The Push and Pull of BPD Patients | JOHN GUNDERSON

John Gunderson, a major force in the BPD world and the person who originally defined the diagnosis, discusses Borderline Personality Disorder from the viewpoint of a researcher and clinician.

[AllSven]

So sad he’s gone. A true pioneer and helper of us BPD people. Bless. ❤️

[christinecamley]

Dr. Gunderson is so honest. What an amazing human being. He helped so many people. His honesty is touching and vulnerable.

[adelehammond]

he seems like such a kind man who wanted to help others but was also willing to listen to others
he seems he saw bpd as it is not as those from the outside see it

[cwynn]

I too liked having BPD clients, in large part because whatever reaction I am getting is usually honest, it relates to something they are either trying to say or to cope with. And it's mostly straightforward because the feelings are intense. I just prefer that to all the guesswork with other folks, for example over meds, or are they happy with housing, work, etc. A person with BPD very often gonna say "this place is a shithole" the earliest moment I need to know of it.

A big difference between urban providers and rural ones. I am rural, and in some respects you will know the person long term, even if they see someone else. You will run into folks in a small community. I got a few who I will probably have forever. Some who will leave 10 paragraphs on my Facebook once in awhile, some who leave phone messages, even one who uses my mailing address for court papers when he gets jailed, because his housing is usually gone too. In a small community, you end up doing small things because others in the community are tapped too. We need a more constant base of people willing to long-haul with good humor.

[plushhmusic]

Thankyou for this channel I’ve been so educated on my bpd thankyouu

[TheDavveponken]

Poor health "professionals". Learning to deal with adverse personalities is a must in most professions. That mental health professionals can't do this, or are unwilling to through the motion of that interaction so they can learn is astonishing, especially as dealing with people with less than optimal mental health is their expertise.

[EvEAbYss]

It’s not about taking impersonally. I used to really struggle with that and it’s taken almost 10 years but it’s not about personal the feeling attacked or it wasn’t for me and isn’t for me because I still do get this feelings. I just have learned how to handle them I guess you could say? it’s the anger comes out because terrified and for me my defense is anger so I’m not meaning to be mean but once I lose control and I am at a certain level of fear auto pilot with my anger and anger and I will have half of me saying don’t do that ! don’t say that ! Or whatever and the other half that is anger, is just in control… anxim it’s hostage then.
And I just wanna share that because borderlines do get a very bad reputation. I don’t wanna hurt anybody, it makes me more upset the more I hurt someone with my words and the fact that I can’t stop myself, once I get to that level of upset… So please people don’t judge us so harshly we’re not all viciously angry and violent. Most of us are quite the opposite. I hide behind a guys rage because it was safer for the little kid that is still alive in me and that is who I am. I am a child I never fully grew. I feel but, I don’t hurt anyone and I don’t aim to feel hurt. I don’t try to take me personally, but you were so sensitive hypersensitive to everything and when you miss read emotions from others is very hard not to react unless you practice for years and years and years - or that’s what I had to do, and I had to have the right medical / professional help who is ALSO my friend and mentor. I cannot stress enough, my progress as a borderline would have never gone as quickly and it would not be maintained right now as well and it’s 90 something percent better than it used to be if it were not for my Doctor Who also is my friend I can reach him 24 hours a day he’s like another father to me. He is a friend I think that is crucial for the healing and the treatment of certain types of borderline, I know that there are not just one type and I hope that everyone reading this knows that but if you don’t know you do Dr. Fox talk about that and he’s brilliant too so please look him up. Anyone can say anything about us but borderline is very complex obviously and I really wish that more people wouldstop making us seem like we’re just violent, narcissistic, sociopathic monsters. Maybe some ppl - but each case is different and the magnitude at which I feel others emotions in my own, that alone would not allow me to ever willingly or desiring me hurt a person.

all it is is fear coming out of anger because the anger protects us and keeps the danger away.. but I am learning, slowly.
be blessed !

[aubreyaragon]

Randi Kreger author of Stop Walking On Eggshells book says Bpd people are like the Godfather movie they pull you in and push you out, pull you in, push you out as a borderline myself he's described accurately. I'm not offended.