was daddy issues that I had. Now, I am 28 listening to how this song created dilemmas thinking how wrong the person was for even dating me and how I wouldn’t want this to happen to my child (out of my sight) and protection. I don’t even feel attracted to anybody who isn’t above my age, how come ?

[Slachelle]

At the age of 21 I wouldn’t even give a 17 year old the time of day, they’re literal children basically and he shouldn’t have even thought about her

[leahmarie]

So confused with everyone that keeps saying they perused him as if he wasn't the one that was 29.... They were a teenager he is the wrong completely in the wrong even if it has took them 12 years to realise that

[shannane]

I was 19
He was 40

I feel groomed. I was a damn teenager.

[shannont]

Doesn’t matter if she pursued him. She was a teenager and he was a full grown adult. He should’ve been the one to stop it and explain why.

[princesspanikk]

My fiancé was in a relationship at 18 with a 29 year old woman. Makes me sick thinking what was going through her head

[ShallowApple]

By her not naming him she stops giving HIM the power it’s her story her power he’s just a footnote and will only ever be a footnote

[yubeda-kk-sr]

if a 24 year old teacher was dating his high school student after she pursued him he'd be behind bars

[kizzy]

This is so true.
I was seriously pursued by a 30 Yr old guy when I was 15. I thought he was cute and charming at the time, but now so glad I didn't go out with him. I'm in my 30s now and i know how messed up that was!

[zlatonicbuzz]

To reveal the motivation of her song 29, dude it's in lyrics listen to it it's a masterpiece and she revealed the motivation bye letting the whole world listen to it... Case closed 🔐

[ania]

A 29 can’t be persued by a 17-year old, y’all just love to victim blame women